To think my MIL is rude

[MrsMumm]

Hiya, so I have recently come to the conclusion that my MIL is very rude. This is due to the fact that she ruined Christmas last year by dropping the turkey and blaming it on me. Then in March, it was my birthday, which she claimed to forget, and didn't turn up to the event. I was clearly upset that my husbands mother basically didn't give a damn about me. Now the latest event has put the nail in the coffin. My father in law, who she divorced about 2 years ago, recently had a heart attack while she was on holiday. She found out about it and was very upset on the phone, or so we thought. The next day she rang saying she had extended her holiday a further two weeks. My HIL was livid. How could a woman he's been with for 50 years turn her back on him like that. What should I do?

Do you also have a marble coffee table?

Did you get married in Maui?

Hilarious.

MIL is a 74 year old remainer and FIL is an 80 year old.

Haha @PositiveVibez. Got there before me. Perfect scenario for the use of such an insult however.

And I don't think you should say that NoSauce is a Christmas turkey. It's very rude.

New Year Turkey sorry.

TheViceOfReason actually I was married in England and my coffee table is glass

Well if she’s a remainder, all is forgiven!

Oops, spell check.

*remainer

I’ve been called worse Daniel

Imagine. The germs in that turkey!

Clutches Pearls!!

I’d extend my holiday too if people expected me to look after my ex husband when I’d only managed to get rid of him two years ago. Exactly Daisy!!!

OP you sound like Really.Hard.Work.

She escaped to France to get away from the OP.

And which way did FIL vote?

MIL is a 74 year old remainer

Well she’s doing something right then.

OP, I do sympathize to a point. My DH's mother doesn't give a damn about me either, but as far as I'm concerned that's fine. She doesn't send birthday cards, and on the rare occasions when she did so in the past, she'd remember two weeks late and address them to the wrong name (Mrs HusbandsSurname). What a waste of effort. My only reaction was mild amusement, and quite frankly if she wants to revert to not bothering, that's fine by me. At least it's honest.

If someone doesn't like you, there isn't a lot you can do about it. And, hardnosed though that might sound, that's OK. Not everyone we cross paths with in life is going to like us. You have the option to disarm the woman by withdrawing, which is really the only graceful decision to take. You can't stop your DH from continuing that relationship, and unless circumstances are extreme the same applies to any DC. But by the same token, you can't be forced to have a relationship with her.

As for MiL/FiLs' relationship, that falls into the category of someone else's problem. It's a case of 'not my circus, not my monkeys'.

You're investing too much angst in this situation, and it's not worth your time. Step back.

Not having turkey to eat doesn’t ‘ruin’ Christmas. A few years ago I tried the Nigella ‘brining’ method of cooking turkey (and before you ask, no, my name’s not Pam and I don’t live in Essex).

It was a salty soggy inedible disaster. It was like trying to chew kitchen roll soaked in sea water. It didn’t make it as far as the dinner table but went straight into the food waste. Sadly I didn’t have a rich friend with a spare turkey to call but we all had a good laugh about it and enjoyed everything else.

FIL votes to leave. It threw a spanner in the works between them.

So we have here a 74 year old Remainer, who takes long holidays in France, has a habit of forgetting birthdays, ignoring her ex husband and dropping turkeys on Christmas day! Oh and she doesn't like her grandchildren and makes people end up crying in the corners of their marble kitchens.

I'm not sure what to be thinking at all at all!

I suppose it could be worse - she could have been a Brexiter.

I'm confused by this.

Obviously the turkey's Christmas was ruined long before it hit the floor but the chagrin experienced by the rest of you is perplexing.

AginNAgin i do respect how mobile she is for a 74 year old

So they divorced because of Brexit?! The plot thickens...

wtf has this thread got to do with how they voted?

'My friends are rich, they buy 2 turkeys but only use 1' hahaha ok sounds legit

Every part of this post is utter nonsense!
Why on earth would she rush home to care for her ex husband? Doesn't matter how long their relationship was he is no longer her priority and he clearly has family to be there for him!

I forget my DP's family birthdays all the time unless he reminds me so it is perfectly feasible that she just forgot yours!

You later describe her as abusive but have not detailed any abuse!

You sound like you are very highly strung!

😂😂😂

Your MIL sounds like she's enjoying life. Nothing worse than that.

No it wasn't , it just threw a spanner in the worksheet