To tell this man to leave this woman after their cruise?

[IAmIronman]

I'm on a week's cruise with my family. Every evening after dinner we've gone to play games in a certain area of the ship, its a quiet ish corner with a selection of board games etc. Next to this area is some seating overlooking the main atrium where there are various singers/musicians etc throughout the evening. Each evening I have seen a couple sitting in the same spot. The woman looks absolutely miserable, I have never once seen her crack a smile or utter more than a couple of words. She sits with her body angled away from her partner/husband. He tries at intervals to engage her in conversation, show her something on his phone, point something out to her. She either ignores him, gives him a withering look, or very occasionally gives him a one or two word answer.
WIBU to tell him there's more to life than this. He's trying so hard and she's giving him nothing back.
Yes, I probably have been observing them too closely, and yes I am a bit over invested in them, but I'm on a cruise, I have nothing better to do with my time.

He might be like that with her in public. We don't know what he's like to her when they are on their own.

That could have been us, I procrastinated on booking then h announced he wanted out of our marriage, if we had a cruise booked it could have been an interesting fortnight (I wouldn't waste the booking neither would he)

This would have been me and my abusive ex two years ago on holidays

My face was sad and I was angled away from him as a few hours earlier he told me how he would flatten me to the ground
There was no getting away from him that trip and to make matters worse we were staying with cousins who thought he was a gent

You just never ever know

I would look like this if I were forced onto a cruise.
She may have serious depression, be struggling with some news or even - shock horror - not actually be enjoying herself.
Stay out of it op. You have no reason to meddle other than the occasional glimpse into their interactions as a couple.

Stay out of it. You don’t know what’s happened. Could be anything.

She's acting like he's done something to piss her off. You'd have to ask yourself OP, how bad would it have to be for her to behave like this to him. It's probably pretty bad. Don't get involved.

You have to stay out of this. For all you know he beats her, rapes her, whatever and acts adoring in public. Maybe he's had an affair. You don't know why she's behaving like this and it might not be she's horrid and he's lovely it could be something really awful he's done.

Stay out of it.

I have been on a cruise at the insistence of Dp as he loves them.

That could have been me. I didn’t want to be there. It was really boring as you are finding out. And there was no way out.

Maybe she is pissed off that his idea of evening entertainment on holiday is showing her things on his phone?

I think the OP knows that she is making a judgment only based on what she can see, without knowing the full story.

But the woman could easily just be a miserable old so and so as much as he could be a nasty piece of work.

It's always the man's fault - she should leave him

Maybe he sprung a surprise cruise on her and she is seasick

Are you sure they're not Giles and Mary from Gogglebox?

Just wondering how the OP would feel if the woman came up to her offering relationship advice based on random people watching.

Could have been me a while ago with severe PTSS and PND after our stillborn. I couldn't smile for a while. DH still loves me. Sometimes bad things happen and one of the spouses develops mental health issues. It happens, people get better, no reason to leave someone the second something is wrong.

Maybe she’s pissed off that he booked a really boring holiday. And feels self conscious because she keeps catching a random woman staring at her.

You can't just go up to a random stranger on a cruise and tell them to leave their spouse. This isn't 'Love Boat'. Maybe she is grieving because her pet Goldfish Pip died on the first day of the cruise.

It’s none of your business.

Leave well alone.

Totally none of your business. We all enjoy a bit of people watching / observing on holiday. But you know absolutely nothing about them or what’s going on in their lives.

Why not try to talk to her without commenting that shes not that happy? as other posters have pointed out there may be a lot reasions why shes like that but I'm sure you can strike up a simple conversation?

She might even like someone else to talk to other than her DH!

Mind you if i were to go on a cruise this is the only way to do it on a proper 3 masted sailing Barque:)

That main mast is some 180 odd feet high and no, they don't let you up there!

Maybe he's refusing to go on any of the excursions she wants to go on. Maybe he refused to sing at the karaoke. Maybe he's refusing to learn to dance even though there are dance lessons right there on the ship and he promised! Maybe he buys over-priced tat from the ship's shop every day. Maybe he's blown their holiday budget in the on-ship casino already . . .there is so much scope for animosity on a cruise

Maybe she is grieving because her pet Goldfish Pip died on the first day of the cruise.

Yeah or she let him out for a swim and he never came back

Maybe they are perfectly happy
What dazzling interaction are you having with your partner?

I’m going to remember this thread about the sheer, mind-boggling excitement of cruises every time my ILs try to persuade us to go on one with them.