To walk out of hen do.

[Burlea]

Last night there was about 15 ladies at a friends house. She is getting married for the 3rd time next Saturday. Unfortunately her 1st husband died, her 2nd marriage ended because she cheated with the man she marrys on Saturday.
We were drinking, chatting and laughing. No problems there until 3 ladies including the bride decided to talk about how they had cheated. The talk got more and more crude
as they were discussing 3somes, positions etc.It seemed as though they wanted to be the naughtiest. . Now I'm no prude but I am good friends with her ex-husband and also the ex-wife of the groom to be.(we live in a very small town). One person stood up and said I don't mind having a laugh but this is not funny as she walked out myself and another friend joined her.
This morning I got a group chat from the bride saying that us 3 are boring and that's what hen parties are about. Were we being UR.

I read it as you were the groom’s ex wife too!

YWNBU

I wouldn’t reply. Agreeing that you’re boring is unfair on you and the others. Just ignore her nonsense.

Not condoning the cheating part but I honestly don't see the big deal in all this "how crude" business... My close friends and I have openly discussed all manner of things and had a laugh about old awkward encounters and the males of the groups escapades. It's sex! We all do it! In fact I openly object to subjects being classed as taboo or people regarding themselves as higher classiness because of their prudish outlook. If its not your bag fair enough but don't judge others for being open and comfortable especially if you're going to stay friends with them. The cheating is another matter though...

Grim. Tacky. Desperate.
Two leopards (or, cheetahs!) getting married.
Won't last.

YANBU OP - and I am loving the hilarious misreading of your post on the thread too.

YANBU. Having been on the receiving end of a cheating exH, I too would have walked out. They have no idea of the devastation it leaves behind when found out.

YWNBU at all. It was chavvy, crude behaviour. I bet it was all made up, or elaborated on, anyway.

Her third marriage, you say? I give it 6 months.

I wonder who unluckly number four will be. You know this marriage wont last.

I openly object to subjects being classed as taboo or people regarding themselves as higher classiness because of their prudish outlook.

Fair enough. I don't think I'm in any way superior for being rather more private about my sex life, and not enjoying parties centred around flogging sex toys. I do however, object to being labelled a prude for being of that mind.

Happy to be boring in this instance

Agree as per with Anyfucker.

Decorum is an incredibly old-fashioned word & the idea out-dated, but I think it is still relevant.

I expect most of them were outright lying too.

Do not reply agreeing that you are boring. You're not, so why say it. Why would you give her any credit given the way she and her colleagues were talking about your friends (the 2 ex partners)? You did the right thing leaving and personally I wouldn't reply to her text.

Oh yuck. That doesn't sound like a fun evening to me.
Happy to join you in the boring club!

I'd reply with "happy for you to think I'm boring".

Thereby not outright agreeing you're boring, as you are not. Showboating about the ins and outs of your extramarital liaisons is not being 'fun'.

@Burlea

Urgh they sound revolting. YANBU obviously. Groups of women yabbering on about their sex life/positions/places they did it/his cock size and so on is utterly repugnant. And as a few posters have said, chavvy, crass, desperate, crude, and common.

I don't give a shit if it's 'just sex' - it's a private and personal thing between 2 people, and I wouldn't talk to anyone else about it, anymore than I would talk about the consistency and frequency of my shits, the way I insert my tampons and how thick the blood clots are, or how many lumps were in the vomit I chucked up when I had a tummy bug a few months back.

If I thought DH was behaving like this, and telling a bunch of mates about our sex life/what my ladybits look like/what positions we have been in etc, I would be apoplectic with rage.

And by the way, I also hate it when MEN discuss their sex lives and what their women look like, loudly, in groups, in public too.

Vile.

Pretty good to see the vast majority of posters are on the same page, and also think these women are vile.

So you are good friends with 1) ex husband who was cheated on 2) ex wife who was cheated on and 3) the women who ruined both of these marriages????

the women who ruined both of these marriages???

Why is it the women that ruined both of the marriages? Did the bloke not pay a part in this

I'd have walked out too.

I was under the impression that a hen do was about having a few drinks and a bop. Not shag boasting and making yourself look like an immature teen.

Definitely avoid hen 5.

@UnicornDust9 yeah seriously. The guy could have kept his dick in his pants but people won’t say that first. The woman gets the blame first.

Apologies. The woman was the common denominator in the demise of both marriages (definately to blame for her own failed marriage me thinks?)

I wasn't being very direct but my point was how is the OP able to be "really good friends" with all parties?

Women talk about sex on a hen do
Shock

YWNBU or ‘boring’.
Women talk about sex on a hen do
I think the OP made it clear it was the talking about cheating on partners that she found uncomfortable listening.

Nope, you are not being unreasonable for leaving the meeting of cheaters not so anonymous.

I'm not sure where they got the idea that this is what hen parties are about, just ridiculous.

Well done to all of you who actually stood up and left, I'm sure many would not tolerate such talk. Here's to being boring