If you're female AIBU to ask if you're ok with male health professionals at all times and in any scenario?

[DockerDre]

It's just that question really.

men usually don't have a choice and they do just have to accept the staff on duty and when it comes to nurses they are more likely to be female.

Yes we do, although in my experience over many admissions this past couple of years the assumption is that a man doesn't care. However, when I make it clear I have a preference it's adhered to (except in a couple of cases).

Have they rounded up a posse or something?

Don't like the women excluding them? Poor bastards.

There are far to many people who spit their dummies out on this site when they don’t get their own way

Careful of your glass house with those stones you’re throwing, eh?

It's nonsensical now. Oh well. Thanks everyone for your input prior to this. I think asking for female opinions was like a red rag to a few bulls.

Have they rounded up a posse or something?
I'm sorry, but what are you actually on about?
You realise men and women are on here, reading, right?
You can't police it lol, and it's not like they blow a whistle to alert others
As it's a huge international forum, this is bonkers lol.

I asked for female opinions because I wanted FEMALE opinions. The men though decide they're allowed to derail a thread because it's a parenting website. Your opinion was not requested!

It's nonsensical now

You can say that again lol, maybe if you hadn't got your spy glass out to try and play detective at everyone it wouldn't have gone so bizarre.

The men though decide they're allowed to derail a thread because it's a parenting website. Your opinion was not requested!

Except it’s actually relevant to the thread.

Success! A other thread derailed by wails of " but what about the men?"

There will always be men who take women voicing their own opinions about their own bodies to be offensive or impertinent and will seek to crush it through being patronising, attempting to find logical gaps and claiming discrimination whilst berating women for having thoughts and feelings and not putting men and male issues first and foremost all the time.

That’s one reason why it’s so important we stand up for our right to have female healthcare professionals whenever we feel that we want or need them.

OP did that all by herself, it was fine until she started accusing everyone of being a man

Yes - it's relevant in displaying just why women don't always want males treating them.

Yes - it's relevant in displaying just why women don't always want males treating them

Are you trying to be deliberately hard of thinking, or is it coming naturally?

I have had a male technicien for my last 2 mammographs, he was good friends with my DD when she was about 14, I must say, I don't like it.
I prefer my current female gynaecologist, I really can't see how a male Gynie, can empathize with women's gynaecological issues, they have never felt period pain, had a baby, or menopause

But I wouldn’t be distressed about the derail - every time a man complains about women having a voice on a thread like this he shows himself up for what he is and demonstrates the problem that he is denying the existence of in the first place. Let them come and attempt to demand all the attention, let them condescend and derail and nitpick and hijack and bewail the unfairness of all the imagined reverse-sexism they perceive to be coming their way. They only prove the need for feminism more than ever and they only make themselves look foolish.

This thread displays the subtle, yet ever present esteem in which men hold women. They can't be even trusted to discuss their own healthcare without having a male voice added to the mix - even when it was specifically not asked for. It's that male entitlement that pisses me off. Whether it's on a discussion forum or in a healthcare setting - the scenario is the same - women are idiots etc. etc. Fuck off. This is precisely why I don't want men treating me. 'Calm down dear'.

So ask for somebody else then.
You can request another doctor.

You can't even have a conversation about female healthcare without men coming on to tell us to calm down. FFS. And they probably wonder why I even asked the question!

So ask for somebody else then.
You can request another doctor.

That's not the question I asked.

To be fair you got a calm down because at the risk of sounding 5 years old you started it by going all strange and detective on them and half the thread

I'm sorry @DockerDre , I posted as I'm someone who refuses to be treated by male doctors due to childhood sexual abuse. I'm also broadly supportive of women's rights, and have been posting a number of years. My apologies if my posting irritated or angered you.

You - This is precisely why I don't want men treating me

Me - So ask for another doctor then.

I was replying to what you said.

YANBU OP.

@DoctorDre

Am totally on your side OP, and you are right that women have the right to want a female only to treat them, especially when it's intimate.

I have no idea why any man had to come on here, as your thread is clearly aimed at women, and naff-all to do with men. But they do often have to push their face in where it's not wanted or invited.

Got to put these women right, and tell them they're ranty and hysterical if they don't fall into line. As if it's not bad enough having to read shitty comments like 'why are you angry' and 'do you have a hard of thinking problem' and other patronising, condescending crap.

They seem to think that their right to have their voices heard, trumps the rights of a woman's right to privacy. (or a woman's right to ANYTHING.) And that their opinions on what women should be entitled to (or not entitled to) is more relevant and correct than any woman. Coz they're men, so of COURSE they're right.

I think my favourite thing that men say is 'you women fought for equality, and you want equality, so you can have it...' These same men funnily enough, who want women to 'have the equality they fought for' don't seem to want things to be equal, when it comes to pulling their weight in the house, with the chores, and cooking, and shopping etc, and with the childcare...