To approach a man I see running?

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I go for a run every Saturday morning and I quite regularly see a man who is also running. A few weeks ago he was wearing shorts and I admit I probably did look him up and down when we passed each other and I think he saw this. I then gave him a little smile, which most people do when they pass each other. When we passed each other a second time I think he wiped his sweat off and adjusted himself just before we got to each other.

Fast forward a couple of weeks and when I saw him next I looked down as I was a bit embarrassed to be honest but just as we passed, I looked up at him and he was smiling at me.

Anyway, he is good looking and for some reason I am really drawn to him. Obviously I know nothing about him or his relationship status but AIBU to try and flirt, or say something to him, try and attract his attention etc? What should I do?

Yes I know I need to sort myself out before going near another man. I'm working on that.

Bless ya.
I wish you well.
And I'm giving you respect for coming back and owning it.
You deserve better than what has been offer.
So, put the past behind you and move on.

You clearly have the ability to do so, so do it.

Here she didn't even bother to NC

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3586821-struggling-to-cope-with-this-mess

t sounds like you are seeking affirmation from men about your attractiveness and worth.

And seeking affirmation from mumnetters that you can have a friendship circle that you don’t have in real life?

Just a punt. Op you cut a rather tragic figure in many respects. I think you need to distance yourself from mumsnet. And married men.

I was just seeking anonymous advice from lots of different perspectives. I'm not tragic, I just lost my way for a while. But luckily I'm developing a thick skin! I imagine someone in a bad way could feel a million times worse after posting here for advice.

Hmm, I think you saying that a married man who cheats on his wife of 3 years and has 6 month old baby for a bit of fun, is too good for me (or anyone) is a bit odd to be honest.

No, I’m saying that he “thinks” he is too good for you. He never started this thinking you were amazing. Or that you were the “one”. He just started this thinking you were too easy and he was giving you some of his glory.

And as you have confirmed. You also realise he is a scumbag for what he did to his wife. And you were wanting a relationship with him. You were accepting a scumbag for yourself.. knowingly. which is exactly why, you need to find your self worth.

The judgement and assumptions made by some people is ridiculous. I'm asking that this thread and my other two are deleted.

You can’t just have your threads deleted because you don’t like the replies.

I hope MNHQ refuse.

You can't have your threads deleted because you have been caught out

Sometimes you need to hear the painful truth to make a U-turn in your life. Which you really need.

I do wish you the best. And wish you a very quick wake up call.

It started as friendly chats and emails, we made each other laugh and talked about shared interests. Some of the comments from him after this made me realise he was attracted to me and I went with it.
He didn't just approach me and ask for sex and I said ok.

I'm just saying that he didn't just sniff out my sad pathetic easyness. I was settled when we started talking, not happy but settled with life.

Ok but you’re still very much married and on mymsnet posting about wanting to start something with this runner

You’re all over the place

Clearly an unhappy marriage

But still married nonetheless

So you were planning on dragging some seemingly innocent guy out running in to your mess (and with children involved)

Satan's trousers! people who creep over strangers in the street are unpleasant people shocker!

Hate to say I told you so. Actually I dont hate it. Im smug.

All of us would be nicer face to face, I'm sure. No matter what the circumstances.

OP, you've owned it. So, move on and dont let this derail you from what you need to do.

I commented on your last thread. I said i told a married man who was pursuing me, to fuck off.

He took my words to heart.
Left his wife and later came knocking.....just as I found my partner was having an affair. Great timing for him.😳

Less so for me.

Or his wife. Im sure they could have got back together with time.

Sorry to derail, but I'm trying to emphasise that it is best to be without a relationship at times, rather than sucked into one or go looking to make yourself feel better.

It is time to focus on you and your DC. Put all the other dysfunctional relationships behind you.

Running man has had a lucky escape.

Of course I am sure all these people have never made a mistake in their life!

If that mistake is having an fling with a married man, then no, I’m not sure most people have made that mistake.

Well if the user name fits...

Get a dog.

Run running man. Run.