To completely object to

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Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

(With the caveat that I haven't been to a wedding reception or large party in England).

I've been to many in England and none have offered that

I get you OP, and I don't like this current thing of two tiers of guests... seems like the evening guests are invited to (a) make the evening party bigger and livelier, and (b) so they get additional gifts without the expense of providing a meal. I may be old but I remember the days when you were either invited to a wedding or you weren't.

Also was there a veggie alternative? What about non meat eaters?

No @Moralitym1n1**

@Honeyroar I don't think there was a veggie alternative either

So you've gone from 'I don't think' there was a veggie alternative to 'No there wasn't'?

For all you know with such a small amount of evening guests, the veggies could have been provided for.

Worra there wasn't stop trying to be deliberately objectionable

so what will you say to the bride today op? or in future?
will you bitch amongst the family to, or just be anonymous?

There was a tray of sausage rolls and two small bowls of ketchup

But yeah they could have hidden them to make you happy Worra

I think evening food is platters of sandwiches, cocktail sausages & cake.

The mistake they made was inviting ye too early, invitation should have been for after 7.

What a strange comment...I won't say anything unless she directly asks my opinion

I am asking for opinions on an Internet forum....people don't usually run them past the people involved first

I would however be frank if asked

Worra there wasn't stop trying to be deliberately objectionable

Then why don't you say what you mean the first time?

Were there any vegetarian guests there who went hungry?

'I am asking for opinions' - and then arguing with anyone who disagrees with you

I think evening invites are really rude, and probably wouldn’t have gone in your place op, it does sound very miserly, was cake offered?

I really don't know why the OP is getting such a hard time.

Every single wedding I have been to has had something more than a solitary sausage sandwich for the evening guests.Either the traditional full buffet of chicken goujons, sausage rolls and crisps, or salads, bread, hog roasts, burgers. The only time I've ever seen bacon rolls or sausages on a roll is as an "end of the evening, soak up the alcohol" midnight extra. Not as the sole offering for evening guests.

OP is not being unreasonable to have expected more.

Why the heck should you go buy yourself a snack at the bar? It's an event you have been invited to, it should provide. No it's not the norm, it's just become a rude English way of doing things in recent years. I have yet to go to an Asian, Irish, Greek or East European wedding where the evening guests (if invited because those tend to rightly include their guests all day) were not fed a proper buffet type. If you're now expected to go buy your own snack, you might as well stick a Bring your own bottle and food on the invite while you're at it.

My evening reception will serve bacon and sausage rolls (or potato scone for the veggies) along with the wedding cake. This is the norm in Scotland. A reception is a party, you shouldn't expect a meal - it's a snack.

This is what I'm used to, also Scotland - the past few evening dos I've been to have been either a bacon roll, a sausage roll (square, obviously) or a chip roll. They always seem to go down really well and are more filling than a fiddly buffet.

So you're too good for a sausage cob, buy you're not quite posh enough to pay £9 for a starter? Seems like you only expect luxury when it's at someone else's expense. And as for 'moving heaven and earth' to get there, I'll say it again- YOU DID NOT HAVE TO ATTEND.

I think evening only invites are fine for work colleagues or members of a hobby group or something who live locally and wouldn't otherwise expect an invite. Family and friends should get a full invite. I have usually seen more on offer than a sausage bap for evening guests. The day time guests are usually starving by then anyway.

I'm Scottish. I don't recognise the "bacon roll" as the only option for evening guests. And definitely not a chip roll.

Mortality - it’s a huge deal to us. We are English and every wedding we’ve ever been to, we ended up hungry because the couple couldn’t be bothered to serve enough food for everyone. There’s always too much time between food too (usually a wedding ceremony at 11:30/12:30 canapés after photographs which take at least an hour and half, 5 canapés per person. Then the meal served at like 4:30, evening buffet put out at around 9:00 with not enough food...) it’s horrid and we usually end a wedding going to maccies!
We just wanted to make sure there was always food!

Having who they wanted there on a limited budget perhaps.

Who said I paid nine pounds for a starter? Can you read pinkyyy or are you just being deliberately goady?

Totally agree. I went to one recently from 6pm and got a hot dog in plain roll. Not even any sauce or onions!

I completely agree with @DonkeyHohtay. When we got married 27 years ago we had our reception in a lovely village hall. DM and her sisters did the evening buffet - everything you could think of - vol-au-vents, many different salads, meats, cheeses and many puddings. All the drinks were free all night.

I've been to a couple of shocking evening do's, so bad that I've erased them from my memory!

Do not be Frank if she asks you, this was their special day don't tarnish it, that would be really spiteful of you
Have some manners

@PhillisPearce why would she ask? That's my point really