To think my MIL is rude

[MrsMumm]

Hiya, so I have recently come to the conclusion that my MIL is very rude. This is due to the fact that she ruined Christmas last year by dropping the turkey and blaming it on me. Then in March, it was my birthday, which she claimed to forget, and didn't turn up to the event. I was clearly upset that my husbands mother basically didn't give a damn about me. Now the latest event has put the nail in the coffin. My father in law, who she divorced about 2 years ago, recently had a heart attack while she was on holiday. She found out about it and was very upset on the phone, or so we thought. The next day she rang saying she had extended her holiday a further two weeks. My HIL was livid. How could a woman he's been with for 50 years turn her back on him like that. What should I do?

Why does it matter to you so much that she wouldn't come back because her ex husband had died? She might have thought she could do with a bit of time away to get her head around it or, as he was an ex husband decided to just do what she wanted with her time!

Good point, it could be their new year turkey but they probably would just buy another.

So rich family cook their spare turkey as well do they?

Maybe your rich two turkey friends could employ a nurse to look after your FIL? I mean they do sound amazingly amenable.

You’ll know better in future OP. Buy and cook two turkeys in future. And just to be in the safe side, cook double potatoes, sprouts and puddings too. Then Christmas will not be sabotaged by your MIL’s scheming.

No! We had to COOK the turkey.

AginNAgin yes we had to cook it

So you had soggy veg with your turkey?

But surely the rest of the meal was ruined while you had to wait to cook the spare turkey.

Also how much damage could come to a turkey just being dropped on the floor??

Cook an entire turkey? When was dinner, midnight?

Well yes, we delayed the dinner until Boxing Day!

when my first born was born, she said she would not be relied on for childcare.’
Imagine not wanting to be obliged to commit to childcare purely because someone else decided to have kids?!
This woman sounds like the devil.

OP you’re being ridiculous.
Rooting for the MIL on this one.

My apologies, just re-read and see he had a heart attack. My apologies for saying he had died. Even less reason for her to rush back then.

So your potatoes, pigs, stuffing balls and veg just sat on the worktop for the 3 hours spare turkey was cooking? Geeze I'm not coming to your house for dinner!

This thread is crackers.

My friends are very rich, they buy two turkeys but only use one

Why? Just in case one of their mates MIL trashed theirs? Very considerate of them.

I think you're being a little unreasonable (although she doesn't sound like an angel either).

She doesn't need to care for her ex-husband (as he's her ex). You are not automatically entitled to free childcare from your MIL (she is not responsible for providing it if she doesn't want to).

You think I'm being unreasonable. If you met this woman you would be crying in the corner

Right..... 🤨

I feel like she should have come back for the man she was with for 50 years

Oh you do, do you? She's been divorced from the man for 2 years, so probably split up for longer.

You sound like bloody hard work tbh.

But sorry, the germy turkey on the marble floor. The rich friends with a spare turkey and the ruined Christmas story is 😂😂

You didn't tell mil she was a carcass did you?

NoSauce I think it could be a New Years Turkey. You

Did you tell your MIL that she was the carcass? Only possible insult for a case of dropped turkey.

I'm crying in the corner now, let alone if I met the MIL 😂

How old is MIL? If they were married for 50 years she must be pretty elderly. Maybe have a bit more compassion eh?

Has anyone got a spare wife to look after the ex FIL? I’d offer mine but i’ve just sent her out to order the Christmas turkeys..

You said they buy two but only use one