To find Mumsnet to be very Victorian?

[Calltheguards]

I'm not sure if maybe this was always the case and I'm just slow to pick up on it but... AIBU to find Mumsnet very Victorian? It seems like a lot of people post here just to shame others and like to control/dictate behaviour. In a historical context the shame aspect reminds me of the Victorian Era with individuals gossiping amongst neighbours to join in. Flaming the OP for having feelings that are contrary to the majority seems a bit of a sport.

Is Mumsnet the technical modern age answer to Victorian Era levels of propriety and shame? I'm just posting this for discussion of an observation and wondering if this was always the point of this website.

LipstickHandbagCoffee's been a member of this parish for a few years I'd warrant.

If that was the case she'd know the policy on troll hunting, it's not a secret.

I agree with Saskia. Bore off, OP. And I ca n give you a reading list if you’d like to actually know something about the Victorians.

Do you know, OP I’ve had a realisation recently that I’m incredibly hard on myself, constantly thinking people will judge me and I was beginning to think that being on MN was something to do with that, having just read some of this thread I am now even more certain! You’re right. It’s an incredibly pious place. I think I might stick to telly addicts from now on.

I'm another one who'd like to see some actual Victorian connections with MN (that the OP hasn't imagined). What social networks, what public shaming.

You haven't thought this out, OP, have you? Or read any social history of Victorian times which ran, if it helps, from 1819-1901, so quite a long time.

Are you lot trying to prove OPs point in an ironic way, or..

Lovin craftycorvid post
My fantasy picture of the ‘MN Bot Victorian era model’ is a sparrow-limbed, glossy haired specimen who makes Gwynneth Paltrow look as though she simply isn’t making an effort. She combines perfect and fragrant childcare with a high-flying career, has a firm-jawed yet sensitive DH and a fulfillingly monogomous sex life in which counselling is sought for any improper thought that should occur to the said DH

In my mind the fantasy mn woman
Can fashion any meal out a skinny chicken. Can feed a family of 5 for £2.77 but her husband earns a telephone number salary (6/fugures natch). All the kids excel at sport,activities,music,piano,Modern dance in the interpretative style. The mum changes sheets daily,has guest towels,no bog brush. A drawer full of thoughtful presents and assorted items waiting to be wrapped. Would steam clean her foof if dyson made an attachment

Why are you guys being so sensitive? It's not like I've posted pictures of my ankles

Anyways I guess discussions are not allowed here! Apologies.

It all seems very liberal until you confess feelings for someone who isn't single or who is the same sex. Then you'd better get ready to duck the flame throwers.

MN is pretty middle class and you only have to look at the family meal plans to see that.
Fish cooked in paper (I know there's a posh term for this but I can't remember what it is) is apparently a popular midweek family meal.
The only fish in paper my DCs will eat is if it comes from the chippy.

I never have and never will familiarise myself with mn policies

If you don’t like mumsnet, don’t read it. It’s not compulsory.

Fish cooked in a bag en papillote
Works for fish,shite for crispy pancakes

It's possible to enjoy MN and not get bristly by someone discussing their critical observations of the site. MN ain't your frail grandma. She's a tough old beast.

YABVU

OP you don’t have a Victorian Mums eat problem, you have a husband problem! So you should get all your ducks in a row and LTB making sure to pack the zoflora before you leave.

mumsnet not mums eat

Hang on...I just assumed the majority of mumsnetters were fat, gin-loving and unsentimental about their children? I rarely get the impression of kale guzzling. Virtue signalling, yes.
It's fun and interesting for schadenfreude, baby names and freedom from too much PCness though.
Online anonymous groups of women infinitely more interesting than the real group of mothers in the waiting room of my daughter's dance class. All being genuinely interested in each other's newborns, comparing the uselessness of their husbands, the stressfulness of work, the parties and accomplishments of their children with Kath Kidston flavoured names... I'm just bemused by them.

How many times can you say 'you guys'?

Many many times.

I dont think MN is anything particularly.

Some threads seem horribly over-tolerant and bordering on permissive in my opinion (e.g. some school threads / women martyring themselves to pick up after a DH who is allowed to be a massive man child), whilst others are super uptight in my opinion (e.g. pearl clutchy about people ringing doorbells and loo brushes, how their child's life will be over without the right tutor for the 3+ exam and how they've scrimped and saved for the £20,000 school fees a year).

We've all got different experiences and different lines on different issues and that's what makes it good.

"You guys" is better than "Hun".

Anyways I guess discussions are not allowed here!

The stock response from an OP who isn't getting it all their own way.

OP "wondering if this was always the point of this website."

no, the point of the website is to make money and the founder has done a great job there.

you also mention posters trying to control the behaviour of other posters - I'd love to know how to do that from behind my keyboard

seriously, MN is huge, millions of things, lots of useful discussions and advice too.

Glad it's not just me who boaks at "guys".

You guys better than the asinine platitudes
Sweetie
Hun
This too will pass
I’m here

Anyways I guess discussions are not allowed here!

The stock response from an OP who isn't getting it all their own way.

Quite.