To completely object to

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Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

That's my point though worra why feed your guests expensive crap when you can give more in a different venue ? It really boggles my mind the the photos add more important than looking after your guests

Because perhaps the other 24 evening guests aren't obsessed with food to the point they're whinging and whining on an internet forum, days after the party they were invited to?

Because perhaps the other 24 evening guests wouldn't hear of the B&G choosing a different venue to the one they wanted, just so they could have a bit of food.

Because perhaps the other 24 evening guests fed themselves before they turned up to the party.

There are lots of reasons really but I don't expect you to understand them because they involve thinking past your own stomach nose.

I'm far from rich or snobby. My reception was at a working men's club and had hot and cold fork buffet in the afternoon and a cold buffet later on. All guests were invited to the entire thing. What a bitch I am!

Why don't you ask them to reimburse you for your inconvenience Op?

It's not just food it's how you treat people. It would be like inviting someone round for the evening when it's a meal time and giving them a piece of toast and no drink

It's beyond weird this British culture of weddings

YABU

You do realise when a party invite says 6pm, that's the time guests are expected to start turning up from?

Unless it said 'No admission past 6.30pm', which I doubt.

It's beyond weird this British culture of weddings

Gosh, that's not on, and Im not British.

So I also should have hung around for another hour after work? Presumably to eat a McDonald's? It's evident from this thread there are more self obsessed poor hosts than I imagined

What's not on about it? In some cultures certain things are unheard of. In many cultures weddings are just as much about the guests as the bride and groom

'You do realise when a party invite says 6pm, that's the time guests are expected to start turning up from?'

Quite Worra

However, I think Op graced them straight from work at 18.01 with her radars tuned, up honing in on sniffing out some bowing table laden with a huge and plentiful buffet to cater to her EVERY dietary whim.

I can not understand how these wedding invites work. In Australia we only have the ceremony and then the reception. If you are invited,
you are invited for both. The reception is always meal and drinks supplied.

Why would you only go to part of the day?

If you're asking should you have fed yourself dinner, as an independent adult then, yes

Also, you state upthread.... "And a hog roast would have been very well received."

One person's hog roast is another person's 'Pile of pulled pork'.

They can't please everyone but it's likely they pleased the majority as I can't imagine all 25 guests were as miserable and ungrateful as you're making yourself come across.

Just out of interest - as it's been years since we got married - I just googled to see what large venues are offering in their evening buffet "package".

First gave a long list of things like cheese tartlets, potato skins, mini burgers, chicken skewers and said "please select a minimum of 5 items per person".

Second place had a similar list of items but also more unusual options like baba ganoush and flatbreads, choose 4 per guest for £8 per head including tea and coffee.

A solitary sausage sandwich is not the norm and definitely verging on the stingy.

blackfred because often the B&G feel obliged to invite cousins/colleagues etc. Or sometimes the friend's of their parents etc and the parents might have paid for some of the wedding.

It's basically a 'squeeze them in' invite.

I already said a hog roast tends to have plenty of accompanying dishes. Maybe read my posts before jumping for the sake of it.

I've been to a wedding like this, and it was a bit shite. Venue was trying to extort money from hungry evening 'guests' for crap sandwiches. I ordered in a few pizzas instead . The two close tables LOVED us! Thank God for takeaway deliveries! OP, you should have done that- if in this situation again, think I'd order curry in a hurry instead

Bloody hell what is this new British thing of treating guests like shit because it's your wedding. If I invited anyone to an event that started at 6pm of course I'd give them dinner. Even if they showed up at 7pm that would mean they have been getting ready from about 5:30-6:00 so would have had no time to eat.

I think some couple prioritise a posh venue that will look nice in the photos above being a decent host to their family and friends.

Lol....went to a wedding once where the evening buffet literally ran out after 40 of the 80 guests. It wasn't the venue.the bride was known to be tight as arseholes. We were number 2 and 3 in the queue!

Exactly @BottleOfJameson why bother with guests at all?

What's not on about it?

What's it on, is
a) describing anyone's culture as beyond weird
b) extrapolating your cousin's sausage bap as what happens in all British weddings.

Please don't say you were left hungry.
Hopefully it will be the only wedding they have. They would only ask you so they could hear nice things, don't spoil the memory for them

OP I'm dying to know something- did you eat the sausage bap?

Yes that would be a shame for them @PhillisPearce but maybe will teach them to be a bit more considerate of others going forward

Everyone has different budgets. Feeding guests at a wedding is notoriously expensive. I'm going to a wedding in a few weeks with no evening food at all because the bride and groom are on a budget and feel the money would be better spent elsewhere. It's only usually 7ish til midnight so why would you not just eat before you go?

In this case you actually are getting food but seem a bit snooty about the choice of sausage butty? Rude and ungrateful imo.