To tell this man to leave this woman after their cruise?

[IAmIronman]

I'm on a week's cruise with my family. Every evening after dinner we've gone to play games in a certain area of the ship, its a quiet ish corner with a selection of board games etc. Next to this area is some seating overlooking the main atrium where there are various singers/musicians etc throughout the evening. Each evening I have seen a couple sitting in the same spot. The woman looks absolutely miserable, I have never once seen her crack a smile or utter more than a couple of words. She sits with her body angled away from her partner/husband. He tries at intervals to engage her in conversation, show her something on his phone, point something out to her. She either ignores him, gives him a withering look, or very occasionally gives him a one or two word answer.
WIBU to tell him there's more to life than this. He's trying so hard and she's giving him nothing back.
Yes, I probably have been observing them too closely, and yes I am a bit over invested in them, but I'm on a cruise, I have nothing better to do with my time.

Id stay out of it. There cold be a number of reasons why shes being like that. She could be upset about something thats outside their relationship and having a hard time. Also, maybe he did something to upset her. Looking from the outside in its easy to make assumptions. I wouldnt say anything, you dont know whats going on and you might get a bad response

Being stuck on a ship with nothing to do, with other people with nothing to do but watch eachother, speculate and make wild assumptions about each other's lives AND post about it on an internet forum would make ME look miserable too I'm afraid!

I’d be like this on a cruise too. My dh is more just a H too so yeah it would be bloody amazing. More likely I would be completely blotto and chatting rubbish to the male servers

You'd think the same of me if you saw me the past week. But you'd have no idea why. I think you're quite insulting and presumptuous to blame her misery on her only. Stop wasting your evenings with concern for this man.

Please, don't get involved. You don't know what's really going on.

I had exactly the same situation as shitpark. My ex would scream at me in private, telling me I was horrible and ruining the whole holiday. Then he would be wonderful in public or shoot a little movie on his phone for later, with a running commentary saying what an incredible time we were having and how lucky he was to have me as his wife. Now that those years are,thankfully, a distant memory, I occasionally find one of these films and wonder why I come across as such a miserable cow in all of them Honestly OP stay out of it, there could be a world of explanations.

Fortunately my husband feels the same about cruises as I do - both of us would rather eat our own livers. If he liked them and dragged me along, I’d sulk throughout.

You WBVU considering you have no idea of the context.

We went on an AI holiday to a small location 3 weeks after my DM died and I was 17 weeks pregnant after a loss the year before. DH is a very approachable, friendly looking person that people naturally gravitate to and he made plenty of accidental friends. I didn’t really want to get involved or talk with anyone at that point (even DH!), even though people tried. I’m sure I looked like a complete bitch to people on the outside of my head.

To be honest a cruise is my idea of hell. Maybe she’s the same and it wasn’t her idea/booked as a surprise.

Perhaps she's permanently seasick and trying to look at a video on a phone makes it worse.

Interesting point of view.
Maybe you should be telling HER to leave him if he makes her so unhappy?
Or maybe they’re on a cruise to try to get over a bereavement, and he’s coping better than her?
Whatever makes her so sad, I’ve been there! It’s only when I counted the steps to the edge of the platform while waiting for my commuter train that I got out.
Maybe, just maybe, she needs a friend?

It could just be that her husband has always wanted to go on a cruise, she has always been convinced she’d hate it, hr has finally persuaded her to go on one but she is absolutely determined not to enjoy it because she’s one of those people who has to be right all the time.

I find it hilarious the way some posters are using this to justify their preconceptions and prejudices about cruises.

Since when has knowing what kind of holiday you like been preconception and prejudice?

I wouldn't like to go on a cruise but wouldn't act like a stroppy teenager if I did.

Maybe this cruise was the last ditch attempt to save their marriage after his 5th affair.

Maybe he’s an absolute wanker and the cruise was his attempt to win her over but she’s not biting.

No idea why you have assumed she is some miserable witch and he deserves better. You have no idea who they are or what they are going through.

I'm on a cruise, I have nothing better to do with my time

Must remember to add this to my long list of Reasons I Would Never Go On A Cruise