to not go back to children's centre due to spanish inquisition

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First time there- my 16 month has sahd who doesn't tend to take him to things. Socially he is fine, but just wanted him to get used to being around kids a bit more. From seeing him today, he's fine and gets stuck in.

BUT, as I was new (first time I had been) the workers (are they HVS of nursery nurses-- not entirely sure) swooped in and started asking loads of questions- whereabouts do I live, where do I work? I replied with the town I work in and then wanted to know what I do! I told them- I should have really told them to mind their own business.
Needless to say I won't be going back, I went there for my son, not to be asked a million questions!

@JoyceDivision beause he doesn't want to- he gets plenty of outings

They probably changed in attitude because they sense your feelings of not wanting to really engage about it and then backed off to try and stop you feeling like you had been questioned.

I certainly learnt over the years that even those parents with "middle class professions" sometimes just need someone to talk to who isnt their family or friends. But it comes with experience.

Every person is different and it's hard to judge from the first time they attend.

SAHD who “Doesn’t tend to take him to things”.

What does he do with him?

Right.

Sounds like fairly normal conversation to have. They are just questions. I'm sure they weren't profiling you.

I used to go to various tots clubs when I was on maternity leave. I found one of the mums went to our local Children's Centre so I went along to see what it was like, I got the third degree but she had a clip board and kept writing things down. I didn't go back, just stuck to the church and community centre groups.

It’s pretty sad when someone is being polite and starting a conversation, people take offence. She was only asking what you do for a job!

All classes use the childrens centres round here. We visited several nurseries including v expensive private nurseries and the childrens centre. It was the best hands down. One woman who i met as her little boy went there with ds, was a published author. She was very well off, she could have hired several ft nannies but she chose the CC for her childcare too, because it was excellent. She also wasnt ignored because she was well off!

Sounds like normal 'getting to know you' questions.

@PlantPotParrot- not at all- I had a conversation about her village as I started asking her some questions and asked if she knew someone I used to knew from 25 years back. I am quite good at conversing with people. I just don't understand why the second question is asking me about my job

You sound very narky, like you're looking for a row on a non stop basis. Chill out. Don't take him anywhere if that's your preference.

He pays her over £500 a month
Exactly what I thought

I went to the children’s centre group when I was really isolated and vulnerable and nobody spoke to me.
I wish they had tried to offer me support.

Maybe you didn’t need it but others might and they won’t know if they don’t ask.

I think you are over reading into the job question. It is a general small talk question, it's not to judge you or anything.

If you little one enjoys it, that's the main thing.

Damn it wrong copy and past!

I am quite good at conversing with people
I am not sure that is true. Loads of people have asked me about my job. People do! Especially when youre about to or have just returned to work! Its up there with "did you have a nice weekend" in terms of small talk.

What does he do with him?
Hmmmm

Plays with him, reads with him, talks to him, takes him for walks, gardening, plays in garden. What normal people do with 16 month kids

If your attitude comes through like this un real life, id assume thats why they left you alone, not because of your profession

That one

Why does it matter if they ask questions?! You’re in a children’s centre and probably accessing free children’s groups 1. They may have identified you are new to the centre and was making conversation or 2. Making conversation so they understand more about your home life situation etc etc

If you don’t like it don’t go again. Simple.

P.s. no one cares about your middle class occupation. Whether you are a lawyer or a dinner lady or bloody Meghan markle you are welcomed in these centres.

Normal people take 16 month olds out of the house as much as humanly possible to avoid going mad. (Well i did anyway its a hard age!)

I just don't understand why the second question is asking me about my job

Maybe the conversation wasn't really sparkling, and she sensed that your professional background is very important to you?

(Venture capitalist? Colorectal surgeon? Taxidermist?)

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha

(hint: you’re at a children’s centre, you’re working class)

Not true around here!

Yeah it is. Unless you’re like the Op and think having a profession makes you middle class

I'd love to know what your job is that your this much so desperately trying to hide/not tell anyone!

To be honest I just find the workers in children's centres ( not all) a bit nosey and busy bodies. I think I may take him again, but yeah look for other community groups where my son can just go along and play without getting third degree.

I'm not narky- but of course going on AIBU I did expect to get attacked. Thanks for your responses

cherrycoke not true round here at all and not always to do with profession either. As well as the author i mentioned theres a lot of "old money" round here who again use the childrens centre nursery simply because its the best local nursery.