Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 ··· 8 9 10 11 12 13

Original poster

About dispute with neighbours

314 replies

jenniferl1983 · 11/05/2019 23:27

We don't get on well at all with our neighbours. We usually ignore them however today they really annoyed me so my partner went to talk to them. The male in the couple was throwing small amounts of water out of his window onto his parking space, unfortunately he wasn't being that careful and some of the water ran onto our parking space too. Luckily it missed my car. My partner then went into my garage (the neighbours live in a flat above our garage) and the neighbour continued throwing the water out despite the fact he must have known my partner was out there.

My partner then knocked on their door several times. I was watching and I will admit he did knock pretty hard but I think it was understandable that he was angry given he could have got water chucked on him.

The neighbours didn't answer so we left it but am not sure what to do now. My partner wants to knock again but I want to call the police as it might possibly count as an attempted assault. I know that sounds a bit extreme but I've had to call them before when my daughters saw my neighbour looking up at them in their in the bedroom so it indicates a pattern of harassment. WIBU to call the police or should I let my partner knock on their door tomorrow?

OP posts:

Acis · 12/05/2019 08:51

And how does your husband cope with bird crap on the car?

VeganCow · 12/05/2019 08:52

I've never in my life heard of someone else's bin causing damage to another person's property. Ever. Actually, in very stormy weather, our road has had wheelie bins flying in the road and hitting gates and cars, after they have been emptied.

notanymoreyourenot · 12/05/2019 08:55

It sounds like you are the problem neighbour....

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 12/05/2019 08:58

Heaven forbid if your car gets rained on I mean the horror of it.

If anyone should be calling the police it’s your neighbour for your DP trying to intimidate them

Twillow · 12/05/2019 08:59

So, Jennifer, having read the thread -until my sides hurt- I find everything I wanted to say has been said. So take note my love.
Frankly, you're behaving like a loon. Why don't you just try and get on with people, not assume the worst and stop over-reacting? It really does make life more pleasant. This is not a good role model for your children, you know.

Awittyusernameishardtofind · 12/05/2019 09:09

He looked at your daughters? Twisted motherforker! How dare he!! So sick of men thinking they have the right to go around looking at people

Skip the police. They won’t act quickly enough. You need to save yourselves (and the car) before it’s too late. You never know when he might strike again!

I suggest you move far away.
Away from everyone. It’s the only way you can stop horrible things like people looking at you or pouring water onto their own property. You can leave your stinky bin where you like then to!

theboomtownrat · 12/05/2019 09:10

Such a funny thread

grumiosmum · 12/05/2019 09:10

I got about halfway through the thread before i got bored.

However it's quite clear to me OP that your neighbour enjoys winding you up.

As I frequently advise DS2 when DS1 does this to him, Don't Rise to the Bait.

If they don't get a reaction from you they'll soon get bored and stop trying to provoke you.

Raffles1981 · 12/05/2019 09:12

This is utter nonsense. The police would never agree with you OP, that would be taking sides. I feel sorry for your neighbors.

Serin · 12/05/2019 09:17

Your GP might be a better person to seek help from than the police. Your level of paranoia is concerning.

oldmum22 · 12/05/2019 09:17

Words fail me !

Complete and utter load of nonsense

Gigglinghysterically · 12/05/2019 09:27

Have to admit to having a serious belly laugh at all these comments.

OP, it's obviously really bothered you but why didn't you either? :

Clean/disinfect your bin;
Secure it properly when you moved it;
Pay for the damage to neighbour's car caused by your property.

Thus is what I would have done. A dented car can cost a lot of money to get fixed. Why would you feel it is okay for your neighbour to have to bear that cost? Can you really say if your car was damaged by his bin that you would just think 'never mind, it's an act of God'. I don't think so.

It's your poor handling of that situation that has caused him to maybe be messing about throwing black water by your car. He's aggrieved. Why don't you sort it out by paying for the damage to his car?

scratchyfluffface · 12/05/2019 09:27

Oh good god, watch out or you'll end up being the batshit neighbour on 'nightmare neighbour next door' the idea of calling the police for either of those things is ridiculous

holibab · 12/05/2019 09:29

He was probably trying to spray you'd partner with holy water to see if he's a demon.

angieloumc · 12/05/2019 09:31

holibab I'm crying 😂

Crappygilmore · 12/05/2019 09:37

I may have missed the boat on this one bit fwiw. What the acutual fuck! Its water it wont kill you or damage your car. Their are people being stabbed in the streets, people blowing themselves up, children dying . This This is not a fucking problem. Water! I ask you.....

AlunWynsKnee · 12/05/2019 09:41

I love the idea that the OP thinks the police speaking to the neighbour was a vindication that she was right to call them. The police probably went round, explained the visit and told him not to get involved with the mad neighbours.
On a serious note I was watching one of the many police shows that was on and they said they didn't get these types of call but people ring them now about things that anyone grown up should be dealing with themselves and it's such a waste of resources.

ghostyslovesheets · 12/05/2019 09:41

I've found footage of the OP on a day trip!

krankykittykat · 12/05/2019 09:42

You and your husband are nuts. I feel sorry for the neighbours

firstimemamma · 12/05/2019 09:42

This thread is hilarious.

The water thing

The window thing

"Out of control wheelie bin"

"Act of god"

MarinaPunta · 12/05/2019 09:42

This thread is giving me LIFE! I bet you contact your kids’ school a lot as well.

NoSquirrels · 12/05/2019 09:43

Thought this was familiar somehow...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3531253-To-think-neighbour-should-pay-for-damage

RiftGibbon · 12/05/2019 09:44

My old neighbours daughter used to sit on the wall between our gardens and give me dirty looks. This was in the 1980s and she was about 11.
Do you think I should see if the police might have a word, retrospectively like?

Bluntness100 · 12/05/2019 09:45

The thing is in reality it's not funny. The op and her husband are now at the level of harassing their neighbours. Those poor bastards need to live next to the op and her family.

And they think their vendetta is justified due to the bin incident. They even called the police on them and nigh on accused the Male of being a paedophile. Now they are angrily battering on their door because some water nearly got on their drive.

It must be awful for the neighbours.

WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 12/05/2019 09:46

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Flip

1 2 ··· 8 9 10 11 12 13