To completely object to

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Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

In Scotland it's very common to get a bacon or sausage bap.

Nearly every venue now does this so you are being unreasonable most people would be happy with this.
Most people would also eat before attending a evening reception.

A sausage in a pice of bread isn’t food though. Maybe good enough for a picnic or a (cheap) bbq at home. Not for a wedding with an invite for 6.00pm. Do you people really eat their evening meal before than? That’s toddlers eating time, not adults!

Skye but are people REALLY happy with that or have they just got used to people cutting down budget as much as poi’s ke whilst giving the impression of having a grand wedding with hundreds of people (they cant afford).

Fair enough to say it’s just the evening reception. In that case, don’t also expect people to turn up at 6.00pm so they can, at least, have a meal before coming!

Jesus, is this real? No one is this obnoxious surely?

You do not know the financial situation of people who only invited you to the evening reception. Even if you think you do.

Miserable twats should just decline wedding invitations full stop rather than relishing in moaning on MN afterwards. You were obviously offended at the evening only invite so why bother going just to complain?

A sausage bloody bap is something I'd feed the plumber not family travelling miles to my wedding. If you can't afford any more change venue/save until you can*

^ Deeply, deeply unpleasant, op.

6pm is very early for an evening reception, with this start you really need to be offering a proper buffet and yes evening guests definitely expected to bring gifts.

you seem to live on another planet mate

A) not your “mate”, not sure what you’re trying to achieve by using it.

B) I live on the planet where adults are expected to think ahead and to understand really basic etiquette. The food at an evening wedding is a snack, not a meal. If you were at all smart you would have planned ahead and eaten something on the way. I live on a planet where adults take responsibility for themselves, and don’t bleat and blame others.

As I said, I wouldn’t have thought many of these invites will be a problem.

@TheSingingTowers you've hit the nail on the head

YABU

You were invited to the after party essentially and were given a snack. I did the same at my wedding. The after party, in this day and age, is mainly for work colleagues and acquaintances who you still want to see on your special day but don't know well enough to invite for the whole day.

Your invite was for a dance and a drink and to see the bride and groom on their day and give your best wishes. You are obviously an older person and times have changed. Young people are now paying for their own weddings and they aren't going to delay their wedding to save up to give everyone a wedding banquet after the main event ( where I bet the day guests had a 3 course meal)

Have a lovely Sunday!

I'm 40 soon
'Older person'

Plus it's nothing to do with 'this day and age' as I've never ever come across this before having been to many weddings full day and evening receptions
Personally think it's a being selfish and tight thing

We all have choices in our lives.
You were unhappy with the food offered. At that point, you have two choices.
Choice 1: think 'meh, I would have liked more food. Never mind. Oooh I like this song, who's coming to dance?'
Choice 2: think ' this is ridiculous, these people are poor hosts, not only am I way superior, I'm also literally starving.' Then spend your evening with your face like a slapped arse, utterly miserable. Then go on to whinge about it for days to anyone who'll listen, wallowing in the misery.
I don't get why you would choose option 2 unless you like being miserable.

You have repeatedly said that you've gone out of your way to attend their wedding and spent a fortune to do so.

But, you didn't actually attend the wedding.

Wow I'm surprised so many people think it's ok to send an invite to an evening do and not feed your guests! A bacon sarnie all evening when the person has travelled to your venue, given up their evening to come, bought you a card and probably given you money or a gift which you've asked for,perhaps bought a new outfit to celebrate even for the evening do- It's just rude. Might be 'trend' now as someone said but it's rude and entitled . If you host an occasion, you make sure all your guests are adequately fed, even if they are afterthought guests. If you can't afford to feed your evening guests, don't invite them/change your venue ideas.

I honestly think that people just want to bitch about anything about someone else's wedding. I wouldn't expect to be fed at an evening do. And going by the replies on here it's well known you won't get a full meal. From the updates the OP doesn't like her cousin much and has been desperate to slag off the wedding. Hope you feel better now

'Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite'

You weren't invited to the wedding, you were invited to the party.

All the very important guests had their 5 courses hours ago. I'm sure a sausage bap would be just what the Dr ordered....for them.

As for the B listers, such as yourself going straight from work to bump the evening numbers up....

Eat before or after....

I'd be quite happy with a sausage bap to keep me going lol. Most weddings I've been to have put on an evening spread be it a buffet or serving burgers/bacon sandwiches etc.

If I was still hungry when I was leaving I would just call at a takeaway.

But a wedding isn't just about the bride and groom. Or why get married with guests at all? @Kanga83 that's how it is in my culture- the guests are as important as the bride and groom and being hospitable is the main aim not having people spend a fortune at an expensive bar and given a single bbq item for a meal

It's only in about the past ten years that I have seen food of any type at an evening do. When I was invited to evening dos twenty years ago it was just to have a bit of a dance if that was your thing.

What's selfish and tight is complaining you went to a wedding and didnt like the food you got in exchange.

What you are saying doesnt make sense. You talk about family and how people should accommodate and treat guests. Yet it seems to appear you only went to this family wedding, because you thought you were getting fed in exchange.

Why would you need something in exchange? Personally I think they should have had a smaller wedding. Then they probably wouldnt have invited you at all.