To ask how long did it take you to get pregnant

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Did you take ovulation tests or just leave it to chance?
What lifestyle changes did you make and how did you stay positive when getting negative test results?
I’m 29 and we’ve only been trying for a couple of months but I’m (a little prematurely I know) starting to panic that I might be infertile or that dh might be.

Not much- say a few months with either of mine as did a lot of planning before i.e. drunk less, got healthy, did ovulation tests so knew exactly when, then timed DTD very carefully around this- every day with 1 day off for 5 days before, twice on the day AND day after.

Used Conceive Plus every time- lube gel- really do put it down to that- get it!

Very quickly but I’ve had 7 pregnancies in 10 years. Of those 4 miscarriages, 2 Pre term (10 weeks and 9 weeks early) and 1 ectopic.
There can be problems falling and there can be problems staying pregnant or there can be no problems.
I would never put pressure on straight away if you are having sex regularly (every other night) and you have regular periods.

Years! It took six years of trying for the first pregnancy, and involved taking Clomid after the first several years of trying. Pregnancy resulted in MMC. We then had fertility tests that revealed husband had a low sperm count and were told we'd be unlikely to conceive naturally again. Tried IVF once and was unsuccessful (we paid for treatment, NHS paid for drugs). We were in a panic about how we were going to afford the next round of IVF, as we had to fund treatment AND drugs this time, when I fell pregnant naturally. Goodness knows how as I was stressed up to the eyeballs! From starting trying to giving birth, it was nine years. Now have two DDs, both conceived naturally.

6 months for first. Then just let nature take its course with number 2. Stopped breastfeeding when DD was around 14 months and periods started fairly quickly. Took just over a year to fall pregnant with DS. Didn't do any tests or tracking, just kept a record of when we'd done it!

With DS1 I was on the pill so no lifestyle changes or anything. Total surprise.
DS2 I was taking folic acid and DH quit smoking. I used the Clue app to track ovulation as my cycle was pretty bog standard. Got pregnant in the first month.

Honestly it's just luck. For some people it seems to be very easy and not so easy for others even if there's no problems. Hope it happens soon for you OP.

1st Pregnancy: I was 20 and fell pregnant the only time we didn't use a condom and I was on the pill at the time - now my gorgeous little nearly 2 year old!

2nd Pregnancy: I was 22, started trying end of November and fell pregnant end of December. Sadly we had to have a TFMR at 12 weeks due to Turners Syndrome.

3rd Pregnancy: Just turned 23 and fell pregnant again literally a few weeks after the TFMR. I'm now 7 weeks pregnant.

My biggest help was probably using OPKs for a few months before we started TTC so I could learn about my cycle and pinpoint exactly when I ovulated.
Wishing you lots of good luck, OP! 🤞🏻

2 years and two rounds of IUI for first baby, one month of not even really trying for second baby. There's just no rhyme or reason to it sometimes!

I got pregnant the first month we tried. I had already completely cut out caffeine and alcohol for 4 weeks before we started trying, and I used ovulation dip tests. We had sex every day around when I ovulated (so from about 3 days before until 3 days afterwards).

Then again, I know people who have done all of this and more and still takes a long time, and then others who lead very unhealthy lifestyles and get pregnant from a one night stand. Sadly I think a lot of it is down to luck.

6 months aged 34 for first pregnancy

6 years for second. Now aged 42 and 30+5 after using donor eggs. I can't say I had ever heard of secondary infertility until I found out I had it

We were very lucky, I was 37 and it took one month with no lifestyle changes. I think it really is down to luck, I know many people younger and healthier than me for whom it took far longer. My mum conceived very quickly with me and my sister and so did my sister with her five... maybe it partly runs in the family?? Good luck x

With number one we stopped using condoms and I did ovulation tests. It took 3 months. Number two was a bit of a shock. We had only had unprotected sex once. And I took the morning after pill.

First was unplanned from one chance that month.
Second conceived first month off the pill. Used ovulation strips as we'd just decided to ttc, wasn't convinced I'd got a positive on the ovulation strips but obviously I did!
Third was (happily) conceived through being careless whilst breastfeeding second baby.

First son was conceived ‘accidently’ and after one episode of no contraception, when stupid, and naive 23 year old me, and OH decided that ‘we’d be fine’ after too much tequila on night. We were better than fine obviously, despite the happy surprise we got 2 weeks later!

Son number 2, took 5 months. I was surprised it took us so long because our previous son was so immediate. In the end I did checking the CM yo check when ovulating. I did by ovulation sticks but I never got a positive, even the month I finally conceived.

Currently pregnant with my third, which was due to contraception failure. We used a condom (perfectly - no tears in it, no delay in putting it on) found out I was pregnant soon after. Apparently condom failure is more common than people think, even when used correctly!

First baby - 1st month
Second baby - we weren’t trying, our first child was only 9 months old. My period was due so we weren’t careful just the once, I ovulated 2 weeks late and got pregnant!

We were very healthy anyway, into running, didn’t drink much and ate healthily so we didn’t need to make any special changes. We were both aged 31 and 32 for each pregnancy. We didn’t do any ovulation tests, we just decided to start trying and had sex lots after my period. I think a lot of it was sheer luck, I don’t tell anyone in real life how easy it was for us as I know many people who took over a year for it to happen, I’d never want to seem smug, I just feel bloody lucky.

2 months at 35. We used ovulation testing kits. I had also been tracking my periods/fertile window for about a year using an app (Clue).

A month with Dd. I came off the pill had a normal period and then 4 weeks from then I was pregnant. I was 28 at the time, fit no medical issues. Ds was a surprise we had unprotected sex just the once. We discussed the morning after pill but we were both ok with having another baby close in age so left it to chance . I was 29 when dd was born and 30 with ds. I would say try not to stress or overthink it. Have you got a good idea of the length of your cycle and when you are more likely to be fertile? If not already get yourself into good physical shape . I use an app to monitor periods so felt I understood my cycle a lot better. Good luck x

DD cycle 1
DS cycle 2
We BOTH took conception vitamins before trying and I used ovulation app, but obviously we are just very very lucky! DH had been told his sperm was dead a few years before so he didn't believe the first was his 😂

8 months at age 37. I used ovulation sticks because of my age to make the most of the time we had, I wouldn’t have done if I was 29 though!

1 month, 12 months, 13 months, 2 months for each of my four kids respectively. I didn't make any lifestyle changes, although I did track my ovulation whike struggling to conceive my second and third children.

We didnt actively TTC.

Took 7 months. I was 28.

Lifestyle was pretty much relaxed. Drinking a fair bit but reasonably healthy and lots of exercise.

I think the pressure of actively TTC makes it very stressful. Try and let it happen naturally if you can.

We adopted the "if it happens, it happens" approach. I consider us very lucky to have had such good fortune.

If I remember correctly, we went on holiday for a week and had sex pretty much every day. I was ovulating around that time. That seemed to do the trick.

8 pregnancies, 3 miscarriages and 5 dc
Pg 1 7 cycles
Pg2 4 cycles
Pg3 6 cycles
Pg4 2 cycles
Pg5 first attempt
Pg6 forgot to take pill
Pg7 pill failure
Pg8 pill failure, conceived during period, neonatal sepsis survivor

I was 22 when first started ttc and 31 when I got pregnant with youngest. Used ovulation tests with pg's 2, 3, 4 and 5.

I seem to fall pregnant very easily, however out of 8 pregnancies I only have 2 children.

With my children they pregnancy which stuck for lack of better word were the ones directly following miscarriages 🤷‍♀️

I was 25 when we started trying and first born was at 27!

2 years. After a year of TTC we were referred to the fertility team at the hospital where I was diagnosed with PCOS and given Provera and Clomid to try, which worked on the third round.

In the first year of TTC I tried ovulation tests (useless and waste of money in my circumstances because of ridiculously long cycles) and charting but stopped this as the dr at the hospital said not to bother.

I don't smoke and rarely drink but I did start taking folic acid and multi vitamins very early on while TTC. My DH quit smoking while we were TTC. We used a period tracker app to help.

Thank you so much for your replies!
It’s made me think a lot more realistically about it and I’m definitely going to try and relax about the whole thing.
I’ve done lots of reading about trying to conceive but I’ve not actually heard real people’s actual experiences. This has been much more useful!
Thanks everyone xxx

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