About dispute with neighbours

[jenniferl1983]

We don't get on well at all with our neighbours. We usually ignore them however today they really annoyed me so my partner went to talk to them. The male in the couple was throwing small amounts of water out of his window onto his parking space, unfortunately he wasn't being that careful and some of the water ran onto our parking space too. Luckily it missed my car. My partner then went into my garage (the neighbours live in a flat above our garage) and the neighbour continued throwing the water out despite the fact he must have known my partner was out there.

My partner then knocked on their door several times. I was watching and I will admit he did knock pretty hard but I think it was understandable that he was angry given he could have got water chucked on him.

The neighbours didn't answer so we left it but am not sure what to do now. My partner wants to knock again but I want to call the police as it might possibly count as an attempted assault. I know that sounds a bit extreme but I've had to call them before when my daughters saw my neighbour looking up at them in their in the bedroom so it indicates a pattern of harassment. WIBU to call the police or should I let my partner knock on their door tomorrow?

I think your partner overreacted, water ‘nearly’ getting on a car isn’t really a reason to be thumping on the door - even if you have your difficulties with each other. It seems like one of those small things it’s not worth escalating. It’s definitely not a police matter.

I’m starting to get really annoyed with the rubbish that mumsnetters phone the police about.

Act like grown ups ffs

What does your partner do when it rains? Shake his fists angrily and scream at the heavens? Do you take your car inside and give it a hot chocolate by the fire?

Honestly, you go through life just assuming people are normal, sensible humans and then you read something like this and it’s like a glimpse into the multiverse.

The police came to speak to us. My daughters were frightened to see a grown man staring up at them. The police said they would talk to my neighbour and tell him to keep away from us and that they are children and he is an adult and so was in the wrong upsetting them.

There is obviously a big backstory here and you are not explaining yourself well.
Someone casting their eyes up at a window and dripping water around isn't harassment

(Thank god all our neighbours muddle along, take parcels in for each other if we can and don't accuse each other of LOOKING at each other)

Lone wolf you have made me laugh

Yeah this cannot be real. Reporting.

I was watching and I will admit he did knock pretty hard but I think it was understandable that he was angry

This sounds intimidating and I wouldn't answer my door to someone behaving aggressively so I'm not surprised your neighbours didn't.

What exactly would have happen if your car / DH got wet? I understand that if they deliberately threw water at DH that would be aggressive, but accidentally splashing someone when when chucking water out of their own window doesn't sound like assault to me! And it didn't even happen - I'm pretty sure there's no such crime as "attempted assault".

You’re drip feeding a bit here, in your OP you said you wanted to call the Police and asked if you should - but you have already?

Dear god. I wonder how some people manage to function in the real world.

Stop wasting police time.

I think rain is different. This was on purpose plus the water was black so it was dirty water and we don't know where it came from.

The police said they would talk to my neighbour and tell him to keep away from us and that they are children and he is an adult and so was in the wrong upsetting them

No they didnt.

Garde Lieu (gardyloo)

What happens to your car and partner when it rains? Do the neighbours have to look directly in front of them when passing your house?
If there isn't a significant back story which you haven't told us then you and your partner's behaviour is very bizarre and paranoid.

😂😂😂😂😂

?????!!!!!!

Yep, it's YOUR family that are the nuisances. Water was chucked, oh no, call the church. As for the scenario with your daughters, he assumed they were looking and laughing at him and told them to not stare. Your daughter's have clearly picked up the overreacting gene from you because that is nothing to get so frightened about. Goodness, you're all a bunch of drama queen's it seems. Perhaps find a place somewhere far away where you are not surrounded by other humans to be so bothered by such irrelevant things.

"Is your car made of paper?"
"Is your car made of biscuit?"

LOL!

Nothing to add apart from you are being unreasonable!

There is a backstory in that ''I caused damage'' to the neighbours car (it was an act of God and not my fault. The police agreed it was an act of God and that I wasn't liable. They rudely demanded I pay for the damage and that was the start of the trouble.

Drip drip drip 💧

How did you damage their car.....?

Ahh the humble drip feed. Now the water was suddenly black water. Because that wouldn't be something youd have mentioned to begin with, oh no, not at all.