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About dispute with neighbours

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jenniferl1983 · 11/05/2019 23:27

We don't get on well at all with our neighbours. We usually ignore them however today they really annoyed me so my partner went to talk to them. The male in the couple was throwing small amounts of water out of his window onto his parking space, unfortunately he wasn't being that careful and some of the water ran onto our parking space too. Luckily it missed my car. My partner then went into my garage (the neighbours live in a flat above our garage) and the neighbour continued throwing the water out despite the fact he must have known my partner was out there.

My partner then knocked on their door several times. I was watching and I will admit he did knock pretty hard but I think it was understandable that he was angry given he could have got water chucked on him.

The neighbours didn't answer so we left it but am not sure what to do now. My partner wants to knock again but I want to call the police as it might possibly count as an attempted assault. I know that sounds a bit extreme but I've had to call them before when my daughters saw my neighbour looking up at them in their in the bedroom so it indicates a pattern of harassment. WIBU to call the police or should I let my partner knock on their door tomorrow?

OP posts:
Nyon · 12/05/2019 07:41

Just to clarify about the drip feeding.
Are these clean water drips or dirty water drips?

Absolutely beautiful.

Tara336 · 12/05/2019 07:42

I actually thought my neighbour was a nightmare until I read this thread! Thank god I don’t live next to you! Get a grip for goodness sake! If this is all you have to worry about is water not hitting a car or your partner then we’ll done!

LotsToThinkOf · 12/05/2019 07:50

So your daughters were laughing and staring, he told them to go away and he’s the problem.

Your neighbour throws water out of the window and your DH decides that this is the time he needs to be outside in the path of the water.

Yep, definitely problem neighbours, but it’s not them. I’m really irritated by the comments about the neighbour staring at your children. He told them to go away and your reaction was to call the police and try to brand him as behaving inappropriately. What a disgusting thing to do, teaching your daughters to cover their own behaviour by accusing someone else.

IrisAtwood · 12/05/2019 08:08

Thank you for this thread OP.

I needed a laugh.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 12/05/2019 08:10

Just woken up to this thread and OP you have made my day....but in all seriousness I think you are of need of some professional help...your thinking is so off balance and your actions are well off the scale you are affecting your children too....this is not a good thing...do you actually realize how dangerous you are? Calling the police because a man dared to look up to your children? Seriously OP...He heard kids giggling and having fun and glanced up as anyone would do...any single one of us and you thought well heaven above knows what you thought but blimey you can't mess with peoples lives like that really you can't....you are out of control lady and need help badly...

Bluntness100 · 12/05/2019 08:15

I honestly think some folks take vengeance to a whole new level. The ops neighbours were pissed off the bin damaged the car and asked for a contribution or payment for the damage, I think she started a thread on it.

And now they've gone barmy trying to make their neighbours lives a total and utter living hell.

And getting their kids in on the act

It really is in need of professional help. It's pure batshit.

StickOfRhubarb · 12/05/2019 08:16

Right well my neighbour spat in my baby’s face when she was in my arms and built and lit a fire on my doorstep and the police did FUCK ALL so good luck with your ‘my car almost got wet’.

You should secure your bin when it’s windy. That’s normal behaviour. You don’t just let it blow all over because someone told you to put it in a place you hadn’t put it before.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 12/05/2019 08:16

Acts of god and the pedophile downstairs. and yes, that was what you were very nearly accusing him off.....just not rational thinking...

StickOfRhubarb · 12/05/2019 08:17

Oh, and it’s you and your daughter and your partner and his daughter that are the problem.

I bet you all go through your lives falling out with people and it’s never your fault.

Pk37 · 12/05/2019 08:17

Whoa... he looked up at your daughters window as they were making a noise and you called the police .. my god they must live in fear of you absolute nut jobs .
And then you have the cheek to get upset about water being thrown out “near” your car ! Ffs ..
I really hope this is a joke otherwise you seem to have some issues, I dread to think what would happen if something actually serious occurred .
Fuck me..

my2bundles · 12/05/2019 08:19

Your bin damaged their car, of course they are going to want you to contribute towards the cost of getting it fixed. Your kids where laughing at him fixing his car, teach then manners.

Sexykitten2005 · 12/05/2019 08:23

I’m embarrassed for you OP. We were born in the same year but you don’t seem to have matured past 12. You and your partner are deliberately going out of your way to cause problems and find issues. you are not being harassed. I’m so glad I live somewhere with other grown ups who can talk about stuff if we have an issue

Handsoffmysweets · 12/05/2019 08:24

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BookwormMe2 · 12/05/2019 08:29

Your kids are obviously picking up on your obsession with your neighbours and massively overreacted to him looking up at the window. Please stop before they start thinking this is normal behaviour and assume cars aren't waterproof as well.

IrisAtwood · 12/05/2019 08:29

OP, I advise that you keep a very detailed journal of every single things that these neighbours do:

  • entering and leaving their home (date, time, length of absence)
  • turning taps on and off (date, time, length of running)
  • walking around (date, time, which room, directions)
  • anything they are carrying when entering and leaving their home (ideally the specific carrier bags, no of items, what they are)
  • opening and closing windows (which ones, when, for how long)
  • clothes that they are wearing whenever you see them (as detailed as possible)
  • sights, sounds, smells of cooking (date, times)
  • any looks at you or any member of your family (full face, profile, from the left or the right, facial expression, date, time)

Once you’ve completed that for six weeks, lodge it with your solicitor, send a copy to the police and start another six week log. Repeat until the police visit and you are compulsorily detained for treatment. Each member of your family should then pick up the baton until everyone who is infected with your paranoia is getting the treatment that they need.

JonSnowsFurCoat · 12/05/2019 08:30

So your bin dented his car, your kids were laughing at him while he was working on his car, your DH banged on his door in an aggressive way.

I don’t think it’s them that’s doing the harassing.

rainbowstardrops · 12/05/2019 08:32

Well that gave me a chuckle on a Sunday morning!

YouJustDoYou · 12/05/2019 08:32

I'm laughing so hard.

Soubriquet · 12/05/2019 08:36

Oh dear god

What have I just read?!!

You are batshit!!!!!

You are definitely the nightmare neighbour in this situation

Sugarplumfairy65 · 12/05/2019 08:36

Why are you allowing your bins to be blowing about in the wind? You should have them secured so that they can't damage someone's property. If I were your neighbour, I would be claiming from your home insurance. If that failed I would take you to small claims court.

LakieLady · 12/05/2019 08:37

Actually I might have to call in the army

I think this might be one for the marines, actually.

AguerosAngel · 12/05/2019 08:39

Crying at the absolute batshittery of this!!

Sorry OP but you’re crackers!!! 😂😂

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 12/05/2019 08:45

What's the betting the kids were smirking or pulling faces at the neighbour and that is why he was annoyed? Kids knew they had done wrong to made up story about being frightened.

By the way, best laugh I have had on a Sunday morning for ages!

Cuttingthegrass · 12/05/2019 08:47

Couldn’t you just clean your bin so it didn’t smell?

Delilah2019 · 12/05/2019 08:48

What does your husband do when it rains if he gets this upset over a tiny bit of water?