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To think my MIL is rude

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MrsMumm · 06/05/2019 10:51

Hiya, so I have recently come to the conclusion that my MIL is very rude. This is due to the fact that she ruined Christmas last year by dropping the turkey and blaming it on me. Then in March, it was my birthday, which she claimed to forget, and didn't turn up to the event. I was clearly upset that my husbands mother basically didn't give a damn about me. Now the latest event has put the nail in the coffin. My father in law, who she divorced about 2 years ago, recently had a heart attack while she was on holiday. She found out about it and was very upset on the phone, or so we thought. The next day she rang saying she had extended her holiday a further two weeks. My HIL was livid. How could a woman he's been with for 50 years turn her back on him like that. What should I do?

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MrsMumm · 06/05/2019 11:25

Imagine. The germs in that turkey!

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Banhaha · 06/05/2019 11:25

Seriously who buys a spare turkey?

AginNAgin · 06/05/2019 11:25

She hardly dropped the turkey on purpose!

Had she been invited to your birthday? I struggle to remember my own child's birthday!

Her ex is her ex.

S1naidSucks · 06/05/2019 11:25

Do turkeys live under bridges?

I’m beginning to wonder about that too.

IsYourGoogleBroken · 06/05/2019 11:25

Oh don't you worry, she's not being invited to Christmas this year!!

For which MIL is eternally grateful Grin

My friends are very rich, they buy two turkeys but only use one

hahahahah !

S1naidSucks · 06/05/2019 11:25

🦃

TheCrowFromBelow · 06/05/2019 11:26

A spare turkey?

NoSauce · 06/05/2019 11:26

What should you do? Not a lot really. It’s none of your business that she didn’t come home from her holiday. I guess you don’t like each other OP?

MrsMumm · 06/05/2019 11:27

If you were in my position you'd understand, when my first born was born, she said she would not be relied on for childcare. Also, our family is very small so she could have helped. Finally, she took out my children, to places they obviously didn't want to and then she called me, screaming down the phone that she wanted them to be picked up.

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Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 06/05/2019 11:27

OP If this is all you ever have to worry about you will have a nice life....dropped turkey..an accident anyone could have ,they are hot and slippery easily done...MIL and your birthday...she forgot...hardly the end of the world,do you need a crap card and another prezzie? really? and as for her ex being in hospital...he is so not her responsibility any more,.You need to refocus your energies......Do what you do and let MIL do her thing..the things you have listed are so undeserving of attention really they are.

S1naidSucks · 06/05/2019 11:27

Imagine. The germs in that turkey!

Unless you’re kissing it’s ass, while it’s still alive, I doubt there would be much threat of germs. Or is your floor filthy? Minging.

gottastopeatingchocolate · 06/05/2019 11:28

Have to add to the chorus of "A Spare Turkey??!!"

riverislands · 06/05/2019 11:28

Christmas Day was rude of her. The final issue is you poking your nose into her business and creating a drama.

DaisyYellow · 06/05/2019 11:28

Maybe your FIL could have his spare ex-wife look after him?

Marnie76 · 06/05/2019 11:28

She didn’t have to help with childcare so I can’t agree with you on that one. Screaming down the phone at you, yes that was out of order.
You still haven’t really told us any other ways that she’s abusive though have you

MrsMumm · 06/05/2019 11:28

She could've come back so easily, she was only in France, and for two more days. Sadly she had to extend!

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NoSauce · 06/05/2019 11:29

She doesn’t have to provide childcare OP.
They aren’t her children after all.

AginNAgin · 06/05/2019 11:29

Tell me more about the rich friends with the spare turkey.

Do they cook two, or just buy two? Did ye have to cook the spare turkey?

DaisyYellow · 06/05/2019 11:30

I’d extend my holiday too if people expected me to look after my ex husband when I’d only managed to get rid of him two years ago.

NoSauce · 06/05/2019 11:30

She’s divorced. I wouldn’t come back from my holidays for my exH either. Why would I?

HypatiaCade · 06/05/2019 11:30

I'm sorry, but how can someone who has children be worried about germs from a turkey that lands on the floor in the kitchen. Children are the most germ ridden creatures invented, putting all sorts of things in their mouths.... and if you're not paying sufficient attention, into yours Hmm

S1naidSucks · 06/05/2019 11:31

TheCrowFromBelow
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A spare turkey?*

That’ll be their New Year’s Day turkey. There’s probably a thread from Christmas about a CF friend demanding that the OP had over their New Year’s Day turkey, “because you’re loaded and it’s a spare, innit”. 😁

Drogosnextwife · 06/05/2019 11:31

I wouldn't care less if my mil didn't come to my birthday. I wouldn't come back from my holiday for my EXH. Convenient your friend just happened to have a spare cooked turkey for you to collect on Christmas day. How rude of you to ask for it!

MrsMumm · 06/05/2019 11:32

AginNAgin yes we had to cook it

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NCforthis2019 · 06/05/2019 11:32

Nah. Not buying this. Try harder OP. The rich friends with the spare turkey gave it away.