To completely object to

[WithAllIntenseAndPurposes]

Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

My evening reception will serve bacon and sausage rolls (or potato scone for the veggies) along with the wedding cake. This is the norm in Scotland. A reception is a party, you shouldn't expect a meal - it's a snack.

The day guests will have had a 3 course meal so a large buffet seems a waste. I'd expect evening guests to have had dinner before they arrive.

You sound so ungrateful and honestly just quite a horrible person OP.

Why didn't you just take yourself off for half an hour and get a bar snack if you were that hungry ?
It's was their wedding to have as they wished, don't spoil it by whinging

No @Moralitym1n1 it was at a very prestigious hotel

I thought you were going to say it was a beach wedding or something.

Clearly they couldn't afford the hotel's food prices.

I'm actually surprised a prestigious hotel served that.

Why the fuck did you even go? From your posts you really don't like the B&G at all. So why 'spend a fortune' and go to their wedding, just to bad mouth it?

I'm sorry to be harsh but I often think there's a huge irony in these sorts of complaints.

People complaining that hosts have not done things 'properly' usually do so from what they think is a perch of superiority (of class, manners, taste or general behaviour).

Even where the hosts have fallen short of the expected norms, what the complainers fail to realise is that being an ungracious guest (who, let's not forget, in reality has no idea about their host's means or situation) is the one of the most classless, rude and ungrateful thing one can be.

Sorry, OP, but I don't think this reflects well on you at all. Far better to go along to these things with an open spirit of just enjoying the celebration and being grateful for anything you're offered. I honestly think it will make you happier!

@Chickenwing and you sound like a selfish host to me. The clue is in the name 'evening do' so it doesn't really matter whether the day guests are full.

WithAllINTENTSAndPurposes there, fixed your username.
Why isn't your close cousin from the same culture as you?
Nobody forced you to attend. It's an evening piss up not a wedding reception. I'm really not surprised that you weren't invited to the whole day. The Bride and Groom probably thought you'd whinge and complain whatever you were offered.

Don't really agree with some comments; I don't know if it differs in England, but here in NI/Ireland, that would be considered a very poor show, in fact showing yourself up. Even at the most basic evening receptions, there's usually a buffet with a range of savoury and sweet items. They also shouldve considered people coming from work (unless it was sat/sun).

To the person who suggested a bar snack- there was nothing available food wise from this hotel and it was in the middle of nowhere

@Absolutepowercorrupts yes my user name is meant to be ironic but well done there

The fundamental problem here is the timing of weddings. I really don’t understand why people do the ceremony in the early afternoon then a meal late afternoon then you create this problem of what to do in the evening. It would be much more sensible to have the ceremony late afternoon and then a meal for everyone followed by dancing etc. If you want to make the day longer then have a pre-ceremony reception to greet people. But what it comes down to is that the late afternoon ‘wedding breakfast’ is the root of the problem here.

And are you really so boneheaded that you can't see how family can be from different cultures? Jesus Christ have a word with yourself

We had pork naps with chips, side salad and cheese toasties with various fillings for our wedding. There was also quiche, beetroot, cakes and sweets. We served that at about 8:30 (evening do started at 7:30) then served sausage and bacon butties with hash browns at midnight.

has no idea about their host's means

They chose a prestigious hotel.

They chose it in spite of the fact that they apparently couldn't (or wouldn't) afford to provide some food options other than a hotdog to their evening guests. Their priorities are clear. Don't be surprised people notice and comment on their priorities.

Fur coat and no knickers comes to mind.

That was after our 3 course meal (soup or melon and ham, chicken with 4 different veggies and 3 types of spud, lashings of gravy, giant profiteroles with chocolate and toffee dipping sauces)
Plus we had a sweet table and cupcakes everywhere (I’m a massive hobby baker as is most of my family) the food was none stop. And if anyone was still hungry they were told to order food and put it on our tab.

Also was there a veggie alternative? What about non meat eaters?

Well @Moralitym1n1 according to some people guests should incur expensive even making sure they even stop and buy their own food after being at work all day basically move heaven and earth to attend and receive zero hospitality in return. It's very bizzare

No @Moralitym1n1

The prestigious hotel, didnt serve any food?

That's total bollocks. The hotel will have other guests and will provide food.

We had pork naps with chips, side salad and cheese toasties with various fillings for our wedding. There was also quiche, beetroot, cakes and sweets.

I.e. you're normal.

Not that you could just go to the bar and purchase. There was a restaurant where starters were upwards of 9 pounds

But yeah of course...bollocks

Mortality - no. I just like my food. We both do. Food is a huge deal to us.

A very prestigious hotel that doesn't sell any kind of snack ? I'm curious to know where this very prestigious hotel is

Even if the hotel did serve food, guests at your party/event shouldn't have to go and order themselves food independently; you should be embarrassed about it if they do.

Also, so they would've left a vegetarian totally unfed as well. They're shit hosts.

Morality - no. I just like my food. We both do. Food is a huge deal to us.

What I was saying is that what you described is normal for any evening reception (or party for that matter) I've ever been to.