To ask how old you were when you had 1st Baby?

[Starlive23]

My MIL is firmly of the belief that I'm an 'old' mum (her words, not mine!) As I was 34 when I first became a mother.

I thought I was probably about average, or at least I seem to be for my group of friends.

MIL was 24 so yes I can understand that I'm a full 10 years older, but not quite as decrepit as she has made out. This charming remark was followed by the suggestion that my eggs will soon be dried up so if I want more I need to do it this year (I'm 35). Am I being naïve or is she old fashioned in her views?

29 with DC1 but only just as he was born 2 days after my birthday. 32 with DC2.

I'm nearly 34 now and would love to try for DC3 next year but I think DH would rather not 😬

I was 21 when I had DC1.

Then I was 23 when I had DC2, 25 when I had DC3 and 28 when I had DC4.

36 with my first and ttc #2 now at 39 (40 in November). If this works out we’re thinking of trying for #3 after that. Loads of my friends only started having babies in their 30s. There seems to be a resurgence of younger mothers in the city where I am now, with people preferring to get married and start a family early.

^ that makes me feel old...but I’m still glad we waited and did it this way around.

It’s awkward isn’t it - my first thought was that in 2 years I’ll have to hope it happens quickly because I’ll be getting too old. Then after a while I thought 2 years isn’t really that big a gap and I feel like I’d be taking special time away from my daughter by having another so soon. Now I’ve calculated exactly when we’d need to conceive to have enough of a gap but not feel ‘too old’.....We have now agreed to just wait and see! People think I’m mad for even discussing it at only 4 months since DD was born 😂

My first was at 20, im pregnant with my second at 25. I would not have a baby after 30, for me that is too old.

32.5 with first, 2 months after 35th with second, would love a 3rd but it’s unlikely!

I was about average with my maternity leave pals and my peers all had children around the same time with the exception of 1 friend (my closest friends were 30/31/33/34/36 on their firsts). All in all I’d say 30-34 is average for a first time mum who has been to uni etc.

37

One loss when I was 24 ( different partner).

If biology allows for a child and the health risks aren’t major, why are people classifying over 30 to be too old ? Is it the age difference with their child ? I’m confused

22 with my first
26 with my second
33 with my third

33 with 1st
36 with 2nd
38 with 3rd
41 with 4th

I didn’t feel old with my first 2 or maybe 3...a little old with no.4 but I know women who have had their 1st in their mid-late 40s...

Most people I know had their 1st in their 30s...

kindnesscrusader
23. I had my fourth at 32 and it was so much harder physically in my 30s than my 20s.
Absolutely this ^

Ha! I was 41 when my DD came along. Took a long time to fall pregnant and then lost 3 so it wasn't by choice. Depressing being referred to as a geriatric mother on my maternity notes though.

I'll be 34.

DC1 30yrs & DC2 33yrs- the youngest Mum by 5ish years at the baby groups x

Also , I had 2 boys , my 3rd was a girl , ... she's much harder than my boys ever were

26 and then 30

Now can you tel that it’s age rather than the toll of being pregnant for a 4th time? I would say going through pregnancy for 4th time in 30’s would have a different impact to going through pregnancy for the 1st time.

23 when I had DS. No plans for more. But that being said it's got nothing to do with anyone else how old you are.

35 but did start trying at 32.

Out of all my close friends from university only one of us (out of 8) had a child in their 20s, the rest of us all had our first in our 30s.

My siblings both had their first child in their 30s.

I consider 20s young to be having a child!

First at 37 second at 40

I was 33 and one of the youngest in my NCT group of 8. All bar one and myself went on to have more children (and that was by choice for both of us). I don't think you're too old at all xx

Meant to say that I was one of the first of my University friends (but now most of them have children. One had her first at 40) x

From my close friends, there were four who had their babies in their twenties, and the youngest was 27. The rest were all 29.

Average in my social circle is probably around 31. Most of us are done now and we are turning 40. I had mine at 30 and 34.

I don’t know if it’s relevant, but all are degree educated, often to Masters level. Most of us met our partners after uni and lived together/married a few years before having children. Easily adds up to early 30’s.

33 with 1st & 35 with 2nd