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not to have opened the door?

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SuckingOnDiesel · 10/05/2019 20:03

I know I am! Bloody MN teaching me never to open the door BlushGrin

So my gas stopped working yesterday. Called the gas company who sent the gas man round. I fell in love

Seriously though, I broke up with my (abusive) DDs dad 18 months ago, and haven't been interested in anybody in that time. I'm only 25 and thought I never would be again tbh, it's been so long. I only really go to work or hang out with my DD and our friends. I sometimes say that Mr Right will have to break into my house if he wants to meet me Blush

There was so much chemistry, he did a couple of other (unrelated) little jobs for me. He was really handsome and funny and interesting. Kind with my DD whilst she was chatting away to him. Same age, similar interests. We just clicked. Stayed chatting for about half an hour after he'd finished. He definitely seemed really interested. Went to say something with his phone in his hand but then went. I was gutted but kind of hoped the gas people would have given him my number (in case he couldn't find the property or whatever) and he might text.

He knocked on the door at like 7.30 that night. When he came over, I looked an absolute state as there was no hot water so I had greasy hair and no make up etc. Then this time I still had no make up, wet hair and mismatched PJs. House was a mess as I do a tidy after bedtime. And also, I was just caught off guard and panicked so I just ran upstairs and hid BlushBlush

I don't even know his name! But know where he lives, where he grew up, former jobs etc.

Regret not answering the door so so much! My sister told me to try and find out his name from the company/ find him on Facebook but this seemed too stalkerish. But then when he knocked on my door, I thought I clearly wasn't being too crazy! So I tried Blush couldn't find him on Facebook. Had to phone the gas company for sometning else so I asked them under the guise of wanting to leave him a good review. They said they use a third party contractor so don't know who it was who came but would send his company my feedback.

That's it, isn't it? I'm going to have to forget about him. And get myself on tinder or something 😩

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Singletomingle · 10/05/2019 22:04

Instead of saying he left something behind why not just say he showed you how to work your boiler or how to maintain it properly and you've forgotten exactly what he said would he pop by and run through it again. If hes interested he'll jump at the chance to come round again.

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SuckingOnDiesel · 10/05/2019 22:07

Instead of saying he left something behind why not just say he showed you how to work your boiler or how to maintain it properly and you've forgotten exactly what he said would he pop by and run through it again. If hes interested he'll jump at the chance to come round again.

His company are third party contractors to my gas supplier though IYSWIM. So surely they can't say to a third party company oh our customer would like your engineer to come over and show her how to work it again, they obviously wouldn't ask for this because there would be an expectation of payment between them and their contractor company. Plus it's not my boiler, it's just my meter. Not really anything that needs to be explained unfortunately Sad

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MIA12 · 10/05/2019 22:12

Without wanting to rain on your parade... I had a similar experience with sparks flying between a workman and me when I was in scruffy decorating clothes and bed hair! Except he took my number off the paperwork so we were in touch from the same day. Long story short I ended up getting massively hurt. You don’t know how many customers he’s behaving like this with. The fact he knocked on your door instead of just discreetly leaving his number through the letterbox sounds like he was hoping for a shag to me.

You don’t know anything about this man. Try not to over romanticise a bit of flirting.

lablablab · 10/05/2019 22:14

break the boiler!! take a hammer to the damn thing and get him back in! @DelusionalDog

Love this! GrinGrin

I'd call back to get the name of his company and leave a message for him to call you!

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SuckingOnDiesel · 10/05/2019 22:22

I'd call back to get the name of his company and leave a message for him to call you!

This would be the best thing tbh because I don't trust my shit show of a gas supplier (have recently also sent me a court summons six months after I settled one missed direct debit which was paid a couple of days after as they forgot to stop the collection process) to pass on anything.

But what's the reason?!

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SuckingOnDiesel · 10/05/2019 22:23

Tbh I wouldn't be completely averse to a FWB situation anyway. Just not at my house  I realllly need some excitement and fun in my life. Whatever happens, I will never again let anybody abuse or control me. Or meet my kid for at least 12 years (#mumsnetstandards) 

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LikeDolphinsCanSwin · 10/05/2019 22:31

I'm with TheInvestigator, people on here are so quick to rush to the worst possible conclusion with the flimsiest of evidence.

I have no practical suggestions, but I hope he gives it another try. Open the door next time!

Pineapplewheelnuts · 10/05/2019 22:31

I forgot my Grin at the end of my post so now it looks like I was genuinely suggesting you'd be hauled up before the courts for nicking his Rolex. Go back and imagine a Grin at the end!!

lablablab · 10/05/2019 22:49

You don't need a reason I don't think. Tell them that he said to call if you had any questions and you have a few questions that you need to ask him. If they push you say you'd rather discuss it with him directly. Be firm! Wink

Justaboy · 10/05/2019 23:18

Tell them he's left some tools or a bit of equipment there and would he like to pop by and collect. Now if it isnt him them ask the bloke who calls if he knows him then. The tools?, ask dad to spare you an old spanner or hammer;?

And see how you get on not every man is a dud un and how do you know if anyone online is any better anyway?.

and I don't think 7-30 at this time of year is late at all!

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SuckingOnDiesel · 10/05/2019 23:43

Ok, so when the gas woman calls tomorrow I'm just going to say he's left a screwdriver here and could I please have the name of the third party company so I could ask them to let him know? I have pretty substantial reason to escalate this ongoing complaint so hopefully she is aiming to please and doesn't go all GDPR in my ass Grin will update tomorrow if anybody cares. Keep your 🤞🏽 for me.

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SuckingOnDiesel · 10/05/2019 23:44

doesn't go all GDPR in my ass

ON! On my ass.

BlushBlushBlush

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spashy · 10/05/2019 23:47

Mia that exact story happened to me. Except he was in a relationship and shagging all around. Op he is a chancer. I mean if you and him got together. He might be knocking on people doors. On the off chance.

threedeepatthebar · 10/05/2019 23:48

Don’t say a screwdriver!! That might not even be worth sending him back for. It needs to be something of value. Maybe even something personal rather than work related because then it’s his call whether he needs to collect it rather than the company saying just write off the screwdriver xx

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SuckingOnDiesel · 11/05/2019 00:01

Don’t say a screwdriver!! That might not even be worth sending him back for. It needs to be something of value. Maybe even something personal rather than work related because then it’s his call whether he needs to collect it rather than the company saying just write off the screwdriver xx

A jumper then? Agree that a watch is a bit unlikely. I live in the SE and we have had some weird weather this week - freezing then sweltering. So kind of believable?

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Singletomingle · 11/05/2019 00:03

Don't be specific just say tools, they wont pry and as I've said he will jump at the chance to see you again. Be honest if he comes back ask for his number or for a drink. He'll run a mile if he's not interested if he is he'll walk back to his van like he's won the lottery!

andthentherewere · 11/05/2019 00:26

The running upstairs and then thinking about it for days after totally sounds like something I would do. You definitely should try and get a message to him. Does your gas supplier have a website? Maybe it says on there which contractors they use?
Make sure you update us, I would love to know if you get hold of him!

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SuckingOnDiesel · 11/05/2019 00:30

Does your gas supplier have a website? Maybe it says on there which contractors they use?

I've been googling for days 😩😂 but no luck.

I'll just say tools, good plan. Overthinkers are us. Will definitely update you all.

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tensmum1964 · 11/05/2019 00:31

I think its quite sweet and while we all need to be cautious not every man is a potential serial killer. I met my partner when he came to do some work at my house. I was a single parent so had to be cautious. 20 yrs later and we are still together. I hope he makes contact with you again OP. Keep us updated.

Kingslayer · 11/05/2019 00:38

People banging on about boundaries 😁 😁 he knocked in the fucking door 😁 jesus
Do you assert your boundaries with the postman too?! 😂 😂

IncrediblySadToo · 11/05/2019 00:49

Ya numpty running away 🙄🤣😂

The way some posters are carrying on you’d think he’d scaled your down pipe and appeared in your bedroom swinging his tool, not knocked on your door at 7:30pm.

Mind you, half of MN won’t actually open their door, ever, unless it’s pre arranged 🙄

I know you said ‘no’ before, but could you not use social media to find him, but not say you’re lusting after him? Just say he was a nice bloke who was a second party contractor and he left something at your house you’d like to return to him

?!

heyd · 11/05/2019 00:51

Following 😂 OP i hope you get the guy!

Justaboy · 11/05/2019 00:53

I've got one:)

Ask them this;

Hi..

I had a chap call the other day we were chatting over a cuppa after he did the job and he mentiond a band he was into and i rembered a DVD he was intrested and he said if you do come across it i'd really like it in but i couldnt remember where i put it but i do now,or you know where it can be got from, if he wants it could he give me a bell on this number of this e-mail address..

If he wants to meet up again then he'll go for it:)

There yer go!

tensmum1964 · 11/05/2019 01:00

The way some posters are carrying on you’d think he’d scaled your down pipe and appeared in your bedroom swinging his tool, not knocked on your door at 7:30pm.

Mind you, half of MN won’t actually open their door, ever, unless it’s pre arranged 🙄

That made me laugh out loud.Smile

BoreOfWhabylon · 11/05/2019 01:09

But what's the reason?

PERSONAL ISSUES!!!

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