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To completely object to

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WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 01/06/2019 21:40

Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

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WorraLiberty · 02/06/2019 11:52

Yes, OP.

As an adult, you should have fed yourself on the way there.

You chose not to and that's not the B&G's fault.

Were the other 24 guests 'starving' and whinging too? Did they all turn up at 6pm on the dot as well?

If food means this much to you I'm surprised you took the chance of not feeding yourself first.

Evening if there was a buffet, it might not have been served til 9pm.

That'd leave you with 3 hours of 'starving' and whining.

Hippopotas · 02/06/2019 11:53

Yet another AIBU thread where the majority agree OP is BU but OP declines to accept this and carries on being rude and defensive to all who disagree.

WorraLiberty · 02/06/2019 11:53

Banging the hotel door down...you are ridiculous really

I'm not the one stamping my feet and pouting like a kid who never got their tube of Smarties.

Honestly, when did you say the party was?

Last Wednesday and you're still banging on about a sausage in a roll?

cardibach · 02/06/2019 11:55

So where/when did you change for the wedding OP? To be honest, I probably wouldn’t eat before an evening wedding do, because you usually get something there. In this case you got a sausage bap. I’m confused by all the people suggesting this is a tiny thing that won’t keep body and soul together. They are pretty filling and calorific, so I’m sure no guests starved as a result.
I’m always confused by the people who claim never to have heard of evening invitations, too. If you look on hotel websites it’s clear they are common. I’m old and they were the norm when I got married over quarter of a century ago.

Pinkyyy · 02/06/2019 11:55

@MarthasGinYard I just need to knowGrin

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WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 02/06/2019 11:55

But the majority haven't
And I'm only objecting to deliberately inflammatory comments posted by a couple of posters in particular. Many have said yabu without embellishing things and assassinating my character nor being a childish gf Smile

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slashlover · 02/06/2019 11:55

I'd even argue that a roll and sausage (and anywhere I've been that had this allowed for more than one per person) is much more filling that a couple of tiny sandwiches, a mini sausage roll and a vol au vent.

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WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 02/06/2019 11:56

I'm not the one stamping my feet and pouting like a kid who never got their tube of Smarties.

Case in point. Shame you cannot debate like a grown up.

Got changed in work toilets

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PositiveVibez · 02/06/2019 11:56

The "bar one," had a bloody bacon sandwich or cheese toasties for veggies. We were fecking starving....

Bit bizarre that. Evening do's start around 7/7.30. Does anyone get there that early unless they've been the daytime do?

So you are saying that from lunchtime til 8ish, you would eat nothing at all before you got to the reception?

I don't think you like your cousin OP and you are mightily pissed off that you only got invited too the evening rather than the whole day and that's what the issue is really.

WorraLiberty · 02/06/2019 11:57

Good to see some non goady opinions from grown ups

All we need now is a non goady grown up OP.

Anyone seen one on this thread? Because I certainly haven't.

PositiveVibez · 02/06/2019 11:57

*to

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WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 02/06/2019 11:58

And again....

Worra you dislike me so much yet cannot leave the thread it's very bizzare

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abbiecloud · 02/06/2019 11:58

'Don't ask if you don't want views' - oh the irony

WorraLiberty · 02/06/2019 12:00

Worra you dislike me so much yet cannot leave the thread it's very bizzare

Oh get over yourself.

You're just a random anonymous poster on the internet. The same as all of us.

Pinkyyy · 02/06/2019 12:00

I'm prepared to leave the thread if I can hear some more about the roll. Did you eat it? What kind of sausage was it? What bread? Did the budget stretch to a dollop of ketchup?

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WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 02/06/2019 12:01

Worra in one post 'unless it was really early I wouldn't expect feeding'
In the next post 'we'll just because it said six it's your fault going so early. Banging down the doors'
🙄

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WorraLiberty · 02/06/2019 12:05

Honestly OP.

This was the B&G's day, not yours.

You've even said you wouldn't go to the actual wedding if you were invited because you wouldn't take the day off work.

You changed into your outfit in a toilet and drove straight to the venue to arrive at 6pm.

You expected them to feed you and they fed you.

What they fed you wasn't to your liking.

Surely that's the end of it, considering this happened FOUR days ago?

Sockworkshop · 02/06/2019 12:05

The current trend for being stingy with food at weddings is dreadful manners.
People seem to resent having to be hospitable.
If the couple are broke why have an evening do ?
My late MIL would turn in her grave at being offered a sausage bap 😂

OP this is AIBU people will just disagree with anything just to have a bash.

Raindropsonroses27 · 02/06/2019 12:07

I just think it's rude to turn your nose up at what you've been offered. It might not be your preference but it's the bride and grooms choice in line with their budget and style.

It's so snobby and ungrateful to have this sort of attitude.

Harebel · 02/06/2019 12:07

YABU and yes it does sound like you're more hacked off about 1) the fact you 'only' received an evening invitation and 2) that the wedding venue was a 'posh' hotel.

Come on admit it, you're completely out of touch with what's expected these days and as the venue was fancy you were expecting to be fed more/better. But you weren't. Boo hoo.

Next time you go straight from work to an evening do, make sure you eat beforehand as snacks/food/quantity/quality cannot be guaranteed. Just because you look down on a sausage bap (FFS your comment about giving these to a plumber... beggars belief).

To the PP who thought you sounded older, I agree. (Not that your age matters but they were pointing it out as times have changed with weddings and bacon/sausage rolls are quite the in-thing now and yes esp at posher venues!) What person under 40 knows what a "Tupperware party" actually is?!

Get over yourself. You were fed, it didn't suit you. You're just ungrateful & sound quite bitter.

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WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 02/06/2019 12:10

How can I be 'completely out of touch' when I have been to umpteen evening receptions within the last few years and have never seen anything like this

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arethereanyleftatall · 02/06/2019 12:10

'One hour away' !!!! Lol. Didn't you say further up thread you travelled there at great expense?!?

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WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 02/06/2019 12:11

@arethereanyleftatall you have no idea how I got there/back!

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Fluffycloudland77 · 02/06/2019 12:11

I remember another evening do invite, mil said the day food had been lovely but the buffet looked like frozen stuff from bookers and the brides family went on we weren’t to not turn up after accepting as it was £11 a head. It looked grim so I didn’t eat. It was a really expensive wedding too so I was looking forward to nice food.

As far as I know we don’t have form for rsvp then not turning up so I don’t know why we came under so much pressure.

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WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 02/06/2019 12:12

@arethereanyleftatall another poster just trying to pick non existent holes with no relevance

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