To ask if you call your DH everyday when you get off work?

[Justcurious1]

A colleague of mine phones her DH everyday as soon as she gets off work, literally as soon as she gets out of the door. We get off at the same time everyday, and she phones him aswell in her lunch break. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious how many of you do this? And if it's a done thing and I'm the odd one out? I sometimes wonder why she doesn't just go home without calling?

It's not for me but i know others who do it. I don't think you can ascribe anything without context or background.

If both want too, why not? If one is forcing and the other reluctant then its an issue and likely controlling.

@WeepingWillowWeepingWino I don't inanely witter.

I find relationships like yours sound dreadfully dull. Nothing to say to each other, no updates, no laughs... it's not for me at all!

Never said I was talking about you, did I? Some of the examples given on here definitely fall into the inane witty category.

And you know nothing about my relationship or what we talk about! What an utterly bizarre thing to post.

Nothing dull about my marriage. We just don't feel the need to be constantly communicating with each other when we're not together.
If others feel that need then that's fine too.

I do it most days after work, mainly someone to speak to on the walk home as he normally leaves a similar time. If he doesn't answer I don't bother trying again. I don't call or text him any other time during the day unless I need something eg ask him to get milk on the way home.

My dh calls or texts me every lunch time, the conversation is always the exact same but I would miss it if he stopped. That's 20 years we've kept it going
DH- How are you today?
Me- Great, you?
DH- Not bad. See you later x

Every. Single. Day

Yes because we car share so I let him know that I'm leaving and what the traffic is looking like as I walk to my car. On the day that he works from home I usually call on my lunch as I know he won't have spoken to anyone that day.

Sometimes a text or two may go but we rarely phone each other anyway. I work long and busy days just don't get time it think to text anyone, unless there is a need too.

I call dh if I need something or need to discuss something urgently.

so usually not during/after a work day.

I do and its definitely not abusive. I just miss him and ask about dinner etc

We're too busy at work to message or call lots. However I have anxiety so will generally WhatsApp to say we've got to work then once or twice in the day normally at lunch time. Just really short messages like hi or an emoji. Just helps me know he's safe and well.

Dh and I will often text each other during the day. Not every day. Either with a :
question about whether done money has hit our bank account yet.

Or just a 'hello crumpet'

I don't see what's so odd about it. Or controlling.

I don’t phone my DH ever unless I need to tell him something urgently. We live together I can talk to him at home so what’s the point.
I do phone my mum everyday on my walk from the office to the car though.

I usually text and he does the same and we say what train we are on. I never thought there was anything sinister or abusive about it. It’s more just about who is going to get home earlier to pick something up from the shops or start dinner.

I’d find it really annoying if dh called me during the day. But then I generally hate phone calls anyway. We do text each other during his lunch break.

I have a colleague who rings his wife every morning and they FaceTime each other. He has even stopped informal meetings to answer her ca which I find really odd. He does have a long journey to work so probably doesn't get chance to see her or the DC's before he leaves but I still find this a bit odd.

Absolutely not. We may email a little during the day but it's for things we need to know about (schedules etc.) We see enough of each other to not have to talk when we're apart too.

I accept its not an age thing then judging by the replies to my comment , maybe it’s a Luddite thing then, I am just not interested in using WhatsApp, Face Time, Messenger etc. If I’ve got something to say to my DH in the day I would manage a quick text or phone his mobile, but not just for the sake of ‘keeping in touch’.

I message him to let him know I'm leaving the office but that's because he picks me up from the station so he needs to know which train I'm on. When I used to drive I would still let him know when I was leaving so he knew what time I would be back / could decide whether to wait for me to walk the dog / let me know if I needed to stop at the shop for anything etc. It's just logistics, nothing sinister!

We trust each other’s judgement and sometimes it helps to have an objective view about something. We discuss work issues occasionally even though we work in different fields. We tell each other if one of us has heard from one of the children who are not in U.K. at the moment. We call to see if we need dog care before agreeing to meetings. That sort of thing.

We text each other from the train to let the other know when we’ll be in - but that’s it!

No, I'm in such a rush to get away from the place and get home

We do chat most lunchtimes though as we both go for a walk and usually ring each other for company. It's also nice to actually have a conversation without the DCs interrupting.

Mine texts me to let me know which train he got; that he's changing at Clapham; that he's arrived. Frets if I don't answer a lunchtime call (I don't take my phone to meetings unless I'm budding a colleague for H+S reasons).

Then he'll text that he's left for the day; on the train; 10mins from home (that's my put the kettle on cue + walk to meet him with the dog sometimes).

It's annoying but just what he does. I don't text him unless I have news or I'll be home after him.

...buddying...

No, we’re millennials who both hate talking on the phone xD we whatsapp throughout the day though