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Aibu to feel the absolute RAGE with this Tinder date?

405 replies

Pulipatchouli · 16/05/2019 22:50

I met a guy for a date and really liked him.
We fell out. Because I left a card through his letterbox which he said endangered his vulnerable clients. Obviously i found this offensive and utterly ridiculous. I'm sure his postman violates his mailbox often!
He keeps messaging me to say 'thanks for the lovely book you sent me but I don't want to go out with you'
And other patronising shit .
I am full of RAGE.

Because he acts like I am sending him presents to win him back when he is obviously a vain plonker!!
And breathe

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Yoursilentface · 18/05/2019 22:58

Can't believe I scrolled through 12 pages and I'm no closer to knowing what happened.

Was he freaked out because the card contained the severed finger of the last tinder date who turned you down?

Honeyroar · 18/05/2019 23:05

I think I need a bottle of wine after reading all this. It might help make sense of it.

Rtruth · 19/05/2019 00:12

This has to be the best trolling I’ve seen.

OP puts unexplained and unrelated scenario, moans when people can’t explain it, then disappears.

What kind of letter do you drop at house after 1 date? Texts work right.
Why did he think letter was a book? How long was it?
What clients does he have that could have been effected but what you wrote?

All very suspicious and with no detail it really makes no sense at all. B

pineapplebryanbrown · 19/05/2019 01:00

Can we hunt OP down? Send a card? A book?

Look, it's not us, it's you. Come back I LOVE YOU DON'T GO PLEASE.

pineapplebryanbrown · 19/05/2019 01:02

Devastated, I thought we had something special.

COME BACK I'LL CHANGE.

I won't really.

PentreBachCymraeg · 19/05/2019 01:05

Bit Kathy Bates Confused

pineapplebryanbrown · 19/05/2019 01:07

Ooh I know what kind of card

Thinking of You....

Menacing.

pineapplebryanbrown · 19/05/2019 01:08

Did she break his ankle?

shiveringtimber · 19/05/2019 01:10

A RED CARD!!

pineapplebryanbrown · 19/05/2019 01:19

A red card straight off? Bit much. Maybe written in green ink too.

WellThisIsShit · 19/05/2019 04:47

I so wanted an explanation...

RebootYourEngine · 19/05/2019 05:13

He's not single would be my guess.

notyourmummy · 19/05/2019 06:38

What about the clients... won't somebody think of the vulnerable clients....Grin

moon2 · 19/05/2019 08:11

Sounds like he’s not single and just after a shag and will try to make you look like a bunny boiler if you try to get to the bottom of it. Classic two or three timer trick. Leave the twat alone and save yourself the worry.

memaymamo · 19/05/2019 08:36

What about the clients... won't somebody think of the vulnerable clients....

GrinGrin

Gbtch · 19/05/2019 09:04

Lessons here OP. 1. Tinder probably isn’t the best dating forum for what you are looking for, 2. Take the hint and move on when your texts with a new man don’t go well 3. Mumsnet can be brutal and overwhelming because of its frank and mostly honest responses. 4. Enjoy the thread , which is amusing thanks to your original post.

ShowMeTheKittens · 19/05/2019 10:40

He doesn't want to go out with you. Why are you in a rage? Sorry but this is totally unjustified.
Leave him alone.
Isn't Tinder just for shagging?

pineapplebryanbrown · 19/05/2019 10:43

You could ask for the book back.

harriethoyle · 19/05/2019 11:35

I started laughing at save the date card and haven't stopped since Grin

PuppetShowInTheSoundofMusic · 19/05/2019 12:17

@Pulipatchouli

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD PLEASE COME BACK AND TELL US WHAT WAS WRITTEN IN THE CARD. PEOPLE ARE IN CRISIS HERE

ThePerturbedPenguin · 19/05/2019 12:24

I can’t believe I read all that and no friggin update!!!! The people need to know OP!!!

starfish2020 · 19/05/2019 13:16

Waiting to hear what on earth was the card?

ThatCurlyGirl · 19/05/2019 14:40

Will you come back if we send you a nice card afterwards?

PLEASE TELL US WHAT THE CARD SAID WE WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER

Supermansmum · 19/05/2019 20:24

I do hope the vulnerable clients are getting appropriate counselling for the trauma you put the through, OP!

SteelRiver · 19/05/2019 20:37

Sounds to me like he lives with someone, likely his wife!