To ask if you call your DH everyday when you get off work?

[Justcurious1]

A colleague of mine phones her DH everyday as soon as she gets off work, literally as soon as she gets out of the door. We get off at the same time everyday, and she phones him aswell in her lunch break. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious how many of you do this? And if it's a done thing and I'm the odd one out? I sometimes wonder why she doesn't just go home without calling?

We work together in the same office but we still text and email on and off during the day. Sometimes it's boring stuff like 'can you pick up milk on the way home?' and other times it's a 'you look delicious' from across the room. If ever one of us works from home, we tend to talk at lunchtime. Silly, but lovely at the same time.

No, never. I don't communicate with him during the day unless there is something I need to know. Our text history is a long succession of messages that say little more than "Are you in tonight?".

I had a conversation with my friends recently and a few of them said they text their wives/husbands throughout the day, and often call them at some point too. Just to chat. I was kind of surprised by that because my OH and I would never message each other during the day just to chat about nothing.

Horses for courses.

I work in a school so can't talk to dh during the day. I usually ring him when I'm in the car having picked up the dc, quick chat and then he calls me when he's no his way home, usually to see if I need anything from the shop, let me know when he'll be back etc. He's self employed though so his working hours vary wildly.

We text consistently throughout the day, there always seems to be something to talk about.
We only call if there's an issue/ something has happened

Myself and DH always used to call each other once during the day. Now we both work from home but in separate rooms we often pop into each other's office for a quick cuddle and a bit of water cooler chat. We like it and the one time I forgot to call as I was so busy, he pointed it out to me when I got home. I am sure it sounds a bit much to some people but it makes us happy. DH is not at all controlling, he is so laid back I have to put a mirror under his nose sometimes to see if he is still breathing!

Before DC we would have gone all day without texting, maybe a random "Hurry up 5pm" text or if something was important, but we were the odd ones out in our circle, my closest friend speaks with her DH on the phone on the way to work, break, lunch, on the way home. It feels a bit much but i guess it works for them.

My sister speaks to her husband after work every day. I think it's habit as their commutes and jobs are actually a bit of free time for her when she is not doing teaching prep.

Have to say I find it bloody rude though when they chatter away when I visit her - I met her after work to spend the evening with her, and she spent 20m on the phone to him - even though we were going back to hers later!

DH calls me every day when he is leaving work. My day ends earlier than his. It allows us to coordinate evening plans.

DH texts me every day to say he's safely at work, will send short texts during the day and rings me for a chat every lunchtime. I don't ask or expect him to do any of this and it's never in a checking up on me way, he just enjoys staying in touch. He doesn't get pissy with me if I don't reply so I don't feel smothered or anything. I like that he still likes me so much after nearly a decade together. It makes me like him too.

If couples text, DM, and chat constantly during the day, what do they talk about when they get home from work?

This is alien to me. Seems really strange. For a start, are people not busy doing their actual job? And as I said, what do you talk about when you get home, if you have been yabbering all day via text and DM-ing?

Bonkers!

I ring dh every day when I finish work, he doesn't do set hours so I ring to see what time he's home. He then rings me everyday when he leaves work to say he's left work.

We must be weird.

I speak to my boyfriend in the day, its nothing important, usually what do I want for tea. I've got him well trained and am in no way abusive.

My friend on the other hand, gets called constantly at work and hides in the toilet to speak to him and he doesn't like her not answering. Its not a healthy relationship.

I do haha we need to touch base see where the other is and organise who's getting dinner started and who's dropping kids where etc, we don't always finish at the same time everyday. Apart from that I like to talk to him

No but I used to when I was in an abusive relationship
It started as just wanting to speak to me because he loved me too much, to threats etc. If I didn't answer the phone.
I'm sure some people just really love their spouse, but seems like a red flag to me

Good god no. We only bother each other if one of us has something important to communicate.

DP rings me late afternoon, but only to say what time he'd like me to pick him up from work!

We speak while i'm on my way to work every morning, text throughout the day, maybe send silly pics etc. We often pass each other on the motorway & industrial estate I work on as he goes to a depot there so it's always nice to say hi & have a bit of a cheeky snog
We're the best of friends so like I would text/call a best friend I do the same with him. We always have things to discuss & talk about & we never get bored of it. We miss each other terribly when we're apart.
We do have other friends that we spend time with, have nights away apart from each other etc so there's no controlling element or anything odd we just love each other & enjoy being together so why wouldn't you want to speak to your best friend throughout the day.

I do. It's so he knows what time I'll be in for dinner and to see what kind of day our ds had at granny's / nursery. Not because I'm being abused
Sometimes call him at lunch, sometimes my mum.

My first thought was that I wondered if she is required to check in so her DP knows when she will be home. It doesn't sound good.

The only time I ring in that instance is if I'm leaving at an unusual time and he's holding dinner for me.

We do. Lunch and after work usually. Apparently we are the exception??

DH phones me every night on his way home from work. Usually to ask if I need anything picking up from the supermarket and what’s for dinner.

Oh and DH calls me on his lunch the days ds and I are at home.

I sometimes message him - but as the messages are along the lines of 'I'm nipping into tesco on the way home do you want anything?'

DP and I work in the same office, and usually commute together unless one of us is off or is working from home. In those instances, we'd usually call to say we were on our way home and discuss dinner, evening plans, etc.

We do WhatsApp throughout the day though - usually boring stuff like "what's for dinner" and "don't forget Location, Location, Location is on tonight". We just like nattering shite to each other, I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️