To ask if you call your DH everyday when you get off work?

[Justcurious1]

A colleague of mine phones her DH everyday as soon as she gets off work, literally as soon as she gets out of the door. We get off at the same time everyday, and she phones him aswell in her lunch break. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious how many of you do this? And if it's a done thing and I'm the odd one out? I sometimes wonder why she doesn't just go home without calling?

Hell no. Two of the blokes at work have to phone their wives every lunchtime though. Can’t be doing with that myself.

When I first starting seeing my ex he didn’t have a phone in his house let alone a mobile. He never texted me once I don’t think, and only phoned if he wanted something or had something to say. Couldn’t bear to texted and phoned all day every day would drive me crazy.

No.
I used to with an ex because he was a controlling twat. Dsis constantly phones her DH, me and others on her half hour drive home, she has serious issues with being alone, she never has a chill day at home, or go shopping, park with her DD unless she has company.

He tends to call me as he goes out to lunch every day, just to day hi and see if he can pick me anything up in town.

I call him when I get to the car to go home as its across town and he likes to know I'm OK, especially after dark etc.

Plus sometimes extra calls to check dates or discuss DD etc. and messages with funny stuff, links to articles, other little updates etc.

We've always been like this. We still hold hands in the car. There's no abuse 🙄 and we've been together 23 years.

WeepingWillow, well obviously we could not do it before mobile phones although DH would always ring my office and speak to me to check I had arrived safely. He was a paramedic at the time so knew only too well that many people don't arrive safely at their destination.

I phoned him to let him know what time I would be off the train. If he could he would come and meet me at the station so needed to know if the trains were delayed. I just find it a nice and polite thing to do.

My DH works alone most of the time so if something happened to him it could be hours before anyone knew. He had a stroke around 5 years ago so that has made me check more that he is ok but we used to speak or text a lot before that.

We just like each other but on mn it seems you should not get on with your partner

Hell no. Two of the blokes at work have to phone their wives every lunchtime though. Can’t be doing with that myself.

Do they "have" to or do they want to? My DH doesn't ever have to call me and vice versa..........I just like checking in with him -shrug-

PianoTuner, we find plenty of things to talk about

Used to phone on my lunch break when we worked opposite shifts but not anymore. Odd text might be sent.

No phone call unless urgent or too long to text which is rare.

Texts are usually about tea, shopping for tea or collecting kids!

General contact isn't abuse, we do text most days, depending on who is home to check on the DC, well I check, he'll text to see if I need anything brought home.
With my ex I would be a panic knowing he would huff and puff, filling his mind with paranoid crap if I called late, it is only abuse if it is expected and punished.

Often ring but it's a what's for tea do I need to pick anything up conversation. Never just for a chat!

It's like a woman I know who calls her mother EVERY DAY... Talks for half an hour. I don't know what she finds to talk about.

I used to talk to my mil every day. She was alone, sometimes didn't speak to anyone else. I was happy to spend 20-30mins daily letting her chat or just both talking about trivia, because why not? It made no impact on me when I spoke to her from the car, or whilst having a break but it made her feel wanted and included.

DH and I talk most days, normally if we are in the car between places. Just chit chat about the day, or the children, what's for dinner, do you need anything on my way home sort of convos, nothing very heavy lol

Nothing wrong at all with people enjoying the interaction. As usual, it's only a problem when it becomes an expectation or is part of a pattern of abusive behaviour.

I finish work at 12 noon and generally will text my DP when I finish asking how his day is going so far or just to say I love you (occasionally to send him to the shops on his lunch break)
So I don't think it's odd as such, Although I would probably just wait until I got home for a face to face chat.
The only time DP phones me after work is to ask me to preheat the oven :)

We don't call, we text, Mon-Fri at lunchtime, Married 14 years, together 27 x " Love You " ... daft buggar/sexy/bigboobs/handsome etc etc .
Also quick text to say on way home ( we both travel out of area ) gives an estimate on when home/teatime/time to worry etc

I live in Russia and my DP in the UK and I don't call him every day 😳

we whatsapp through the day, so we only read and reply when convenient.

We do tend to call each other when we are stuck in a train station somewhere. It's a bit sad if people have nothing to say to each other just because they are married

I find DH and DD often phone when driving home, as it is hands free. They like to chat to pass the time.

No way! What a pain in the arse!

I ring my dp when I leave work. Just to see if there are any plans for the evening, anything needed from shops etc. It's neither abusive nor controlling. Just checking in with each other. I personally love it but each to their own.

I only call my DH very rarely if he's at work because he's meant to be working. He rarely takes a proper lunch break and, if he does, it isn't at a set time but fitted in around meetings. On the rare occasions he is away, on courses etc, he calls me from his hotel in the evening.

I can't bear it in a bus or train when so many are phoning home:
'I've just got on the bus/train',
'What's for tea?'
'I'm just coming up to (road name),
'Love you'.

Some even have their calls on speaker phone so I have the pleasure of hearing both sides of the scintillating conversation.

We tend to call eachother on his late weeks as he drives to the gym and I walk home from work at the same time.
We usually chat about our day, he bitches about the parkway traffic and I get him to talk me out of getting a McDonald's 😂

Other than that no, we don't speak on his early weeks but we do occasionally send random messages through the day.

I do quite often text so he knows to get the dinner on!

PianoTuner, we find plenty of things to talk about

I believe you! I don’t think you’re all sitting there in silence. It’s just I don’t know what I would talk about in that scenario, as my day is not usually that noteworthy. I’m starting to wonder if I’m boring now....

We quite often phone each other whilst driving home and neither of us are abusing the other

We’re a very close couple but we did start out long distance so I suppose hour long phone calls have always been our MO. Plus we both work in some way or are preparing supper, running errands etc when we get home. So our phone call on the way home is our way of catching up before life gets in the way again I suppose.

mydog I get on splendidly with DH, we've been together for 18 years! I don't have to talk to him several times a day while we're both at work to prove my love for him, which is what you appear to be implying. But to me it smacks of paranoia (possibly understandable in your DH's line of work, though surely he must know that the vast majority of people aren't involved in accidents en route to work?) to have to check in every day to say 'I got in safely'.

I can't stand having to listen to people's boring mundane chats on the phone on the train, even worse if you know it's with someone they're going to see in half an hour because they live with them! Always conducted at top volume too. Just read a book or do the crossword, FFS!