“My chuff hurts!”

[AwfulMum123]

I already know IABU but I don’t know what to do about it!

For reasons unknown, when my DD was born I started to use the term ‘chuff’ to refer to her front bottom. I guess I just thought it was a slightly funny word. However, now, to my horror (and - I’ll admit - slight amusement) she has started using it herself when talking about that area! “Mummy, my chuff hurts” etc. What do I do about this? A quick google of the word tells me it is considered vulgar slang and I don’t want her using it long term. It’s slightly amusing when a toddler says it but I feel that pretty soon it will start to seem a bit crude.

What word can I use instead? I don’t want to use the biological terms. Is chuff really that bad? Would you judge me/her for using it?!

'toilet parts' is fucking weird.

@DobbysLeftSock ah yeas, their magical arseholes. Fairly common that the anus is considered gross... no matter how ingenious its design.

No one has mentioned “gash”? Is that strictly for the women hating bottom-feeders of south London?

Real talk though, feeling uncomfortable talking about your body is so outdated. I thought feminism was a thing?

Yes but if you accept one body part as gross, disgusting, unmentionable blah blah blah, it is much easier to view another body part (that is quite literally just around the corner!) is gross and unspeakable too. My dd would be baffled by the idea that any of her is gross. Her body is just her body. It works, different bits do different jobs, need different cleaning etc but none of it is gross.

Also, if we accept the arguments for a need for accurate terminology and open discussion of the genitals in order to safeguard from sexual abuse and report medical issues, the same should apply to the anus, surely? Lots of sexual abuse potential. Lots of medical conditions around there too. You want them to say "my vulva" you should be teaching "my anus" too.

I'm happy with front bum and back bum. Both terms are perfectly clear to anyone outside of the family that she might ever need to speak to for any reason. Can't be confused in a "he touched my flower" type way. No devaluing of the female genitals because I'm not placing a negative value on either body part. In a couple of years (age 6/7 ish) I'll do a bit of a project at home on the body and she can learn a whole load of anatomical terms, vulva, vagina, labia, penis, testical, scrotum, aorta, diaphragm, tendon, anus... I want her to understand her body as a whole, a complex machine of interconnected parts.

“No devaluing of the female genitals because I'm not placing a negative value on either body part. ”

Would you call a boy’s penis a “front bum”?

In our house my daughter calls it her ‘lady area’ I’ve always let them call it what they like my other daughter called it ‘my bits’ the boys have called it everything from ‘boy area’ to ‘my conkers’ As long as I know what the current word is im happy

< backs slowly away-finger on report button>

Wtf