To completely object to

[WithAllIntenseAndPurposes]

Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

WithAllIntenseAndPurposes what culture are you?

Because most people understand that guests have been invited to celebrate with the bride and groom.

I would hate to be part of a culture where people only turn up at events to be fed

A wedding reception is a party, wedding or no wedding, of course its rude to have a party and not feeed your guests, so of course its normal to have an expectation to be fed! I have never been to a wedding reception where there hasn't been food, its usually a buffet which is great but rolls on sausage and bacon seem quite common now to. Was at one which had a burger van outside and all the rolls were free, people could pay for chips if they wanted.

People don't only turn up to be fed what a ridiculous comment

But when you are at a party in the evening when you would usually be having a meal it's good etiquette to ensure your guests aren't going hungry. If you don't like people enough to do so don't have an evening reception

It's only in about the past ten years that I have seen food of any type at an evening do. When I was invited to evening dos twenty years ago it was just to have a bit of a dance if that was your thing

Its always been the norm in my experience. I got married 20 years ago and had a big buffet at night for evening guests (and obviously the day ones to if they were still hungry!)

Same @LagunaBubbles

People don't only turn up to be fed what a ridiculous comment

Well you clearly did.

Because they want to invite people who they believe will support them and share their joy and excitement? (I guess they sometimes make mistakes though and invite people who are more preoccupied with what they can get to eat)

Its a party, its always the norm to feed your guests at a party. People don't go to parties just to get something to eat, "sharing the joy" is all well and good but it's a party!

For evening guests I've had no food at all at one, weekday one so went straight from work. Wish we'd removed the £20 voucher from the card.
So evening invites now it's no gift and won't travel far to one. Just not worth it to get zero hosting (buy own drinks all night, no where to sit)

We went to an evening do where it was (supposedly) hog roast in a floury bap, flour went everywhere, that tasted of cheap danish pork.

3 years later she’s still going on about how fab her wedding was.

Which is why dh is banned from accepting wedding invites unless he’s going on his own.

Yes i have travelled some distance for an evening do, and yes I have dressed nicely because obviously I'm there to support the couple and yes I gift money in the card.I am not rude enough to say to the couple 'nah, evening do's are rather naff actually'I turn up anyway, and if you invite you adequately feed them. In my culture it's rude not to cater for ALL your guests, day or evening. It's not an age thing, it's not a trend, it's just rudeness. Don't invite evening guests if you can't afford to.

Do you know what, I love buffet.

However if I go to the party and dont like the food or dont think it's enough. I really could care less.

I go to the party to celebrate the wedding/birthday or whatever no because I fancy a meal out.

That's what I dont get. How the food is so important and it being pitched as its food in exchange for your attendance.

If you feel like that, do go.

What culture do you belong to?

I've been to gypsy weddings, Asian weddings, cheap weddings and weddings that cost £1million. This one seems perfectly normal to me. In fact, most gypsy weddings don't do any food at all for evening guests.

what a mean thread
you went to a family wedding, evening invite only, and then bitch about the food provided.

Aha! I’ve just realised where the issue stems from. OP keeps referring to the event as an “evening wedding reception”. I think this belies the fact she thinks she was invited to the actual reception (ie: the wedding breakfast).

OP- you do realise you were only invited to the night-time piss-up (at which the most you usually get is a small snack to mop up the booze), and NOT the ‘reception’ (at which you can expect a meal), don’t you???

You're just mad that you didn't get invited to the day do.

it was your own fault for going straight after work tbh.

i have an invite to a wedding, evening only, and the thought of food has not crossed my mind.
just drinking and dancing

'Please join us for an evening reception'

For all those saying I'm just pissed I wasn't invited to the day do well I wouldn't have been able to go anyway due to it being a mid week event and having a job

I am Zambian for those asking

one single solitary sausage bap?

I don't know why but this set me off I to peels of laughter .

If a family member invited you to their day time wedding, you wouldnt have booked the day off?

No I wouldn't
Good job this 'family member' didn't deem me important either

I think it's the timings that are key. If I was invited to an evening party that started at 7 or 8pm I wouldn't expect food (a bit of a buffet would be a welcome bonus). However, 6pm is mealtime and if you factor in travelling etc I don't think its unreasonable to expect some form of food on arrival, not a full dinner as an evening guest, but something. Yes there was a bap on arrival but maybe they could have elaborated a little with a bit of salad or a few crisps, but that's down to the B&G to decide. Pop into Macdonald's on the way home if you're still hungry

Yeah usually it's a buffet with the old 'favourites' sandwiches, sausage rolls, cocktail sausages, Vol any vents, mini quiches, salad, some sweet things etc.

That is rather 'basic'. Was it a very casual wedding?

No @Moralitym1n1 it was at a very prestigious hotel

I had a similar experience last summer. We were invited to he evening do. It was a bit of a car crash actually. Groom kept going to the main bar area to watch the football and was getting more sozzled by the second. We were told prior there was an evening buffet, as such we didn't eat. It turns out as the whole wedding was on the cheap, the day guests food was a hog roast, so for the evening there was cold cuts of pork and batches just pilled on a table-plus the remainder of the wedding cake. Nothing else.

Neither of us were tempted, and DS doesn't eat pork, so he had a pack of crisps from the bar. We left after 3 hrs to get to a takeaway before it closed and took it home!