"If a single parent can work full time and run a household I don’t see why you’re surprised I’m able to work full time and only do half the work." Oh wow! You just reached a whole new level of offensive there!
I've been a sahm and a single ft working mum - I had a damn sight less to do at/re home as a single ft working mum than I did as a sahm!
As for "what about single working people" (houseshares etc) they've only got themselves to look out for!
Latest posts by op indicate that their wife has 2 dc, including one with a medical condition, plus a laid up spouse to consider for several months.
Seriously, from the tone of op's posts I doubt more as it goes on that he does anywhere CLOSE to 50%
There's also been several posters who clearly haven't hit the teen years with their dc yet and underestimating the input high school age children need. Their needs at different to younger children but they're not less!
"And the fact you said she makes sure you split 50/50 just means she's had to ask repeatedly for things to be done." Yep that's my impression too! That op THINKS they're hard done by when there's a whole other side to this tale.
"lipstick your foul little rant really isn’t helping...You are absolutely deluded pal." Totally agree - with the whole post
"Studies are completely irrelevant in this situation" how?!
Op can claim whatever he likes - doesn't make it true we have no evidence of his veracity, the studies show that it's HIGHLY likely that at best he's mistaken and at worst he's outright lying. That's their relevance - NOT ridiculous at all.
"Oh please. Why do people (women) have to big up these things that are really very simple." Nobody's "bigging up" but many posters are being very dismissive of the tasks that are necessary to running a home & family, as I said earlier each individual task may be "an easy 5 min job" but it's the accumulation and relentlessness of them that's the issue.
I've noticed myself too that jobs I've thought of as "5 min" or "half an hour" when I've actually timed myself or somethings occurred which means I've realised how long it's actually taken me they often take much longer.
"yeah, now that the kids are grown and don't need as much help and attention. Now that the majority of the hard work is done." Yep I'd agree with that too, not because I think teen years are particularly easy but I suspect the op thinks so.
"And you must be very slow at doing laundry if it equates to an entire 'day of work in the home" if it's all the weeks laundry for a family of 4 in one day yes I can see that taking a full day when you consider all clothes inc gym gear, towels and bedding.
"However your comment does shed some light on your attitude towards people who think differently to you and maybe illustrates why you and your wife are failing to reach a mutually acceptable compromise on this issue."
And just because certain tasks can be done electronically doesn't mean there's no time or effort involved!
"As an aside, i must be doing something very wrong that birthdays/christmas does not happen for me at the click of a button." Exactly!
I order my groceries online every week I have for various reasons a set time that I do it that suits dd and I as a "deadline" plus there's the supermarkets own deadline if it is being delivered the next day. As a result I've become aware of how long it ACTUALLY takes me to do each week, after initially estimating it took 10-15mins and I've got it that it takes me around 40 mins unless there's a special occasion or other factors to consider (and that's not even including the time spent during the week noting when we've run out of certain items or dds asked for certain changes)
Now yes that's "only" 40 mins, but if you collate ALL the tasks that need to be done and how long they ACTUALLY take vs how long some people on here seem to think certain tasks take then all those "only takes X mins" tasks = several hours of work.
But then I'm not buying that those going "oh fgs it's not that hard" DON'T realise in real life that's how it works - because the majority on mn are of course DOING all these tasks day in day out!
Elements of denial and cognitive dissonance and outright disingenuousness definitely.
"Don’t underestimate what your dw already does. People are more likely to be open to change if they feel appreciated." Spot on!
"You’ve missed, rewiring, plastering, servicing the cars and fitting a patio (amongst other things) which I do as she can’t." Not weekly tasks - not even monthly!
"And let's be honest, most posts are written with a bias towards the poster...." Precisely!