To ask if you call your DH everyday when you get off work?

[Justcurious1]

A colleague of mine phones her DH everyday as soon as she gets off work, literally as soon as she gets out of the door. We get off at the same time everyday, and she phones him aswell in her lunch break. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious how many of you do this? And if it's a done thing and I'm the odd one out? I sometimes wonder why she doesn't just go home without calling?

I also find it strange that two people can't go a whole day without speaking to each other.
It wouldn't be for me. I would find it very claustrophobic.

She just calls for a general chit chat. It's annoying because we take the train home together so I have to listen to her chat about nothing for 10-15 mins everyday. No abuse here (I hope!) they seem to be a happy couple, but she's a clingy person. She lived with me before she got married, so she would go out with him Friday night after work, come home at 11-12am and within half an hour of arriving home she'd be on the phone to him! And I'm like what on earth has happened in the last 30 mins of you arriving home that you think it's so important you need to call him? it just amazes me how she always have something to say to him. I might text DH during the day if I need to say something, but I normally just go home without calling/texting him.

Don't assume all of us who call each other are being abused/are abusers.

I also call my parents everyday. I like to check in with them.

Yes I wouldn't like it unless it was important.

DH phones or texts me every evening to say he is on his way home and give me an idea of what time he will be in. He is self employed so no set hours and can be working round the corner or 50 miles away.

We often speak or text during the day too.

When I worked DH would phone to see if I had got to work safely and I would often ring when I got to the train station just to let him know if the trains were running ok and, if not, what time I would likely be home.

We have been married almost 40 years and have not run out of things to talk about yet! We like talking to each other. He is my best friend and I am his.

All this rubbish about only people in abusive relationships do it. Utter rot. Some of us love and like our OH's and care enough about them to want to know they are ok

DH texts me when he is leaving work, but that's generally so I know vaguely what time he will be home. It helps my anxiety too, because if he's running late and I don't know when to expect him I imagine all the worst scenarios.

DH works away, and often with no phone signal. A week can go by with no contact (I have emergency numbers for the company if needed). The flip side is he comes home for weeks at a time and we can go to the cinema, or shopping, or binge a TV series together.

Having to call every day at the same time would never happen. I'm not a routine kind of person - generally had shift work jobs in the past and I just don't run a 9-5 life. I do get the kids to school on time but after that things go a bit random until pick up time

@mydogisthebest that's cute, me and my DH are the same, we might send eachother things we'd seen online in an email or he just emailed me there asking if we had anything on tonight and if not did I want to go for a walk later, just things like that. It's a bit odd people will want to label a relationship they know nothing about as weird or controlling just because they don't do it. Everyone is different

On an average day I talk to dh at least once before we get home.

When he travels he rings twice on average and sometimes again to say goodnight.

He is a home bird and misses us when he’s away. I’m happy to chat we’re together 25 yrs and have always been this way.

We text and neither are abused.

Same here mydog dh works all over the place so we just check in.

Although to be honest we don't run out of things to talk about

Yes I speak to dh a couple times in the working day,always done it

mydog why would I need to ring my DH straight after work to tell him I'm OK if I'm then about to get on a train to travel home to be with him?

How did you manage before mobiles? Or has the advent of mobiles made you worry (or care ) more?

Usually talk at least once, but that is to do practical things, change of plan, can you pick up x item or person etc.

I'm a SAHM so dh messages to say he's arrived safe at work (lots of crashes on the road he takes) and when he's leaving at night so I can time dinner. He rings me every lunch break and if e can't he'll send a message. It's rare he doesn't and it feels odd. I don't ring him much these days but do if I really have too.

Quite right, it's none of your business.

Weeping it's not about needing to, some people just like to keep in touch.

Mobile phones are a wonderful invention imo.

Look at all of us talking to complete strangers on the internet. Surely that's stranger than ringing your husband to say hello when you've finished work. Yet here were all are, and where would we ask all our burning questions without mumsnet.

I recall growing up when phone boxes were on the corner and people went out to work and no one had any contact with them till they got home in the evening.

What are all these jobs people have where they have loads of time to text/email their DHs? And are you hiring? :D I guess it makes sense if your lunch breaks & finishing times sync up, most of the time

Having said that, our texts to each other at the moment tend to be along the lines of “Pub?” :D

I do.. ostensibly so he can put dinner on (i leave at variable times) and I can check if i need to get anything. But really its part of my ritual of sloughing off work mode and switching into family mode. We often have good chats which just don't happen when i come through door 10 mins later and its all about dinner/kids stuff/ bedtimes.

DH leaves for work at about 7.45am and I don't speak to him until I get home at 7pm. The only exception is if I'm going to be finishing late for some reason, so he knows not to expect me, and so he knows to feed the dog!

I have a colleague who rings his partner on his lunch (as in, he'll eat his lunch and talk to her the entire time), and as well on his second break. She comes in to see him 2-3 times a week (retail) and often meets him after work as well.

Neither scenario is wrong, it's just what works for each couple. I'd find the latter to be really suffocating as I like having my independence from DH. I don't need to speak to him during the day and tbh, even if I wanted to, I probably wouldn't be able to as he can rarely ever answer his phone!

I absolutely loathe talking on the phone when there’s nothing really to say. I might text DH during the day if I need to know something, but I would only actually call him if it was an emergency. But pretty much, nothing happens that can’t wait until I see him that night.

Nothing wrong with people who do this but I genuinely do wonder what they find to talk about.

yes - everyday we call each other to say on my way home.

It's think it's a habit that started when we were dating every day & one would ring the other to say i'm done for the day & home whenever you want to come over. we've lived together for 10 years & still do it

I'm not abused (nor the abuser) but I speak to my DH at lunch time (unless he's in a meeting or away, then just a quick lovey dovey or jokey text) and I check in on my mum with a midday call, in the afternoon I get a text or two from DD if she is going home on the bus, and I ring DH when I finish work and my mum again in the evening...

I guess we just like to talk to each other, its a little and often kind of thing and it works for us!