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To think my MIL is rude

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MrsMumm · 06/05/2019 10:51

Hiya, so I have recently come to the conclusion that my MIL is very rude. This is due to the fact that she ruined Christmas last year by dropping the turkey and blaming it on me. Then in March, it was my birthday, which she claimed to forget, and didn't turn up to the event. I was clearly upset that my husbands mother basically didn't give a damn about me. Now the latest event has put the nail in the coffin. My father in law, who she divorced about 2 years ago, recently had a heart attack while she was on holiday. She found out about it and was very upset on the phone, or so we thought. The next day she rang saying she had extended her holiday a further two weeks. My HIL was livid. How could a woman he's been with for 50 years turn her back on him like that. What should I do?

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fecketyfeck21 · 06/05/2019 13:44

i can't help thinking about the sketch with mr bean with a gigantic turkey on his head, or the scene where he crams a turkey in the microwave and it blows up scattering turkey everywhere now that really was dinner ruined Grin

DanielRicciardosSmile · 06/05/2019 13:47

@Baloonphobia don't get a bigger oven, just get a spare one that you never use.

ilovesooty · 06/05/2019 13:53

I'm reminded of the duck episode in Fawlty Towers.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 06/05/2019 13:58

Well, you need to pluck up the courage to tell MIL to get stuffed. Or MIL needs to pluck up the courage to tell you to get stuffed.

Definitely, one of those two options has to be the way to go.

And the turkey agrees with me!

LadyRannaldini · 06/05/2019 14:01

my MIL is very rude

Isn't that the MN default setting for MILs?

Sugarplumfairy65 · 06/05/2019 14:25

You are a drama queen.
Why should your MIL come home from a holiday because a man she is divorced from is ill? I don't blame her for extending her holiday.
You say that they were together for 5o years? There must be a very good reason for them to divorce after so many years. He is no longer her responsibility. If it were my ex husband, I wouldn't give him another thought.

TheGrapefulDread · 06/05/2019 14:43

Hope she sends him a Get Well Soon Carte Postal - perhaps of Les Invalides.

TheGrapefulDread · 06/05/2019 14:45

... or Sacre Coeur. 🇫🇷

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 06/05/2019 14:50

If my XH had a heart attack, I would like to celebrate with a holiday too! :)

Redshoeblueshoe · 06/05/2019 14:57

Me too SpongeBob

Redshoeblueshoe · 06/05/2019 14:59

Sacre Coeur that is genius
Please don't delete this thread MNHQ

RSAcre · 06/05/2019 15:04

My friends are very rich, they buy two turkeys but only use one

Fucking priceless. Can't see why that's not a tradition in every home.

Waytooearly · 06/05/2019 15:04

If I witnessed my ex-wife punching a hot slippery turkey on Christmas day I'd have a heart attack too.

CurtainsOpen · 06/05/2019 15:05

Oh do fuck off.

Waytooearly · 06/05/2019 15:06

I've done well this year. I'm gonna buy a Stunt Turkey to throw at my daughter-in-law. Best Christmas Ever!

Rosesaredead · 06/05/2019 15:08

I don't think she needed to return early from a holiday to see her ex husband? Her current husband yes, but not an ex.

Rosesaredead · 06/05/2019 15:08

Also... I'd probably still have eaten the turkey!

zukiecat · 06/05/2019 15:17

IsYourGoogleBroken

Not everyone can afford more than one meat at Christmas

I buy two chicken breasts, one for me and one for DD, we have that, roast tatties, carrots, peas, green beans, skirlie and yorkshire puddings and gravy, nothing more.

I agree though that if I'd dropped the chicken on the floor I'd have just picked it up and eaten it anyway

Baloonphobia · 06/05/2019 16:00

The way my DM cooks (cremates) turkey, it would have just bounced off the marble floor and back on the dish. We never need to borrow our friends emergency one.

LagunaBubbles · 06/05/2019 16:07

This is hilarious Grin

Peanutbutterforever · 06/05/2019 16:41

Surely if the OP's friends were "very rich", the second bird would have been duck?

Maybe they got a 2 for 1 deal in Tesco and OP nicked the MN turkey that would have seen them through to Easter...

ThatLibraryMiss · 06/05/2019 18:35

I think people going on about the turkey are missing the point of the thread.

The marble floor. Who the fuck has a marble floor in a kitchen? You'd be skating if you dropped a little water. I feel the OP's missed out the scene in which she and her MIL clutched each other, trying to stay upright on the suddenly-slippery marble floor.

fecketyfeck21 · 06/05/2019 21:53

so glad mnhq saw sense and didn't pull this, it's great.

llangennith · 07/05/2019 00:10

I think you're all being very unkind to the OP. She's having to put up with in-laws who don't even bother to get a second turkey and what's more they take her DC to places they don't want to go. It's heartbreaking😢

DanielRicciardosSmile · 07/05/2019 09:04

@ThatLibraryMiss it could be re-enacted in ice skating - maybe with a small child dressed as a turkey. Not so much Disney on Ice as Disaster on Ice