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Original poster

To think that Deliciously Ella is unbearably smug?

199 replies

Jane1789 · 19/05/2019 19:42

Just that really. I used to be a fan. However recent pregnancy updates are incredibly smug and found her podcast awful - constantly interrupting guests. Am I being mean? Not sure why it annoys me so much!

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AlexaAmbidextra · 19/05/2019 20:30

Unkind of you to write this post about her when she’s likely to see it.

Posters see things written about them every day on MN. The site consists of others opinions about posters and their situations.

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 19/05/2019 20:30

Agreed HeckyPeck
When I was pregnant I was going to be a perfect earth mother who would know exactly what my contended baby would need. This all changed and it was hard. But surely it's ok for pregnant women to feel happy, optimistic and positive. And that may be the way it turns out for them.
If you are reading this Ella. Please ignore the gaggle of witches. There are much more people who love what you do.

Sennedd · 19/05/2019 20:30

Ella’s mother in law, Tessa Jowell died a few months ago and it must have been very difficult for the family. She has had debilitating illness herself so if she is having a happy relaxed pregnancy I am very pleased for her. I don’t read her posts but I do have her books. Like any cookery books, some recipes are great and some not. It depends on the person.
I see no need to criticise her. I don’t know her.

Timeless19 · 19/05/2019 20:31

Am I being mean? Not sure why it annoys me so much!

This isn't really about Deliciously Ella, but you. She obviously triggers something you dislike about yourself/your situation.

Get to the root of that and then maybe you wont need to post AIBU about some hormonal pregnant woman.

Napqueen1234 · 19/05/2019 20:31

I think all of those incredibly privileged mums instas can come across as a bit smug. Tbh I find it more annoying when they moan about how hard it is and how bad they feel and why they deserve/need a blow dry and a shopping spree and a massage etc etc (which they get free for advertising #ad #spon) probs just me feeling envious of their lifestyles Grin

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 19/05/2019 20:32

I dont understand women attacking pregnant women.
Jealously is not becoming ladies.

evilharpy · 19/05/2019 20:32

I don't see much of what she posts as I rarely use IG, but I do like her cookbooks.

Somebody upthread mentioned nepotism; is she related to someone famous?

Passthecherrycoke · 19/05/2019 20:33

There are some oddly defensive posts on here. Ella is in the public eye, and she’s built a successful and lucrative career from it. She’s not daft enough to think she doesn’t have her critics Hmm why shouldn’t people
Post things like this? She’s put herself in the public eye.

AlexaAmbidextra · 19/05/2019 20:34

I dont understand women attacking pregnant women.
Jealously is not becoming ladies

Jealous? Of pregnancy? 😂. Oh give over.

StarShapedWindow · 19/05/2019 20:36

Her birth plan is fine - she’s stated that she’s aware she will need to go to hospital if there’s a complication. I had both my DC at home in a birthing pool - we all know if things go wrong we go to hospital. If you have trained midwives they will know if there’s a problem.

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Jane1789 · 19/05/2019 20:37

I’m not jealous of her pregnancy. But perhaps you are right @Timeless19 - maybe it is more about me and my own insecurities.

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StargazyDrifter · 19/05/2019 20:37

Surely point 2 of Ella's latest Instragram post suggests that she isn't reading Mumsnet any more?

2. Saying bye to google, forums & books like what to expect when you’re expecting - I found they created anxiety thinking about all the things that could go wrong. Instead I’m trying to trust & listen to my body.

Besides, Ella has put herself in the public eye, including in relation to Tessa Jowell's death and her pregnancy, with lengthy posts and ongoing commentary, when she really didn't have to. This is both sad, in my opinion, because she shouldn't have to sell her life like this, but also something that is therefore inevitably going to be discussed publicly as a consequence.

Separately, there are a lot to plugs for stuff in her posts and I'd love to know if these are all genuine finds or partial ads. I guess we'll never quite know.

Crunchytowel · 19/05/2019 20:39

Ah no, leave Ella alone, it's like kicking Bambi. Of course she's an overprivileged rich kid who made it because of who her dad is, but I've a soft spot for her particular brand of totally naive optimism. I bought her book when it first came out, life was very hard for me at the time for a variety of reasons, and it really cheered me up and helped me feel that I was doing something good for myself. Bless her. Let her enjoy her first pregnancy

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 19/05/2019 20:39

AlexaAmbidextra
The original post was regarding Ella personally, not necessarily to do her pregnancy. So yes perhaps you are jealous!

Buddytheelf85 · 19/05/2019 20:41

I’m not a fan either OP. I bought her first book but found that a lot of the recipes weren’t very good. I also found the her style of writing really irritating - ‘this awesome goodness is so awesomely full of totally awesome goodness’!! I sold the book on Amazon Marketplace pretty quickly.

dairymilkmonster · 19/05/2019 20:43

I find the whole clean eating/vegan/ we grow all our own food brigade a challenge. They clearly feel they are better humans than dietcoke and chocolate scarfing folks like me.

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 19/05/2019 20:44

Crunchytowel
Exactly! Let her enjoy her pregnancy.
Where is the love and positivity?
I bet all these negative responses are from people who are unhappy.
Look at your own life..

AlexaAmbidextra · 19/05/2019 20:49

So yes perhaps you are jealous!

I assure you I’m not. 😄. I always think this response of ‘jealousy’ is so juvenile. It’s the stuff of the playground.

TantricTwist · 19/05/2019 20:51

I think she's lovely.

Her recipes all come from having to deal with a serious debilitating condition which she thought would also help other people.
She doesn't come across as smug, if she does at the moment, it's because she is actually in a happy place without feeling guilty about it for a change.
I guess due to family money she was able to give the time and effort to her recipes and business not having to slog her guts out working to subsidise it all and therefore no doubt all her bills were paid but then so are plenty of other people's.

Floatyboat · 19/05/2019 20:52

Yabu to have ever respected her. She spouts nonsensical pseudoscience in a deliberately aspirational yet (for many) anxiety provoking way.

If she were a food she would be "dirty".

Bluntness100 · 19/05/2019 20:53

Well we would hate a woman to be happy and successful now wouldn't we. Totally irritating. It's vitally important to start a thread to drag her down a peg or two. Make us feel better about ourselves right. A few swift well aimed kicks to make us feel that little bit better about our shitty lives.

elsabadogigante · 19/05/2019 20:57

I'm too old to have children and still have nightmares that I'm pregnant. I can't think of anything I'd be less jealous of. Yuk! Hated being pregnant.

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 19/05/2019 20:58

AlexaAmbidextra
Since when has the word "jealous"been childish?!

Just the name Deliciously Ella irritates me. It just smacks of smugness

Ok maybe you're not jealous, Just mean!

Passthecherrycoke · 19/05/2019 20:59

It is childish to accuse anyone who doesn’t like another person of being jealous of them. Jealousy is a personality trait, and not everyone has it. It says more about you than the person you’re accusing to go straight to the jealousy accusation

StargazyDrifter · 19/05/2019 20:59

There is a difference between dragging down women (unquestionably wrong) and objecting to the setting of a dubious online example/peddling pseudo science. She has a public platform and has a duty to use it responsibly. People's views on whether she does or not are completely legitimate. Ella isn't some random girl next door, what you see is a PR creation and a business.