To think my MIL is rude

[MrsMumm]

Hiya, so I have recently come to the conclusion that my MIL is very rude. This is due to the fact that she ruined Christmas last year by dropping the turkey and blaming it on me. Then in March, it was my birthday, which she claimed to forget, and didn't turn up to the event. I was clearly upset that my husbands mother basically didn't give a damn about me. Now the latest event has put the nail in the coffin. My father in law, who she divorced about 2 years ago, recently had a heart attack while she was on holiday. She found out about it and was very upset on the phone, or so we thought. The next day she rang saying she had extended her holiday a further two weeks. My HIL was livid. How could a woman he's been with for 50 years turn her back on him like that. What should I do?

If you are this hard work in real life I confess I would forget your birthday and stay on Holiday to avoid your drama lama behaviour

We had to go to a friends to get their spare turkey!

Plenty of lovely ILs don't fuss over their SIL/DIL birthdays. If you expect her to, your DH will really have to give her a heads up. The idea that people are not behaving as you think they should is not something to take personally.

The turkey needs more info - did you crash into each other and she shouted first? Sounds like a ridiculous thing to be bringing up more than 4 months later.

Keep out of her divorce. In fact, you sound quite petty and difficult. You don't get the final say on what good behaviour is and keep little lists of people with different outlooks. It's not worth your energy.

look if you don't like her, you don't like her, you don't need to find daft excuses like the turkey thing.

I've no idea how that ruined Xmas day, we'd have laughed, picked it up and ate the bits that hadn't touched the floor,

As for rushing back for an ex, I think you're out of line there. Your expectations are irrelevant. Her relarionship with her ex husband is her business, not yours to dictate.

When you say MIL blamed you for dropping the turkey do you mean she said you were in her way/bumped into her or similar, or that she said you had dropped it?

Well I can imagine it wasn't such a beautiful centrepiece, but so what?

You did still eat it, right?

It was a marble floor, not gravel!

Should have asked to borrow a sense of humour and a big grip as well x

Separate out Turkeygate from My Birthday and Divorced PIL Relationship.

(a) they wouldn't be divorced if they still wanted to be married and have responsibility for each other . Their relationship is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS

(b) I do love a good Christmas Was RUINED I Tell Ya RUNINED! By MIL style thread - frankly if you cant pick a turkey up get the best bits off something the size of an ostrich then there's no hope for humanity - and who only does one meat ? There would have been beef, gammon, pigs in blankets 47 different veg and mountain of stuffing. Drama!!

(c) Birthdays are only important to the birthday girl or boy - no one else cares. She forgot. Meh You don't like her so what's the issue, you didn't have to see her. Win-Win.

yet another wasted life, a turkey killed for nothing. the flooring was no doubt easy to clean the turkey well, that's a shame but i doubt it 'ruined' christmas, unless there were other things going on that were too good.
it's may now so get past the xmas dinner there'll another one in 8 months.

Wow. So you are all just as bad as each other aren’t you. I hope your DH isn’t the only one that’s not nuts. That would really suck.

You sound like an utter drama llama.

Feel sorry for your mil tbh.

THE TURKEY WAS RUUUUUINNNNEEDDD!!!!

How could you feel sorry for such an abusive woman?

Oh don't you worry, she's not being invited to Christmas this year!!

Spare turkey?! Yeah, like that’s a thing.

We had to go to a friends to get their spare turkey!

A spare turkey? Is that a thing?

My friends are very rich, they buy two turkeys but only use one

Junx

Well it's not feeling sorry for her, more pointing out that it seems that you are going after reasons to hate her like a sniffer dog on crack

Do turkeys live under bridges?

Dear god! What a waste. Did you actually throw out a cooked turkey because it fell to the floor. I take it you have more money that sense.

The rest would be irksome, but if you don’t like her, it should have been a good thing that she missed your birthday celebrations and you’ve absolutely no right judging her on how she reacted to her EX husband being ill. They’re divorced for a reason.

In what way is she abusive? Nothing you describe so far is anyway near abusive.
Why didn’t you just pick the turkey up and use it, unless your floor was beyond filthy surely it would have been fine.
Why would she come back from a holiday for an XH, he’s a Ex for a reason.

Money than sense

Jesus Christ OP you’re hard work.
‘Abusive woman’ because she dropped a turkey, forgot your birthday and didn’t rush to her EX HUSBAND’S bedside?
Let’s just call a spade a spade; you simply don’t like this woman and you’re finding excuses to justify your feelings, no matter how petty.

Spare Turkey? Cooked and all?