To think that if a child is well brought up and healthy then.....

[singingmum]

Social Services should butt out and look after the dc's that really need help?

Ok! so here's the situation.
My cousins twins are healthy,eat well and for 22month olds are well behaved.
They tidy their toys and they put their spoons in the sink and are starting to talk,walk well and are learning their colours and trying to count.They have their moments like all toddlers but are in general good dc's.
Now my cousin has been single for awhile and now has a partner who is trying to help as much as possible.The house isn't totally tidy but is quite clean(she has twins and sometimes doesn't have time to immediately sort out certain things so sometimes there is a top unwiped maybe floor unmopped)but in general she does what she can.She has complied to everything they have asked and now they have said they are taking legal action and she will have to go to court and won't tell her why.
So am I being unreasonable in thinking that -
1)They're job is to help young mothers learn to be good mums
2)That there are dc's out there who are being abused and need help and not getting it because they are goinfg for easy targets
3)That my cousin is being victimised because she is young and dyslexic(they have said that this is a reason she can'tbe a good mum without them)

cross posted singing mum, i think the friends you describe sound, in principle, to be perfectly acceptable. Of course without knowing what these people are like i coulndt say why their presence gives SS cause for concern.

It does sound to me like your cousin is being victimised rather than helped and it is a rough deal. I hope that things work out well for her.

FWIW - i dont think i could cope with twins, i am actually in awe of mothers who have more than one young child (note the 15 year gap between mine!) so your cousin sounds pretty amazing to be coping alone.

Asking about drugs was not out of order at all. This is evidently one of the concerns that SS have, particularly as singingmums cousins case came to their attention when the twins dad was on the scene and SM says her cousin did take drugs then.
If she has cleaned up and is just being messed around, well I feel very sorry for her. I agree with LEM about the potential for her place to be taken advantage of and that she probably needs a slightly quieter environment to concentrate on raising her twins.

Not her dc's dad Carmenere a person she was with before him although her ex did smoke a little something he shouldn't my cousin did not.
She is 22 which tbh isn't that young.I was 16 when I got pg,17 when my eldest was born and SS had nothing to do with me.
She only has at most 3 friends around(norm bf,his sis and her mate who is a mum also)
Sometimes her younger sisters(she has 3 turn up but not for long.
The funny thing is they never have had an issue with the dc's dad taking drugs it was started because he was brought up in care and is messed up now because of the rape and abuse he suffered then.My cousin had helped him to a point where he was seeking help when SS got involved and undid it all as he has some major hangups about them(for obv reasons)
Also what bull that seeing their mum have a healthy social life is bad for their wellbeing.They have never been neglected nor would my cousin do so.Being a mum is something she always looked forward to and when she fell pg she and the dc's dad were engaged and wedding booked.They put it off so as to first concentrate on dc's.