To approach a man I see running?

[messychocolate]

I go for a run every Saturday morning and I quite regularly see a man who is also running. A few weeks ago he was wearing shorts and I admit I probably did look him up and down when we passed each other and I think he saw this. I then gave him a little smile, which most people do when they pass each other. When we passed each other a second time I think he wiped his sweat off and adjusted himself just before we got to each other.

Fast forward a couple of weeks and when I saw him next I looked down as I was a bit embarrassed to be honest but just as we passed, I looked up at him and he was smiling at me.

Anyway, he is good looking and for some reason I am really drawn to him. Obviously I know nothing about him or his relationship status but AIBU to try and flirt, or say something to him, try and attract his attention etc? What should I do?

I think you need to be stopped next time he passes. If he stops then he’s into you, if not then he’s probably TinklyLittleLaughs husband

Go with 'hello' and killer smile. No amdram needed. Go on, what's the worse that can happen? He doesn't respond and you hve to run a slightly different route. Meh, life is short.

The amount of women casually quizing their dh now

So did you see many people on your run saturday dear...

Not to be too much of a buzz-kill but, isn’t it most likely he’s just smiling because it’s friendly when you see someone a lot?

Have your name and number on a piece of paper, as you run towards each other make it obvious you have something for him..shout here you go...he takes the piece of paper and you spend the next week 3 days wondering if he's going to text you, until on day 3 you recieve a photo of his nob with a winking emoji.

day 4 you send him a picture of your boobs

day five you find out he's married with 4 kids and an aggressive miniature Schnauzer

It's the modern way.

Could you reverse your route so he might catch up with you and run alongside?

I run along an old railway line, with about 3 miles between each end. I run from A to B, he runs B to A. So if timed correctly he could pass each other twice on one run.

He doesn't look like a particularly serious runner to be honest, think baggy shorts and baggy top compared to Lycra! He certainly doesn't zoom past he at the same speed as some men. He has more footballers legs 😀 and he is older than me. I'm 35, I'd say he is mid 40s ish, very sexy though.

As he approaches stop then start running backwards directly in front of him. Then stop suddenly and grab him when he runs into you.

trip and go down heavily on an ankle just before you reach him

Well, Lougher I completely misread that as “trip and go down heavily on him” which I think is probably a bit forward and difficult with a Lycra barrier.

Next time you go running, wear full makeup and heels. Maybe a ball gown if you're feeling extra saucy.

Get a cowbell and make a sign saying 'Looking sexy [insert name here]'

Then get in position and wait.
Cheer & ding-a-ling as he passes. Twice.

It's the runners way.

I'm 35, I'd say he is mid 40s ish, very sexy though.

Did you check for a ring? There's a good chance he's already married/attached at that age

Not yet checked for a ring. But hard to try and stare at his hand though, he might think I'm looking at something else! 🙈

Deffo try and be stopped the next time he passed you, pretend to be tying your shoelace or something.

Or just go for the makeup, heels and ballgown 😂

he might think I'm looking at something else!

hahahaha that could work too

Do you have a nice lace hankercheif you could drop as he passes, it worked in Victorian times.

My hunch is that if he's doing the same route at the same time, he's probably got restrictions on his time e.g. a family.

How do you mean you pass each other twice? Do you run from A to B and then back to A, so 6 miles? That's a decent length for a casual run.

If you seem to be passing him at the same spot then you must be running at about the same pace. If so, that's a good opener to suggest running together (if you are bold enough).

Yeah I run A to B to A, and him B to A to B.

I think he is faster than me, I could try and sprint a bit and look even more red and sweaty than I already do... really not the time to attract a man!

Ask him if he fancies a race back to point A. If he does then you'll both chat at the end. If he doesn't but likes you then you've given him his line ("no, but I fancy you").

‘drop’ something in front of him and carry on going. If he calls after you check for a ring

Messy: "Are you single?"
Runner: "Yes!"
Messy: "Great, let's snog!"

Or...

Runner: ""No, sorry"
Messy: "You fucking will be sorry, your wife's on Mumsnet"

@GoodbyeRosie oh that made me laugh!!!!

And Bend and Snap!!

Such a fun thread. I always smile at people when I run - I didn't realise they might think I fancy them! However, I've never met a handsome man running.

Start a bit earlier so your B to A coincides with his

I saw an attractive dog walker once. He was the object of my desire for weeks!

Do you always see him In the same place? Can you drape yourself across a handy tree/bench/fence and look alluring (it's ok , he's a runner too, he's not going to be pur off by a bit of sweat)