If you're female AIBU to ask if you're ok with male health professionals at all times and in any scenario?

[DockerDre]

It's just that question really.

Well if I'm derailing, you're doing a damn good job yourself.

There's no agreeing with me, as I asked a question - I didn't actually really give my position on it at all - which is - not clearly defined even in my own head.

They love to declare themselves. Dad101 or whatever. They don't need to though as it's obvious they're male from their attitudes. Decomposing is also a man who denies that they are a man.

There's no agreeing with me

Yes, you’ve made that quite obvious

@DockerDre I didn't ‘denigrate’ you at all. I made an observation about how the original question asked had been manipulated to meet people’s own narratives. Regardless of my sex it’s a valid point. If you didn’t want a male to be involved perhaps post on the feminism threads.

Decomposing is also a man

FFS lol
Everyone who doesn't agree or has an attitude (presumably not ladylike enough?! ) is automatically a man.
Alrighty then.

I'm posting on Mumsnet - not Dadsnet. The question posed was not aimed at men - clearly. But you had to stick your bent oar in, making zero sense whatsoever. Why? Because you're annoyed at the discussion. Not at what's being said, just that it's taking place at all. Bore off and report me again if you like.

The term honeybunch is the discussion 'evolved'. Not that it was manipulated.

Limekiwi - how do you feel about the discussion? Any thoughts to contribute? Or do you not like the discussion either?

I'm posting on Mumsnet - not Dadsnet

Quite so. Where the tagline is “by parents for parents”.

It isn’t a female only forum.

No problem. I was more miffed when the male doctor asked for a chaperone for my vaginal examination and it was one of the receptionists 😂 I guess I could have said no but I was bloody sore at the time.

Haha! Bless you! You need to calm down dear before you do yourself an injury. I’d point out that MN is a ‘parents’ but you’d accuse me of mansplaining. Besides, you post on a public forum expect the public to reply.

I personally couldn't give a fuck what genitals my doctor has, however I'm not closed minded enough to say there's no reason why some people may ask to specifically be seen by a female doctor.
Abuse victims may be one example.
People on here are so black and white about things. Just because something doesn't affect you, it doesn't mean that it isn't happening to others.

First three words of my OP

"If you're female"

@thesnapandfartisinfallible I find it inconceivable that after all the information that's out there you'd need the opinion of anyone else to confirm that you need to see a doctor about a lump in your breast.

DocerDre - I answered your original question further up the thread.
Which was to "if you're a woman do you mind male hcps."
Before it descended into bizarreness and accusing everyone of being a hiding man if they weren't polite enough or didn't mind them at all.
Not sure what your I'm commenting on Mumsnet not Dadsnet comment is all about either. You realise both mums and dad's can post here right? It's for all parents and carers. Of both male and female variety.

First three words of my OP

But actually it doesn’t matter right, the whole point is that should someone be able to request a same sex HCP. If you assert that they should then it’s relevant to males too.

I’d prefer female but if it was urgent or doc was a specialist I’d see a man.

The thing is @batvixen123 I don’t have to be “just like a man” to believe in equality. The need to conform into some emalgam of male/female is nothing to do with equality. The idea that female lives are not shaped by reproduction, that men not carrying babies, nor bfing, nor menstruating or menopauseing doesn’t massively impact experience is just daft. It’s nothing to do with “girls toys”

You need to calm down dear

To be fair you’ve kind of proven the OP’s point now.

Could I have made it any clearer that I was looking for female opinions? Yet, you couldn't just scroll on past, you thought to yourself, HMM, I'm not female, but I'm going to give my UNWANTED opinion anyway.

Oooh we have a 'calm down dear' 😄

No, I’d prefer a female for intimate examinations.

First three words if you're female

You're randomly saying practically everyone is though lol
It's a public board. Everyone can answer even if you might not like some of the answers.

Manclife you didn’t make a valid point. In what way was the original question manipulated at all? People stated their answer and explained why they felt that way. Where was the manipulation? Why did you think the OP wasn’t getting the response she wanted? Most people have said they think women should have the freedom to choose a female hcp if they want one. Why do you think that wasn’t what the OP wanted?

No. I insist on biological females (would be fine with a transman) for everything. I don't feel the need to justify it either.

@JacquesHammer I may well have but don’t really care. There are far to many people who spit their dummies out on this site when they don’t get their own way.