If you're female AIBU to ask if you're ok with male health professionals at all times and in any scenario?

[DockerDre]

It's just that question really.

LimeKiwi - of course they 'blow a whistle' to alert others. The derailers pile on to threads in FWR, there are Twitter accounts that are purely for monitoring MN.

Most of Drs at our practice are female. If women's issue I prefer a female .l last time I did see a young male and he was so embarrassed.
For something mental health I prefer a senior as opposed to a locum regardless of sex.

Outanabout your mandar isn't always foolproof though.
Actual women get accused of being men if they disagree.
Can't you see it's the frankly barking man hunting that derails?! Not people who disagree or simply say that they're OK with being seen to by a male.

I'm also broadly supportive of women's rights,

. Big of you.....

as in, "broadly, but don't get too ahead of yourselves lasses, and remember who's really in charge here"

LimeKiwi - my mandar is foolproof.

We need decomposing to come back seeing that's another one you went "argh another man" at lol to test that theory

@crazyasafox Couldn't have said it better myself!
And it's just this male attitude which makes some male HCPs impossible to deal with. Apart from distressing a patient and making them feel uncomfortable, they leave a female patient so distressed that they refuse any healthcare for e.g.

Plenty of women on here have said they're ok with male doctors. I said I was ok with male doctor and group of med students for draining cysts in my breast. Male gynaes for both births. But some things, like smears or internals in GPs I'd prefer a woman. That's anyone's right. The thread has got bogged down because of stupid stuff about changing goalposts or how it's stupid to care about the sex of the hcp. All that was needed was an opinion one way or another.

Yeah no problem at all!

I will generally see male or female medical staff as long as they don't try and trick me - a la the transgender person who told a patient who had requested a female that he was a woman and to (paraphrasing) deal with it.

It's being informed that matters to me
I think.

That said for intimate issues I prefer a woman just because they "get" terms/feelings/symptoms more give they share biology - it's easier to describe stuff.

Well my gynaecologists have been male throughout both pregnancies and births so I can't think what else there could be that I'd have a problem with a male if I found this ok

Nope, much prefer female doctors. Just had a hysteroscopy and polypectomy this week, 2 female gynecologists and 2 female nurses. No where near as bad as I was expecting and they made me feel completely comfortable. A few weeks prior to this I had a male gynecologist attempt to take a sample from my uterus despite my menstruating heavily, it fucking hurt and was unsuccessful hence the need for the hysteroscopy. I'll never consent to male doctor going anywhere near my fanjo again.

No, as in, DP is deeply disabled, blind and I've seen her be shit on numerous times in 20+ years, and as she cannot, I'm the one who writes the complaints etc. You assume what you like though.

I know I wouldn't like a man telling me to push lol.

Similarly, I like my childcare provider to be a mother and my midwife to be a mother.

As I said earlier in the thread, a man's hand/fist shoved up your vagina when you're not dilating is a very painful thing. Extremely intrusive and horrible actually. He wouldn't believe the midwives and had to check for himself - it was his word that then decreed I needed a c-section, despite the midwives having me already prepped for one!

The pain of that and the utter inhumanity of it will never leave me.

So yes, I prefer females sometimes. In fact, male or female, if you're distressed by a HCP, you should be able to request someone else.

Yes. I was much more uncomfortable with the female 'chaperone' gawping at me while the male consultant examined the lump on my breast.

I requested no chaperone, but no, I had to have an audience.

Oh the irony of the poster saying that they can absolutely identify male posters whilst simultaneously incorrectly identifying me as a man.

49 year old woman here. 2 adult children and currently being investigated for an ovarian mass, which clearly must be impossible because I am a man right?

I requested no chaperone but no I had to have an audience

You've just reminded me of a few years ago when I went to the doctors for a bottom half medical matter - the doctor was male and said there wasn't a female chaperone available that day so we'd have to arrange another appointment.
Me - "I'm not bothered, can't we just do it today anyway?!"
Dr - "no, will have to do another appointment."
Me thinking ffs, and why does it really matter, just get it over with.
Never really thought about why chaperones insisted on and it annoyed me at the time inconvenience having to rearrange time but it's clear they are needed from this thread.
I'd clearly just drop them for any male or female lol, as in my head they're just doing their job.
As I said each to their own though. We should have the choice.

I think you don't understand the word irony Decomposing. Google it.

@DecomposingComposers - oops that's the mandar fallen already then

I really can't see how a male Gynie, can empathize with women's gynaecological issues, they have never felt period pain, had a baby, or menopause

You do realise that not all female drs will have experienced these either?

DecomposingComposers - oops that's the mandar fallen already then grin

Exactly. OP is ranting about all of these men intruding on their post - except that only 1 poster appears to be a man. The others are simply those that the OP has decided are male. Bonkers.

I've seen two gets out detective spy glass but there's been lots of so and so is a man too.
Ookay as you say it's bizarre lol

@DockerDre

Thanks, I understand what irony is. You saying that you absolutely know something to be true whilst then proving just how wrong you are is irony to me.