To ask if you call your DH everyday when you get off work?

[Justcurious1]

A colleague of mine phones her DH everyday as soon as she gets off work, literally as soon as she gets out of the door. We get off at the same time everyday, and she phones him aswell in her lunch break. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious how many of you do this? And if it's a done thing and I'm the odd one out? I sometimes wonder why she doesn't just go home without calling?

DH used to call as he was leaving so if I was cooking I’d know how long he’ll be, that has all changed now he has discovered fb messenger has a ‘share location’ function, the kids now track him all the way home door to door and he gets his dinner on the table as he walks through the door! He thinks it’s brilliant, I’m pretty sure the novelty will wear off for me pretty quickly 😂

No, but we do text on breaks. Need anything from Tesco, did you feed the dog, can you turn the oven on kinda stuff. I've just realised how boring we are

I never text or call my husband, he never texts or calls me. I can only recall only once ever phoning him and that was to tell him that his mum had been rushed to hospital suffering a stroke.
We must seem odd in comparison to today's constant communications 😂

I've never text or called my husband, apart from one time to tell him that his mum had been rushed to hospital. He never text or calls me either.
We must seem of in comparison to today's constant communicators 😂

Odd, not off.

Sorry, didn't think my first post had gone through. 😐

I'm a SAHM and DH calls me every day when the toddler and baby are napping over lunch time and then maybe again in the late afternoon/early evening or on his way home from work to see if we need anything from the shops or to say good night to the toddler if he won't make bedtime.

I do, but I don't have a set finishing time as such (school, so anything between 3.30 and 6.30) so I just call to let him know when I'm heading back.

I might call him if I need to tell or ask him something. He doesn't have a mobile phone though, so if he isn't at home I send him a message on his iPad

I call him before going to bed if I am sleeping at work though, without fail.

He sometimes messages me just to say hello and vice versa.

I speak to my mum once a day. Sometimes more. So I see nothing wrong with wanting to talk to your husband/partner during the day.

No I don't. If it isn't urgent, then I wait until we are both home.

Yup, we speak during the day, we call each other either about specific things or just to chat at lunchtime. I also call him when I leave work to tell him I'm on my way and talk about dinner or if I need to pick anything up on my way. I like speaking to him, is that odd?!

Depends what shift I'm on. Early-I finish when he's on his break so normally ring and say hi as he's asleep when I leave for work. Late-odd text if we get chance and ring if I'm going to be late.

Yeah we usually do. We just like to have a chat - dp usually calls me, I dont call him unless there is a reason. It's not an issue if he doesn't call or I dont answer.

No but DH rings me before work while we both drive to work, on my lunch and then on his way home (I finish 2 hours before him to collect DC from school).

I find it extremely inconvenient but he is hugely offended if I ask him to not do it. Hes not clingy at home and goes out regularly without me, he just has a very boring job with lots of downtime. He asks about my day and tells me about his. Usually im juggling my work at the same time and wishing he would F off. I love the days he has client meetings over lunch and I can finish my work or eat my lunch in peace.

He calls me when he's on his lunch break and also when he's finished just before he cycles home, he always has! No idea why or wgeh it started but it would now be odd if he didn't lol

No. If either of us is having a particularly slow day at work we might send a few texts throughout the day but I wouldn't ring him on my lunch or even when I was leaving work tbh. The only reason I might text him when I'm leaving work is if im popping to the shop and ask him if he wants anything.

I never text or call my husband, he never texts or calls me. I can only recall only once ever phoning him and that was to tell him that his mum had been rushed to hospital suffering a stroke.
We must seem odd in comparison to today's constant communications

Of course you're not odd, whatever works for you. What is odd though is people implying that anyone that does have contact with their OH during the day is clingy/needy/controlling/being controlled, they couldn't possibly just...........like talking to/messaging their OH

AryaStarkWolf Of course you're not odd, whatever works for you. What is odd though is people implying that anyone that does have contact with their OH during the day is clingy/needy/controlling/being controlled, they couldn't possibly just...........like talking to/messaging their OH hmm

Totally agree.

I am just looking at text conversations between OH and I in the pasdt few weeks-

"Can you pick up DD at 8pm, she is running late"

*Chicken Madreas, naan, lamb tikka and aloo gobi"

Can you pick up a dozen bottles of Rose water

"No need to wait, I''l just walk"

"My mother is getting a lift back from church from a friend"

"What's the log in for sky"

I don't see how any of that is "needy".

none of that is 'talking', though, either, is it? It's not having a chat - which is what I think a lot of us are baffled by - having a long chat (read: exchange inane witterings at top volume) with your spouse who you're returning home to and will see very soon.

(a dozen bottles of rose water???)

WeepingWillow, Some days I have a long chat with DH, other days it is a very short chat or even a text. The chats are certainly not at top volume as I hate people shouting on the phone.

I guess most of our conversations could be called inane but we can't all converse about highbrow stuff all the time can we?

I guess I'm not aiming that comment at you, then, am I?

(a dozen bottles of rose water???)

lol, I have some strange shopping requests, last one was 20 boxes of dried arctic reindeer moss.

you have to explain these now!

Ha ha!!

Work/hobby. These are rolled into one.

As another poster said.
Some posters have been scathing about people who are in contact with their dh/ dp throughout the day.
It would be so easy to be scathing about those who don’t contact their dh/dp- one could suggest that they have an unhappy marriage and that they don’t like each other which is why they don’t contact each other .
However, it would be wrong to draw that conclusion because every relationship is different.
I personally live the fact that my dh phones me throughout the day, despite both of us demanding careers
If I can post on MN during the day , texting my husband shouldn’t be a problem