To be pissed off over eggs?

[cricketmum84]

Ok I know this is totally a first world problem but I'm feeling rather pissed off today so this could be the last straw lol!

My DH went to the supermarket this morning and I had put "free range eggs" on the list. I'm a vegetarian, almost vegan but not quite given up cheese yet. I'm quite hot on animal welfare.

He came back from the shops with eggs from caged hens. Doesn't see anything wrong with this at all and says because I don't eat eggs I don't get a say. I say that I don't want eggs from caged hens in my house and I don't want my family contributing to the survival of that industry.

Am I just being a moody cow today or do I have a point??

I don't want eggs from caged hens in my house

Is he a lodger then or is he not allowed an opinion? I really dislike that attitude of many women who refer to 'my house' and think that they can dictate what goes on in a house they share with another adult. A lot of so called 'free range' products are a con by the way, we buy from a farm where you're in danger of running over the hens as you drive in.

@Collaborate if you read my OP I kinda already admitted this was probably an over reaction. I stated I was already pissed odd so the eggs were probably the last straw.

If you are gonna nitpick please make sure you do it factually.

YABU, you're not eating them, the "I don't want them in mu house" misses the point that it's his house too. Why do you get to impose your views on him, he isn't forcing you to eat them is he?

The point is that he bought the caged hen eggs because they were cheaper, even though he knew I had specified free range. Even though he knows my views on caged hens and even though there was more than enough money in the bank for him to buy what I had specified.

Some people also seem to be missing the point that it's not just him eating the eggs. It's also our children. He can go out and eat whatever the hell he wants but I don't want to feed our children eggs from caged hens. I want them to grow up understanding about animal welfare and that eggs from caged hens is just wrong.

And yes I'll get a load of posts from people saying "but you eat the cheese" but actually you know what? I'm fucking trying which is a lot more than most.

But he also gets a say in what to feed the children. Maybe he thinks saving money will benefit them in other ways.

No worse than what cows go through for your cheese, really.
You're a hypocrite unless you're a strict vegan

So pp are saying, unless you are 100% perfect vegan, you shouldn't even try and help?
The saying goes ' we don't need a handful of people doing it perfectly, we need millions of people doing it imperfectly'

She's trying. She doesn't eat meat, shes changed to almond milk.

Eating a couple of eggs from caged hens isn’t likely to cause your children any long term complications.

I always buy free range but your being way OTT in your reaction

You do know free range means absolutely nothing except a few more inches in their cages. Free range chickens do not run about fields!! They are all kept in cages until they can produce no more then sent to slaughter. That's the girls anyway - the male chicks are all ground up in a grinder at a few hours old. If you really want to be vegan you need to ditch eggs altogether.

@MissyMoooo I have ditched eggs thank you however DH and DCs still eat them hence the buying of eggs in the supermarket and the whole point of this thread

I don’t let caged hens eggs or meat in the house either, so no I don’t think you are being unreasonable. I am now wondering what I should do about dairy, I buy organic - is this still horrific for dairy cowS??.

I think you need to listen to your husband. You asked him to buy free range, he bought caged eggs. Instead of getting pissed at him, stop and listen.

all this nitpicking over almond milk or copws milk is scoring people by a points system depending on what they eat, according to a valuse system.

Other people use different value systems to you. They aren't wrong, or bad. They have made their decision based on different criteria.
Almond milk is not better for the environment that animal milk, its grown as a mono cash crop and its flown around the world so has a high carbon footprint.

the way farming is being done to feed us, and the fact that we import so much food are two huge problems.
Animal welfare is a third problem. As people have tried to point out, keeping thousands of hens 'free range' is not much different from the hens point of view than keeping them in cages.

Stop and listen to other people. They aren't bad or wrong. and they are doing just as much for the environment as you.

Missymooo this simply isn’t accurate. I know someone who is an expert in this area and free range means they are outside in the day but will usually, by choice, come into roost at night.

Tough one, I think I would be annoyed that he just ignored what you requested, when it would have been very simple to get the eggs you wanted.
But on the other hand, you buy and cook meat and cheese but are upset over the eggs, I don't understand how you can physically still cook meat and eat cheese but feel that upset about the eggs?
I realise its a slow process and every little DOES help it really goes, and it's great you're trying. But I feel I couldn't cook meat then feel confident enough to raise an issue with other animal products bought or eaten.
Cheese wise, I agree with a previous poster, it's often easier to transition if you just cut it out completely for a while. Then try vegan cheeses available. Eventually I think you just forget about and don't miss cheese.

If your supermarket sources local eggs then you can go and see the state of the free range chickens yourself. This is what I do. Our Costco sources local eggs from a farm about 10 miles away and their chickens are properly free range; so I spend a bit more and buy them.

But yes the decision to buy caged / free range rests with the eater. In the same way as I wouldn’t expect him to interfere with your veganism, you shouldn’t interfere in what he eats.

If you’re not eating them have no intention of eating them I really think you can’t be telling others what to eat.
Don’t worry about your children eating them if you don’t tell them they won’t know.
Mountain out of a mole hill.

I agree - I would not have caged hens eggs in the house. My Ex bought them as he didnt care and they were cheaper. I refused to eat them and bought free range for myself. Now he has been binned - whole other story - I only have free range in the house!

I think you're doing really well to be working towards being vegan, it's a lot more than most people manage, and in my view it's a journey towards being as vegan as possible. It's doesn't have to be 100% or nothing, surely just working that way is better than saying fuck it, I'll have a bacon double cheeseburger with a fried egg on it.

I hope you are drinking vegan wine and eating vegan chocolate. It’s up to your husband what he eats and if he’s buying and cooking the food, up to him what the kids eat.

@shitholiday2018 it's a tricky one. In our house everything we buy is organic. If you care about the welfare of the cow then organic is the only way to go. Organic cows must spend at least 215 days a year outside. They only go inside due to bad weather, but then once inside they must have well bedded sheds and lots of space.
Environmentally they do release more methane emissions.
I would much prefer a happier cow, giving us milk and meat. But that's our preference. I do not want to pump my babies full of unnecessary pesticides and chemicals when I don't have to.

My grandmother has an extremely rare form of cancer. She was given a terminally diagnosis and given less than a year to live. At the time of her diagnosis there was another 256 people in the UK with the same type of cancer. My grandmother done everything she could to help herself. And immediately stopped eating any carcinogenic foods, and only would eat organic produce.

Nearly 17 years on, her cancer has not grown at all. There is only one other man in the country that has survived. Specialists and scientists have been testing them both every six months since the diagnosis in London. The only thing they both have in common is they are both on strict organic diets.
Unfortunately all the other people diagnosed did not eat organic produce.

Because of this, I swear by organic produce.

I don't think it's the point of this thread how bad almonds are or if the OP should give up cheese.

She specifically asked for free-range eggs, in line with her feelings. Her DH deliberately ignored that and bought caged ones. Why? Did he just want to piss her off/start an argument?

My DP would be if I deliberately bought something contra what he asked me to, and vice versa.

I think the rest of the OP's choices are relevant only because they seem fairly confusing/contradictory. Presumably her DH also finds it hard to keep track of what she will and won't allow.

I’ll agree with the posters saying you can’t force your DH to buy what you want if you are not going to eat it.
I know you said the DC will eat the eggs too, but did your DH agree that you get to dictate what they do and don’t eat? Really, he is their dad, why can’t he feed them the eggs he wants just because you say so? It has no impact on you whatsoever.

Damage is done by giving money for them. That boat has sailed so you may as well use them

Presumably her DH also finds it hard to keep track of what she will and won't allow.

It's not that hard to 'keep track' of or understand a shopping list with "free range eggs" on it. Unless he's particularly thick.

It's a shopping list, not the Ten Commandments.

She would also prefer him not to eat meat and to buy higher welfare meat but that "falls on deaf ears". It seems weird, and is no doubt confusing to her DH, that is the issue she's chosen to have a bust up over.

Fun in the sun - thank you, really helpful and food for thought.