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AIBU?

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Aibu to feel the absolute RAGE with this Tinder date?

405 replies

Pulipatchouli · 16/05/2019 22:50

I met a guy for a date and really liked him.
We fell out. Because I left a card through his letterbox which he said endangered his vulnerable clients. Obviously i found this offensive and utterly ridiculous. I'm sure his postman violates his mailbox often!
He keeps messaging me to say 'thanks for the lovely book you sent me but I don't want to go out with you'
And other patronising shit .
I am full of RAGE.

Because he acts like I am sending him presents to win him back when he is obviously a vain plonker!!
And breathe

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MRex · 21/05/2019 19:00

I'm still trying to make Boswell's damn post office steps become All's Well that Ends Well.

Pulipatchouli · 21/05/2019 20:39

Hi everyone,
I had some really upsetting personal news after posting, so have been away for a few days.
Your replies were hilarious and not everyone assumed I am Glenn Close.

Had a LOVELY date that ended up at his house (naughty but fun).

Argued over text the next week.

I thought about it, and thought well we got on really well, I ll just post him a card and say 'do you fancy going for a coffee'. Something light.

He sent me a LOVELY voicemail, really encouraging, really jolly, after the card.

So thinking we were going retro, doing cards and voicemail which can be fun instead of just messaging, I posted him another little card through his door a few days later, playing it cool but trying to be funny and entertaining.

So felt horribly humiliated to received a weird message saying I was endangering his vulnerable clients by posting him a letter ( he does therapies in his house but it was a letterbox, I didn't appear naked in his garden, post a horse's head, anthrax or any of your hilarious suggestions).

I felt humiliated and confused about his volte-face and thought 'what a pompous twat', why encourage me one minute and burn me the next. It was confusing and hurtful.

So OBS I just left it. As you would.

To my horror two days later I received ANOTHER message from him, really patronising and awful, thanking him for the 'gifts' I had sent him and explaining gently that he didn't want to see me.
So I repeat, I did not send him anything, but the fact he treated me like a stalker that was chasing him enraged me further.

This made me grind my teeth with such rage at the ENTITLEMENT and PATRONISING manner that I drank too much beer and resorted to Aibu.

See how much more entertaining your own guesses were?

And yes, he is utterly blocked after I sent him some good Anglo-Saxon insults.

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Jizzonmyface · 21/05/2019 20:51

oh you've ruined it now 😞 I much prefer everybodys made up versions 😂😂
ps sorry about your bad news

HelmutFrontbut · 21/05/2019 20:52

Oh god 😂😂😂

Is your name Lisa?

DanglyTassles · 21/05/2019 20:56

OP, sorry you've had bad news and I think this guy is just one of the many examples of 'utter tit' that is typical of modern dating, just put him in the bin and shout 'NEXT'.

I'm glad he is blocked and insulted etc. I do think a horse's head would have gone the extra mile, but on the whole you did alright dealing with the prick,, plus this thread is brilliant so thank you for it!!

peardrops1 · 21/05/2019 20:57

Thanks so much for replying, OP. Sorry about your bad news. X

madamedesevigne · 21/05/2019 21:39

The moral of the story is this: don’t date therapists.

DoctorDread · 22/05/2019 07:34

@Pulipatchouli you know what OP? Hats off to you for coming back and explaining fully. And now that you've said more I can see why you are annoyed, but alas he's not for you so I'm glad you've blocked and moved on.

Sorry about your personal matters and wish you well Thanks

MRex · 22/05/2019 10:11

Are you sure it's too late for a horse's head? Just a little toy one?

Sorry about your bad news.

Coldandfrosty · 22/05/2019 20:05

Hope yoire ok OP.

PuppetShowInTheSoundofMusic · 22/05/2019 22:35

thanks for coming back OP

But @Itswinternow

I charge you with serious crimes against the general public mental health for this post

Itswinternow Mon 20-May-19 23:47:18
Haven't been this confused since Boswell.

I haven't thought about Boswell for a long time. I think it's like The Game (sorry to those playing) that if you don't think about Boswell you are all OK.

Now I am reminded of fucking Boswell I am strongly resisting the temptation to revisit those threads.

I hate you for mentioning it. It was wrong of you and you should apologise to everyone or face criminal charges.

Itswinternow · 22/05/2019 23:05

@Puppetshow 😂😂 i offer you my sincere apologies.

PuppetShowInTheSoundofMusic · 22/05/2019 23:57

@Itswinternow.

Too little too late.
Too little too late.
I appreciate the thought-

DoctorDread · 23/05/2019 07:27

@Itswinternow I googled Boswell MUMSNET.

I want to cry now.

😭

FoxSquadKitten · 23/05/2019 07:50

Itswinternow I googled Boswell MUMSNET

Never, NEVER, google Boswell Mumsnet 🤦‍♀️

Sparklfairy · 23/05/2019 08:01

off to Google Boswell mumsnet

pineapplebryanbrown · 23/05/2019 08:09

I prefer the Boswell game I found. A really weird hybrid of Dungeons and dragons / Mornington Crescent.

memaymamo · 23/05/2019 12:28

Oh no, I googled Mumsnet Boswell and now my brain is crying. Every post makes it more confusing than the last.

Vilanelle · 23/05/2019 14:10

Disappointing end but I have thoroughly enjoyed reading the "standing like a T Rex in Asda" thread. I am laughing hysterically and only on page 1

Itswinternow · 23/05/2019 14:21

For all those that googled Boswell.

Welcome to the world of Boswell... you can never remove it from your mind. It is now with you forever. 😇

Drogosnextwife · 23/05/2019 14:31

Why do these threads always end up bringing up boswell! He took enough of my life!
Well done for coming back OP, sorry about your bad news and good for you blocking him.

BIgBagofJelly · 23/05/2019 14:48

From your update I can totally see where you're coming from. I'd probably feel embarrassed too. I would just block him and not spare him another thought.

AnneTwackie · 23/05/2019 14:54

Not a psycho, grinds teeth with rage. Thanks for coming back, sorry you’ve had a tough time

Mumtoboy123 · 23/05/2019 15:00

If you didnt send him any gifts, why didnt you say "i sent you 2 cards, no gifts"?? Is it not possible that someone else has sent him gifts and he has assumed its you?

NannyRed · 23/05/2019 15:24

Yup, I can totally understand why he wants to distance himself from you.
Posting shit through his door (more than once by the way you write) and then to be in a “RAGE”, not even a regular rage but a full on capital letter RAGE.

He’s well rid, you sound barking mad. You had be date! Leave him be and get some anger management.

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