Dp lack of availability next two months

[Spanglyprincess1]

I'm in a grump, prob as exhausted and just missed ds swimming lesson as i missed up the time!, so prob am being a bit unreasonable
Dp is away for 10 days holiday, at a hobby related thing with his dad, not child friendly at all so me and 10mth old ds are at home. I've had to take some leave to cover his normal childcare, which is fine.
I've just realised, not sure how I missed it but, he's working away every single weekend Friday to Monday(self employed) plus weekdays working as normal for the rest of the month. He has one weekend free in July where we have his other 3 dc (my dsc) then he's working away evry weekend Friday to Monday in July plus a full week away 'working' - put in commas as two days is working rest is events and beer.
I'm exhausted. I know it's work but it means I am literally am either working (I work ft) or looking after ds on my own for 2 months! I know single parents do this all the time and hats off to them, but I'm dreading it and it feels unfair.
I know I have to suck it up, but I am feeling slightly hard done by

If he can't afford his living costs he can't afford his 10-day solo holiday.

If he can’t afford his half of the bills then he needs to rethink his job situation. Can you put together a list (or spreadsheet!) showing all of the household expenditure and tell him he needs to be contributing half of the costs - and outright ask him what his plan for doing so? You’ve been funding his self-indulgent choices so far but that can’t continue indefinitely.

know it isn't okay. I really do. In rl though I ahve my family etc d saying he does more than some dad's too, eg my own dad but that was on the 80's, and to try and make it work for ds.

My DH did way more than yours does back in the eighties. Nothing to do with the era. More to do with the attitude.

And you having his children so much? How much is he there when they stay?

He is royally taking you for a ride.

He's agreed to have baby for a long weekend before the end of the year provided he's weaned otherwise it will be next year. Time will tell again.

Wow what a treat Seriously?

You have posted in the last few months :

You paid for the house - he does nothing - no DIY or cleaning but may do washing.
He does a job which is a hobby (so he doesn't work) and earns less than minimum wage.
He spent £150 on books but couldn't afford to paint his DC's (your step DC's) room nor could he afford to pay half for baby swimming lessons, nor could he afford to buy his DC clothes.xmas etc for baby.
He wouldn't tend to baby as he was tired and went and slept on the sofa.
He uses a fetish site adding new people to use their images for self gratification (presume this means wanking).
He's a habitual liar.
He contributes a minimal amount and your job pays for pretty much everything else, ie he's a cocklodger.
He spends little to no time caring for his new DS even though it was him who wanted you to have a baby.
Even though you have a real job, he refuses to do any night feeds, even on days he's not working (read doing his hobby)

OP, over the past few months you have written about all of the above and a whole lot more. Pretty much all the responses to your threads have advised you to dump him so what more are you expecting from yet another thread? No-one on here can change him and if you can't then why are you still with him?

I forgot about some of that stuff as baby is so all time consuming. Yeah pretty shitty.

Exceedingly shitty. So what's next? Put up with it and be back here for another moan in a couple of weeks or give him an ultimatum that things must change drastically or he's out? Or kick him out now because you know any change he made won't last?

Instead of being responsible for and paying for five children (your DS, three SDC and your DP) you will only have to look after one, your son.

Change the locks (it's your house and you're not married), pack up his stuff and deliver to his parents' house.

Apply to CMS on the off-chance there's anything to be had.

Then get on with your life. Free of the dead weight.

Read first three pages and got pissed off.

OP, why did he split with his ex?

Have you considered that if you split with him you can then have childfree time 40% of the time. Fairs fair.