To completely object to

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Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

I'd be chuffed with a sausage sandwich. Scrumptious. Remember not everyone can afford to lay on an outrageously expensive wedding, just be thankful you're invited really. Also, I haven't been to a wedding in donkeys years - when you get older you will find you go to more funerals than weddings :(

Party = Party food. or a token gesture .

You calculated it wrong, and that made you so mad you came onto MN to vent ….

Don't worry... Everything will be ok.

I totally agree that you need to have something at the evening do and thats exactly what the OP got.

Oh and OP - The bride and groom have every reason to be selfish on their wedding day and do exactly what they want because they are paying and its their bloody day!!

If you didnt like it you could of not paid £9 a drink and had an OJ which would of meant you wouldnt need to have more food to soak it up and you could of left early - I imagine you wouldn't have been missed - You don't seem the 'like and should of the party' kind of person.

Dont expect your letterbox to be flooding with invites in the future and for goodness sake if you do, please be kind and decline them.

And just went you thought the bar couldn't be set any lower, with 'could of' and 'it's their day' you get 'like and should of the party'. 😂😂😂

@JessieTalamasca - Typo!! Life and Soul of the party - is that better? and 'Could have instead of 'of - It is 'their' day?

I didn't realise MN had to be exactly punctuated and typed correctly!!

Oh it does @JessieTalamasca .. if you have an opposing view, make damn sure you don't make any typos while expressing it or you're throwing yourself into the famous MN nest of vipers (which isn't all of us I hasten to add).

I'm surprised my typo-riddled post from before hasn't been jumped on...wasn't that interesting tho tbf. .. I was just hammering it out between clients. Don't usually bother but got irked by the subject matter last night and now I keep having to read further posts.

Fortunately there are lots of us who still think a wedding is special even if the bride and groom can't afford to lay on a day of sumptuous feasting and would feel happy to attend just to celebrate their union with them

Ooops sorry @hellhavenofury not @JessieTalamasca ...

However if I go to the party and dont like the food or dont think it's enough. I really could care less.

I go to the party to celebrate the wedding/birthday or whatever no because I fancy a meal out.

Really? The invitation was for 6pm. I would expect to there to be enough food. There are numerous threads on MN where people have complained about there bot being enough food at a wedding, whether it was a day or evening invitation. The majority of replies always agree that this is unacceptable. I assume it is the OP's tone which is bringing out the perverse replies on this thread.

I’m getting married next year and we are considering our evening food now, we are probably going to go for a bacon sandwich or cheese, we will have a free bar though and the evening guests won’t be arriving till 7/7.30 so I’d expect them to have had dinner before they come!

@whodidapoopoointhebath What about the vegans? And the people that don't eat pork for religious reasons? And the lactose intolerant? And those eat can't eat gluten? Please think of the allergens! :(

@Eliza9919

There will be options for specific dietary requirements, it’s a year away so I don’t know who has them yet...

I was taking the piss, this was all I got when I posted asking for opinions on what to serve at my wedding (bbq). Still deciding on the evening food!

I did work that out eventually, sorry long day!!!! BBQ would be lovely!!! Yum

Of course you try and make allowances but if people are that fussy then you eat before you go!!!

@MrsDx who are you calling a dick?

I do think the OP is being kind of stroppy, but it's probably because of ridiculous posts like this one.

I can't believe you went to work all day, then changed in the toilets at work (wtf??) to be banging on the doors at 6pm, when you are invited to an evening Reception.

What is WTF about changing in the toilets at work? I did that very thing for an evening wedding. And I doubt the OP was "banging on the doors" at 6, but if she was, she had arrived when the invitation to this particular evening reception said to.

Exactly it can't fail to wind you up when people just keep making plain goady comments

Op this wedding sounds like a lesson in managing expectations. Assuming you have known your cousin most of your life, it shouldn't have come as a suprise to you the difference in standards of hospitality. You had a few choices tbh, politely decline invite and save your petrol and present money, ask about the food situation for evening guests or made sure you had a decent lunch so even a sausage sandwich would have been extra. Seems like you went, just to find something to complain about...those are the worst type of people imo especially if they are family. Will you start another thread when you get married about how it is done where you are from?!?!

Am I the only one who's been to evening receptions where there's been a HUGE buffet and half of it has been left? I've been to three. Wedding one, work colleague, all got left until about 1 am when people were pissed and kids were knackered and they all got up to dip hardened naan bread into cold curry.

Wedding 2-most went untouched, not many evening guests and some of them must have thought the wedding would be like the subject one here, and had already eaten. Lots of lovely food wasted-I actually ate more than I could comfortably because I felt sorry for them!

Wedding 3-cold buffet, pork pies, sandwiches etc. Maybe slightly less than half left over. It's hard to judge-I guess it all depends on how filling the wedding breakfast is for the day guests, and what people have eaten beforehand for eve ones.. I've also been to an evening do when the invitation specified 'no buffet!' which was fine I thought, you know then to eat beforehand and/or take something with you. Wasting food really annoys me. I go on plenty a night out not involving food so I eat beforehand, I did the same at that wedding.