To completely object to

[WithAllIntenseAndPurposes]

Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

Jesus Christ no food at all?
And that's five hours with no food and most people will be drinking alcohol! You can have a wedding for various budgets so I don't buy this 'it's to save money' crap. No it's to invite guests to give you gifts while being completely ungracious as a host

Wow! That's nasty
Did you have any friends at school OP?

@WorraLiberty

Your post is ridiculously stingy. It's standard practise to feed people if you invite them to an evening event, especially one you know they need to travel for. I also think it's very unlikely the other evening guests were delighted with a sausage bap to sustain themselves all evening.

YADNBU OP! I can't believe anyone is going to be happy from 7 till 12 in a venue with barely anything to eat. Even if you ate before you came at about 6 you'd be ravenous half way through the night. The day guests would be starving too. Since when did it become optional to actually feed your guests? If your budget is tight choose a more affordable venue!

"I would simple say was nice venue but left hungry."

Good lord, would you really?

May I suggest instead, "Yes, thank you for inviting me. I particularly liked the venue. More importantly, did you have a nice day, [bride]?"

I'm with you OP. It's really rude to invite people (and no doubt expect a present!) and not feed them.

They were given food, OP just didn't find it acceptable food. She was offered a roll and sausage.

Yes that would be a shame for them @PhillisPearce but maybe will teach them to be a bit more considerate of others going forward

If it was me than it would teach me to never invite you to anything again and never attend anything you invited me to.

If it was me than it would teach me to never invite you to anything again and never attend anything you invited me to.

Then that would be their loss as I always ensure guests are catered to

I'm going to a wedding in a few weeks with no evening food at all because the bride and groom are on a budget and feel the money would be better spent elsewhere.

I'd argue their priorities are wrong. Weddings should have making things comfortable and enjoyable for your guests at the top of the priority list. Not feeding guests but spending money "elsewhere" is ridiculous. Very skewed priorities.

What would you rather - an evening reception in the village hall with barbecue, plates of sandwiches and a pile of homemade cakes, or an evening reception in a posh hotel which looks great on the Instagram photos but where you're not fed?

On a side line, I was at a southern German wedding one and they had this marvellous system of a cake buffet - all the close friends of the bride and groom made or bought a massive gateau or cake and brought it to the wedding reception for everyone to share. It was AMAZING. Must have tried a dozen different types of cake.

If it starts at 7, no food expected as most people eat before a night out.

But it's not a 'night out' it's an evening reception

It's not stingy at all. It's a night out! You'd just eat before getting there. I've been on many nights out and not felt the need to interject the evening with a food stop....just a kebab at the end!

I've never known evening guests to get a sit down meal either that's bizarre, in my experience it's usually a bbq, buffet, etc. In this case the op was given food and seems very ungracious about it.

I'm planning a wedding at the minute and intend on feeding my evening guests something similar. It's snobby ungrateful attitudes like this that I'm dreading.

BottleOfJameson they were fed at the party.

The fact the OP was banging the hotel door down at 6pm, instead of having an evening meal and turning up from 6pm, isn't the B&G's fault.

She could easily have turned up from 7pm onwards. In fact I'd go as far as saying that would've been expected.

The reason evening invites have a start time is so that guests don't arrive in the middle of speeches or the wedding meal.

This highlights why I decline all evening only invites. The couple usually (not always) expect a decent amount of cash given as a present for what is in effect an expensive night out to a location you wouldn't choose, buying your own drinks all night and then paying £50+ on top as a present.

A wedding isn't a night out - people actually travel distances to attend weddings. In any case if people were leaving for a night out at 7pm they're first port of call would be a restaurant/cafe to get some food!

@WorraLiberty as usual you are being deliberately obtuse. I was at work until five an hour away. You are saying I should have stopped for a sit down meal before attending an evening reception? Your manners are awful. People saying it's a night out it's not a night out it's a bloody reception. Look up the definition of reception

Fred, the OP wasn't invited to the wedding.

She was invited to the after party, which is of course a night out.

Banging the hotel door down...you are ridiculous really 😂😂😂

It's an evening reception worra. But just continue making all sorts up in your mind

She could easily have turned up from 7pm onwards. In fact I'd go as far as saying that would've been expected.

As PP mentioned that would have left her still eating at about 5-6pm before getting ready - everyone would still be hungry by the end of the night. No normal person invites guests to an event starting at 7pm without some decent food - especially an event they have to travel to. It's incredibly expensive to attend a wedding and the B&G usually expect a decent quality gift. You need to be a decent host and provide some food.

Then that would be their loss as I always ensure guests are catered to

I'm sure not listening to you moaning is worth not eating your food. OP, you were catered to. Maybe it wasn't the type of food you thought was acceptable but there was food there if you wanted it.

I'm with the OP. If you host a party, then you ought to feed guests. It doesn't have to be a full on, several courses meal, but providing a decent buffet is part of being a good host.
I don't like two tier weddings - I think they are rude.

She was invited to the after party, which is of course a night out.
Don't be silly she was invited to an evening reception.

Good to see some non goady opinions from grown ups

'OP I'm dying to know something- did you eat the sausage bap?'

It's a party!

I agree that leaving day guests without food all day and night would be rude but I really don't think it's a big deal to eat before attending a night doo.

Op what have you got against sausage butties anyway?!