AIBU to ask what’s the longest you’ve been without sex?

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What’s the longest you’ve been without sex? What were the reasons? Did you cope with it OK? How? Or was it unbearable? Did you end up shagging someone random? Or waited for a new committed relationship?

I’m starting to miss it after 2 years of being happily sex-free (divorce in progress) and I’m feeling a bit lost to be honest. I’m in my mid-forties, is that it for me then?

Blimey, I don't know... maybe 9 years? I don't think I've had sex since I was maybe 38.

12.5 Long fucking years... It literally did my head in. No, I didn't shag someone random. Wait till the perimeno starts up & you'll have a raging libido - it's a known thing.

January 2017 but i have mastered doing it better myself than cockwomble ever did

Maybe about 14 months when I was single and pregnant with my fist DS. Didn't shag a random after either, had one other partner before I met DP and been together 8 years.

"Wait till the perimeno starts up & you'll have a raging libido - it's a known thing."

Is it? That one passed me by, then.

Had a month away with friends when DH & I were engaged and that was the longest I went without since I was 17. In late 50’s now and still love it (and him) to bits

How are we defining sex here - like if you have an orgasm by yourself or does it have to be with a partner? Or any sexual activity even if you don’t climax?

3 years.
I'm mid forties and doubt I'll ever have sex again.
Last shag was crap as well, to add insult to injury.

6 weeks after I had dd2

Um it'll be two years in September, and five years before that.
Medication killed my sex drive stone dead.

About a year. Whole time I was pregnant and a few months after the birth.
I'd had a miscarriage (i wasnt aware i was pregnant) and it all came away when we were having sex one night so we were too scared to have sex during the next pregnancy, I would have liked to towards to end but exp didn't like the bump.

4 years and counting now. Split up with DS’s dad, get no time to myself to meet someone and just sort of ended up here.

Can’t actually imagine doing it now 🙈. Years of no sex will kill your libido. I’m only 31 so cant blame hormones etc just very settled in my sexless life .

12 years 3 months and counting..... Doubt I will ever have sex with another person again.....I'm 42 😢

6 weeks around each baby (3 weeks before and after)

6-8 weeks but only because I had given birth.

6 years. Then was 6 months with a guy I thought was going somewhere then another 2 year gap. Not sure if I can stomach putting myself out there again though, still smarting from being dumped!

A year. It was horrible. I turned off my sexuality and was very closed. I won't do that again.

8/9 years after DC dad and ex. Then 2 fwb fairly close together, and been a year this time. I don't miss the physical sex, I can do that myself, better and with less fuss, I really miss intimacy though. And yes, peri menopause horniness is a thing I think, because I think I'm heading down that route!

A bit more than 2 years, since I left my ex. I'm working on myself and my boundaries before dipping a toe in the dating pool.

5 years single enjoyed being single then met my dp who due to medical reasons told me we would not be able to have intercourse though we did other things of course. after 12 months things changed due to GP support and finding a few aids to help now we have a very healthy sex life

4 months post separation.

Then started with a FWB.

2 weeks as I had just given birth.

15 years. I didn't miss it but then I was a child at the time.

About 18 months... And I'm married.

No libido . DH must be so patient but I'm just not feeling it.

7wks post birth as my body was knacked and I was exhausted