To completely object to

[WithAllIntenseAndPurposes]

Not only being lucky enough to make the evening only invite list but then when you arrive to be served a sausage bap for your evening meal

She'll probably ask when this ends up in the Daily Mail, or all over the This Morning show.

I would love a sausage or bacon bap at a wedding evening rather than a crappy buffet where everything gets left.

Me and DP are Just having an evening reception and having sandwiches and crisps. If people want more there's a chippy round the corner. Our wedding so we're doing it how we want.

Well OP one of your suggestions is to have fewer guests......if you are identified from this thread I hope any other cousin of your bares that in mind......

You said

There was a restaurant where starters were upwards of 9 pounds

The fact that you make yourself out to be royalty but the scoff at food/drinks prices just makes you look like an idiot.

I just hate this new trend of getting married and expecting guests to be out of pocket to attend a few hours of your special day. Yes it's a paid bar where drinks cost a bomb. Yes a tiny amount of food is provided but best feed yourself before as well. But bring gifts please. In my view a wedding should cost your guests minimal and not make them go home starving and out of pocket

And if it was £9 for a starter I’d be more concerned at how much they’ve been made to pay for that bacon buttie

Where have I implied in royalty? Oh yeah I haven't
Some of the best wedding dos I've been to have been in a hall/social club and food has been laid on by the family. Wouldn't cost anywhere near the 8 pounds a head someone quoted for a bloody breakfast bap

My reply was in response to you stating you will be Frank with her. To answer your question though, she may ask you if you enjoyed yourself at the reception

And I expect to be out of pocket if it’s at an upmarket do - you know what the bar prices will be in the region of, you know you have a posh frock to buy unless you have dometuyou can wear and you know you will be bringing a gift.
It’s up to you if you attend or not, there’s plenty of polite refusals you can make without causing offence.

You've made out you think you're above everyone else with your constant remarks about 'in your world' and 'the people you mix with' and the fact that you'd only feed a sausage sandwich to a plumber.

Oh so they said you couldn't attend without bringing a gift did they?

@Pinkyyy you are such a gf

I can't imagine you get any invites to anything

And if it was £9 for a starter I’d be more concerned at how much they’ve been made to pay for that bacon buttie

Exactly. Sausage/bacon rolls are the 'in thing' at the moment for wedding receptions and are rising in popularity.

As much as the OP has made it sound like someone stood in the staff car park, with a bag of frozen Iceland sausages and a Poundland disposable BBQ, they're generally quite expensive.

Yes how unreasonable expecting to not be starving whilst spending a small fortune attending a close family members wedding....it's a wedding reception not a Tupperware party!

But you're clearly not a "close family member", how are you missing the fact that they didn't invite you to the wedding?! You were on the list with work colleagues and various people you invite out of politeness. Similarly, you didn't attend the wedding, it's a small (very small at 25 people!) after-party. Can definitely see why they didn't invite you to the wedding, though. I don't know why you went, OP. (And don't say "to be polite", because you most certainly are not!) What a waste of a cold sausage bap!

This is exactly why I won't be having a big wedding do.... people moaning & just being pissy in general

You are an adult, you could have had a meal before you turned up, I've never known anyone expect and/or to be fed upon arrival at a night wedding do.

Again like previous posters have said, I too would have been happy with a sausage sandwich!

That's my point though worra why feed your guests expensive crap when you can give more in a different venue ? It really boggles my mind the the photos add more important than looking after your guests

@loubieloulou well many people on here have said they would....

One memorable wedding I went to as an all day guest served the two things I don't eat - lamb and goats cheese. Cheese starter, lamb main. I was STARVING. So glad when the evening buffet came out and it was generous and delicious.

I wouldn't expect a free bar at a wedding reception. Maybe a glass of something on arrival, but after that i'd expect to pay. But as an evening guest I would expect at least a bit of food, and a choice of more than one thing.

Also agree it's totally about hospitality. You invite people and they are your GUESTS. You look after them, make sure they're OK, feed them and ensure there's things like soft drinks for drivers and plenty of seating for Aunty Gladys who doesn't want to dance. It's just what you do.

I get loads of invites actually. And I attend the ones I want to go to and don't go bitching about them after. It's quite obvious why you only got an evening invite isn't it.

OP - turn your last comment on its head - why shouldn’t the b&m have the venue that they have decided is perfect for then just because a guest at the evening party wants more than a bacon buttie? You just refuse to see that if they are paying for the day then yes, let them have it their way?! Would you spend a fortune on an event you didn’t want just to make one random person happy - oh scrub that, by your reasoning you would!

I don't bother with evening invitations, only the ones to the actual wedding and wedding breakfast.

YABU. and a bit of an entitled bitch TBH.

Apparently not @DonkeyHohtay and I am a 'bitch' for thinking so

PhillisPearce why would she ask? That's my point really

hi withall it was nice to see you at my wedding. I hope you enjoyed the evening do.

No, all I got was a crap sausage roll, to be frank. I spent more on you than you did on me. Why not book the village hall next time and serve everyone a proper meal?

Oh sorry to hear that withall, thanks for being frank. I' ll bare that in mind for our next family do.

In my 'circles' Op we don't really discuss the cost of events and giftage it's considered slightly crass TBH.

All you seem to do is harp on about how much it's 'cost you' etc and the price of this and that.

It's very clear the 'circles' you move in....

I would simply say was a nice hotel but left hungry

Don't ask if you don't want views!