AIBU to ask what’s the longest you’ve been without sex?

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What’s the longest you’ve been without sex? What were the reasons? Did you cope with it OK? How? Or was it unbearable? Did you end up shagging someone random? Or waited for a new committed relationship?

I’m starting to miss it after 2 years of being happily sex-free (divorce in progress) and I’m feeling a bit lost to be honest. I’m in my mid-forties, is that it for me then?

I can't actually remember when DP and I last had sex

18.5 years and counting, don’t expect to ever have sex again. Just the thought of it makes my stomach turn.

About 8 or 9 weeks - following birth of first DS. Was more like 5 or 6 weeks post delivery this time as a much more straightforward delivery. Sex drive strangely much higher then usual at the moment which was unexpected (DS2 is 12 weeks old) maybe just because i’m not BF, still too exhausted to do it as much as I would like

A year-and I didn’t miss it at all now with a wonderful man but if I’m honest if we didn’t do it again I wouldn’t be bothered-I have ptsd so I think it boils down to that

I’ve been with DH since I was 16. So I’d say the longest I’ve gone without is when one of us has been deployed overseas (military) - longest was 7 months.

ten years or so.

2 months and counting, it's not good, he's just across the hall but wants to separate I'm fed up, I'd settle for a cuddle to be honest

11 weeks. 2 weeks before DD was born and 9 weeks afterwards.

@SaltSpoon how on earth were you interested in sex 6 weeks after having a baby???? I was wiped out! Sex was the last thing on my mind for months

2 months post separation. I used a lot of batteries in those 8 weeks (tmi probably)

18 months between a ONS post xh and meeting dh. I don't remember missing it.

A year almost to the day after dh died, with the first of a string of lovers I am now in touch with (my vocab is stuck in the 70s). I found my sex drive very distressing all year and it was pure relief to set something up to address it. I am a completely different person sexually at the moment.

just under 2 years.

TBH i'm not quite sure how to go about jumping back on the wagon. I haven't been with anyone other than Ex in 18 years.. the thought of someone else honestly scares me!

7 years and counting single parent here. I sometimes fantasise what it will be to have it at least once a week but I know it will never happen . My friends wonder how I cope after so long. I hide my loneliness well 😭😭😭

Just coming up to the two year separation mark, however probably didn’t have sex for a whole year before we split. I am absolutely fine with it and could happily never do it again. I am 49 and the thought of meeting someone new is so alien to me. I don’t miss it at all, can’t be bothered with the whole dating thing and will quite happily just carry on like this. I don’t masturbate either but never did pre-relationships, or during for that matter.

8 years it's been . DH had a brain tumour removed 8 years ago - the tumour had resulted in total erectile dysfunction. I sometimes dream about shagging someone else - but I never would. I love him dearly and that's that really. I'm pretty good at "taking care of business" for myself these days.

5 1/2 years so far, and genuinely couldn’t care less if I never do again! Libido went completely walkabouts after a brain injury unfortunately.

About 4 weeks each time after my 2 c-sections. Was keen before then but a little nervous about my abdominal muscles and wanted lochia over. 15 years with DH and still very hot for him! I’ve always had a pretty robust libido though.

12 years and counting. My partner always had a low sex drive and since c. 40ish it's been non-existent. It made me unhappy until the menopause, but since my periods stopped my sex drive has plummeted and now we're both happy :)

I'm 52 btw

About 5 years and I don't really miss it at all. One day maybe but at this point I don't see myself ever meeting someone again.

2 times

A year after dh died for obvious reasons

Then met a lovely man. Who took his time and think was 2/3mths into our relationship

Second time was when was preg. Was ivf and advised no sex for 12w then had placenta over cervix and consultant advised no sex due to possible bleeding and mc

And when you have taken 10yrs ttc and 5 private ivf and £27k to get that one ever precious bfp and pregency you follow advice

Tho was hard as preg hormones even tho I suffered from hg I was very horny !!!

But wasn’t worth the risk

Ans no sex when doing ivf Incase get preg naturally with all the drugs

So prob 15mths in all

Making up for it now though 😂

It will be eight years in November. I'm divorced and a full-time carer. The man I love is married to a dangerous narcissist and dares not try to leave her again. We went NC two years ago. I know I should move on but I can't do it. So am resigning myself to lonely, sexless, loveless old age. I'm 56 but honestly look ten years younger.

Probably 8 months ish.

Two months. Guessing from the physical evidence that it had been a while for him too. I practically needed a mop afterwards.

About two years, zero intimacy also. All whilst in a "happy" marriage. Tried for a long time to get him interested but realised it wasn't working. Destroyed my confidence and my mental health took a huge battering. At the lowest I hated who I was