To wonder why men still do this?

[Marvelboys]

I was sitting at some traffic lights today in my car, nice sunny day so window wound down, toddler ds in the back, minding my own business waiting for little guys to change.. A youngish man in a van waiting at lights going on opposite direction.

All of a sudden he shouted really loud at me "I hope you've washed it". I jumped out of my skin as it startled me, and looked over to see who was shouting, so he laughed and mimicked my jumping, I gave him a filthy look and he loudly said "hahahaha" and drove off.

I think the "hope you've washed it" was referring to my hair as I was fiddling with my hair. But really, what the fuck?

I thought my days of casual street harassment were over but apparently not.

That should have said 'lights to change'.

Omg! He sounds hilarious...so witty and funny. Hope you gave him your number or at least joined the queue of women

You should have shouted back, "you don't look like you've washed in a while prick".

Doesn't he just? I just don't get it.

Drog wish I had shouted that. Unfortunately I was too surprised at the time to say anything.

I was sitting in a queue of stop-start traffic on a dual carriageway, windows open, enjoying the radio. The bloke in the car in the lane next to me shouts over to ask if I'm OK. Yes, I say, what is the problem? He says I keep stopping too close to the car in front. I say, have I hit the car in front? He says, no but that's not the point. I say, yes, it is exactly the point as I know how long my bonnet is, thank you very much. Unfortunately he then pulled away because my next question was going to be "Would you have said this if I was a man?"

It's a good question. Why do men do this? It's so odd. A lifetime of their shit behaviour being excused by enabling women saying things like 'boys will be boys' and so on.
Everyday sexism and all that. So depressing.

Tell them "I'm a police officer" and make like you're photographing their vehicle etc.

This is why I don't like having my windows open when stopped/in traffic, I can't be arsed dealing with strange men. There are too many of them around.

I don't think it's even 'strange' men crazy, it's just a lot of men generally feel entitled to comment on women's appearance, behaviour, etc, in a way they never would to another man. It's utterly wearisome.

Because they are entitled twats who each think they are the most entertaining centres of the universe. Next question?
How are we raising these men?

If I were in charge any man doing this would have his car confiscated for one year.

I was once walking home from work and a white van man sailed past and shouted ‘show me your knockers!’ I mean with an offer like that how did I manage to resist???
(If I found out any of my sons had shouted that at 10pm at a lone woman walking to the bus stop I would have pulled their heads off and stuffed it up their arses)

It's a good question. Why do men do this? It's so odd.

AND they only do it to women, it's a power thing.

If they were generally dickish, they'd say it to anyone.

They like intimidating women.

Tell them "I'm a police officer" and make like you're photographing their vehicle etc.

At a set of lights with the engine running?

MsTSwift I like your thinking.

Darkatendoftunnel I've just been having this debate with dh.

After sitting there and thinking, thats the best he could come up with? it doesnt even make sense.

I can just ignore it, I've been putting up with low level harassment since I was 12, it hardly ever happens now, but it's utterly depressing that men do it at all.

And I don't care what anyone say, it's is mainly men who do things like this, and it is done to women.

I suppose it made him feel powerful, which is sad and pathetic.

Men yell at me whenever I cycle to work (no I don't wear Lycra) it's getting to seeing-red level now

Tell them "I'm a police officer" and make like you're photographing their vehicle etc.

Yes, @Toombumber let's advise the OP to commit a crime, please explain how she can pretend to photograph someone whilst behind the wheel?

I got 'helped' to park my car the other day. I don't need help I can park like a ninja. I'd be interested to know if men have to put up with that. I know its not the same as being harassed but all the same its bloody infuriating.

'I'm a police officer, I have your registration' maybe? Or do (actually, don't!) do as I did the other day...pulling out of junction of McDonald's drive through. There was a car coming but there was TONS of time and space for me to safely pull out. Except this wanker decided he didn't want me to get ahead of him and absolutely FLOORED it, tyre screech type speed up, and of course had to break because I was already half out of the junction mid turn. He still tried to squeeze past me but I stood my ground and gave him a filthy looks. He knew what he'd done. He pulled up next to me by traffic lights futher on, wound down his passenger window and started screaming obscenities at me, almost foaming at the mouth, and load of mysoginistic vitriol it was too. Normally I'd have been pretty freaked out/upset, but this calm sort of rage came over me and I thought 'nope. I'm not taking this', looked him dead in the eye and threw the chip I was eating straight into his car and wound up my window! I honestly don't know what came over me, and looking back it was a terrible idea given how much of a rage he was in but I just SNAPPED. It was such a cold calm anger too.

I realise it's a bit different to the low level comment type unsolicited harassment but ugh! I can guarantee he'd never have behaved that way towards another man. The low level stuff is really wearing though. I can't run on the road anymore as the beeps and shouts just make me feel too self conscious and under siege.

Impersonating a Police Officer is an offence so perhaps don’t do that.

boys but it's very dangerous to tailgate. I hate tailgaters.