To ask if you call your DH everyday when you get off work?

[Justcurious1]

A colleague of mine phones her DH everyday as soon as she gets off work, literally as soon as she gets out of the door. We get off at the same time everyday, and she phones him aswell in her lunch break. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious how many of you do this? And if it's a done thing and I'm the odd one out? I sometimes wonder why she doesn't just go home without calling?

No, but we drive home together. Sometimes chatting, sometimes in blissful silence.

A colleague of mine does the same, goes into a meeting room every lunchtime and phones his wife. Then again, she vets who he is allowed to be friends with on Facebook so I'm not sure it's all that healthy in their case...

Nope. No way. Can easily go 48 hours without seeing or speaking to DH. Maybe an odd text here and there.

Nope, I never contact DH in the day unless I need to tell him something then it will be a quick text.

What does she say to him?

Unfortunately the only people I know who’ve done this have been victims of abuse- hopefully not in the case of your colleague, but I don’t think it’s usual no

Maybe he is still working and doesn't finish until much later?

No, we own our own business and can be in the office all day at the same time and still not speak!

I let DH know I'm on my way home so he can start tea but just a WhatsApp message. Maybe message a couple of times if something interesting / important pops up.

No, only if there's something in particular I need to tell him.

No. Not in 20 years have I ever phoned DH during the day, unless it’s been an emergency. If one or the other of us is away from home we can regularly not speak for a couple of days.

The only person I know who had frequent phone calls home when she was out was in an abusive relationship.

No.
But each to their own.

I do usually give DH a call in the car after I pick up DD after school, I’m pregnant with twins so it’s just a quick check in, find out what time he will be home, sort dinner arrangements. Ocassionally DD will have a story to tell DH. Wouldn’t be a big deal if we didn’t communicate all day but it’s abit of a habit now. We don’t text much so 🤷🏼‍♀️

I don't bit DP usually phones me when he finishes work and is on his way home. Usually to ask if we need anything from the shops. If he goes 'out out' he usually sends a text or phones me to let me know if he'll be home and i can lock the front door.

I'm the opposite and rarely send messages whilst I'm working or on my way home.

I do this but it's more a lunchtime thing and cause I'm bored wandering about town.

No, unless there’s something to say I wouldn’t call just for a chat. I had a colleague whose DH would call her every morning to check she’d arrived at work safely (it was a short bus ride in a very safe town). It was always at the same time I was with her going through the day’s plans & they would end the call with lovey dovey messages, I thought it very unprofessional, we were all in our late 50s .

We call or text a couple of times a day, because my DP works shifts so we often don't see each other awake for days! Eg, he is on lates this week so i won't see him awake until Friday. We chat about day to day stuff, mostly about the dog to be honest!

No. We send each other a text or two on our breaks and usually I pick up DS and then DP after I get off anyway.

My DP rings me every lunch time to say hi, see what me and DD are doing, I ring him when I finish work to say I'm leaving as I work late. I don't see it as weird?!

I do, DP normally calls on his lunch break to ask how my days going and I like to have a chat.

When I finish work I normally call to ask how his day has gone (and make sure the children haven't driven him mad) because I have to wait for the bus and I get bored.

It might be quite obvious, but I don't have many friends

DH and I text during the day quite a bit but almost never call and talk. But it's useful to stay in touch.

my best friend and her husband are in almost constant contact though. Sometimes it annoys me, but I've learnt over 20 years of friendship that it just is that way. She literally needs to be attached to him constantly. But he seems to largely feel the same way and they are a lovely couple both as individuals and together.

I call my DH every lunchtime from work. When he was working from home it was kind of his prompt to go and make himself some lunch(as he'd forget ).
at the moment he's not working but I still call him...starting to realise that we mainly talked about work tho as the calls are getting shorter and shorter lol

DH calls me every lunch break, I’m on maternity leave and I think he just does it to make sure I haven’t completely lost the plot with the DDs

Hmmm DH does actually call me twice a day, once at lunch and once when he's on his way home, although hometime chat is usually a 'what's for dinner then love, I'm starving? Sounds good, can't wait' type conversation. Nothing abusive about it, that's a massive generalisation although I understand where it comes from having been there with a previous partner.

We just really like to talk to each other

My DH does this to me but I don't do it to him . . .unless there's been a change of plan that I need to discuss with him eg I'll be back later than intended.

Although actually, we do email all day, every day.

I sometimes wish I could get a print out of all of them - they would be such a nice way to record the fabric of our marriage.

93% what's for tea type emails, 2% can you leave work, one of the kids has just been sick, 5% affectionate stuff

I must admit my wife and I text and email all day, meet for lunch some days and walk to and from work together every day. Some people think it’s too much but we just always like to chat through the day.

As you can tell we don’t have a child yet, I’m sure once our little one is here I won’t here from my wife all day as she’ll have her hands full.