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About dispute with neighbours

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jenniferl1983 · 11/05/2019 23:27

We don't get on well at all with our neighbours. We usually ignore them however today they really annoyed me so my partner went to talk to them. The male in the couple was throwing small amounts of water out of his window onto his parking space, unfortunately he wasn't being that careful and some of the water ran onto our parking space too. Luckily it missed my car. My partner then went into my garage (the neighbours live in a flat above our garage) and the neighbour continued throwing the water out despite the fact he must have known my partner was out there.

My partner then knocked on their door several times. I was watching and I will admit he did knock pretty hard but I think it was understandable that he was angry given he could have got water chucked on him.

The neighbours didn't answer so we left it but am not sure what to do now. My partner wants to knock again but I want to call the police as it might possibly count as an attempted assault. I know that sounds a bit extreme but I've had to call them before when my daughters saw my neighbour looking up at them in their in the bedroom so it indicates a pattern of harassment. WIBU to call the police or should I let my partner knock on their door tomorrow?

OP posts:
AgentProvocateur · 12/05/2019 04:29

I’m glad you’re not my neighbours. Your whole family sounds completely unhinged.

Elderflower14 · 12/05/2019 04:37

Is this a reverse??? 🙄 🙄 🙄 🙄

cantfindname · 12/05/2019 04:47

Well.. I have read a Lot of threads on this forum and this has to take the Biscuit for possibly being one of the most batshit crazy ever!

OMG..it's raining now. Will my car dissolve? Oh.. no.. wait a minute. I don't have a car. OMG but my bike is getting wet....

Decormad38 · 12/05/2019 05:10

Oh dear- you and your dh sound like the nightmare neighbours. Glad you don’t live next door to me my dh is dyspraxic and if he ever does anything it flies all over.

AlexaAmbidextra · 12/05/2019 05:30

The police spoke to him about it so I don't think I was in the wrong as why would they speak to him if there was no issue?

They probably said to your neighbour, ‘Look, do yourself a favour mate. Stay away from her because she’s completely batshit. She’ll give you nothing but grief so best to avoid her.’

user1483387154 · 12/05/2019 05:37

You are being completely ridiculous

CrumbsCrumbsEverywhere · 12/05/2019 05:42

I work for the police. This kind of shite makes me wonder why we bother.

  1. Most adults (including adult males) have eyes and are allowed to use them to look at things. If he was staring at your daughter while fondling his thighs and asking if she wanted to see a puppy, fair enough. Looking at her window, not so much.
  2. Cars are waterproof.
  3. If you prefer eyeless neighbours and/or your car to never come into contact with water, move into your own complex complete with indoor track for your car and only people with sight impairment permitted to pass by. Problem solved. Let your kids out now and again though, save they end up as off their rockers as you.
SillyMoomin · 12/05/2019 06:43

Yes, you say the police went round to talk to the neighbour- what you don’t know if that they probably went round and said “oh, we understand you’ve got a nightmare neighbour and her husband and 2 DC next door who are clearly the batshit ones NOT you, let us know if you need anything”

OVAgroundWOMBlingfree · 12/05/2019 06:45

Watergate.

DartmoorDoughnut · 12/05/2019 06:46

Christ you’re all nuts! You called the police because your neighbour looked at your house & you want to call them again because he was throwing water out of his window? Leave the poor sods alone!

SillyMoomin · 12/05/2019 06:54

Oh! You’re the pernickity cinema lift worrying op

That makes more sense.

Yes, you’re bonkers

Shoxfordian · 12/05/2019 07:04

I think you're the problem neighbours here op

JenniferJareau · 12/05/2019 07:05

my daughters saw my neighbour looking up at them in their in the bedroom

Then buy net curtains like normal people do.

NeatFreakMama · 12/05/2019 07:07

You sound like you’re at the stage where anything they do annoys you. Objectively water is no big deal and him looking up when he thought your kids were laughing at him is normal. I have some sympathy because I know neighbour disputes can get to you but no sympathy on wasting police time. Please leave the police to deal with real issues and not perceived ‘staring’.

PristineCondition · 12/05/2019 07:10

This thread has made my week

Stars all round

BruceAndNosh · 12/05/2019 07:19

Just to clarify about the drip feeding.
Are these clean water drips or dirty water drips?

youarenotkiddingme · 12/05/2019 07:28

It's water.

It's a car.

It didn't even hit anyone or the car.

If he wants a reaction he's won. Because you are going to go batshit at him over some water.

Ignore ignore ignore. Don't even glance in his direction.
If he glances in yours ignore and close curtains.

This has the potential to get way out of hand.

maddiemookins16mum · 12/05/2019 07:31

You all sound a bit childish. The neighbour is looking for a reaction from you, ignore them.

shouldwestayorshouldwego · 12/05/2019 07:31

The police probably went round to get the neighbour's viewpoint because they knew that it would be a cracking story to lighten the mood back at the station but their fellow officers would want both sides!

I would calm down with the perceived insults and just ignore the neighbours. It won't look good if you have to sell.

LagunaBubbles · 12/05/2019 07:31

are allowed to use them to look at things. If he was staring at your daughter while fondling his thighs and asking if she wanted to see a puppy, fair enough. Looking at her window, not so much

GrinGrin

WoWsers16 · 12/05/2019 07:32

Did it cause puddles in your driveway? There’s also a funny thread about that! You may get some tips lol

youarenotkiddingme · 12/05/2019 07:35

With regards the staring at your daughters may I helpfully add something I tell MH teen ds continuously (teens are well known for their "they're staaaaaasrrrrrring at me" Grin

You CANNOT possibly know someone is staring at you for prolonged periods of time - unless you are also looking directly at them. Eg - staring back.

Perhaps reach your children this and leave the police to deal with crime?

MRex · 12/05/2019 07:36

I appreciated saving the water being black for a drip feed!

Is there a link to the story about the friend and the lift?

TheQueef · 12/05/2019 07:37

You sit at the window don't you? Watching their every move for something for you to be upset by?

Bluntness100 · 12/05/2019 07:38

I really think when you get to this level of deranged and sweating the small stuff you should seek medical help. You and your husband. Instead of bringing your kids up to think your behaviour is normal and involving them in it.

It's not ok.