To think this is a bit rude?

[Seraphimofthewilderness]

When at the park or any other place where there is equipment to use, why do some people let their kids try to intimidate other kids to get a 'turn'? This happened the other day. My DS (two) got on a small roundabout thing. The moment we did, I had two ten year olds almost on top of it, staring and waiting their 'turn'. Plenty of other stuff to use. I've noticed the odd family doing it at other place too. Not many, most have the grace to go and use something else and not try to get others to get off stuff by making them uncomfortable.

Have decided to ignore this behaviour.

Do people have no sense of themselves?

And no, we aren't hogging stuff. As I said, we'd just got on the bloody roundabout when they started. DS almost kicked them they were standing so close.

If my child was on the swings and another child wanted to use the swing but then went off to play on another piece of equipment, I'd assume they no longer wanted the swing and would push my child for longer than if that child continued to stand by and wait.

I think the other boys are not in the wrong, I think you are.

I hear you. At a park near us is a massive slide. One you have to walk up a hill to get to the top. Some parents just sit and ignore their kids who push in, step in front of the younger ones who almost never get to have a go. Pisses me right off and if my kids are up there I stand and make everyone queue in turn

I'd have told them to jump on with your DS then they could push the bastard thing instead of me.

They weren't muscling in like a couple of cuckoos and pushing yours out, they were waiting for a turn.

You say “we” a lot. Were you on it, too?

Cause they might have been staring at the grown ass woman hogging the roundabout to be fair!

You’re projecting, I think.

Do you not queue OP?

Wow my dd is 10 months. We wait our turn beside the equipment as it is polite and if we didn't they wouldn't know she was wanting a shot or other people would go first. You sound more and more entitled with each post.

I’d have asked if they wanted to hop on and go slowly for my ds. In fact I think they were very polite to wait. Many children would have hopped on. It’s a roundabout so fit a lot of kids on. You are in baby bubble land right now. By the time your ds is 8 (hopefully before) you’ll know how silly your post sounds.

Of course I was on with him- he is two!

I'm boring and old fashioned. I've taught DS to say please and thank you and will teach him to at least try and be considerate.

I really have heard it all now

i find the opposite. Group of older kids playing roughly on roundabout
thingy and parents with toddlers waiting and staring,or even worst stopping the game to jump on then go veeeeryyyy slowly so their precious doesnt get scared.Blind to other kids disappointment.

By the time he’s 10 he’ll be a different kid who knows full well that not everyone is nicely brought up, and he won’t be forever standing politely to one side. He’ll be deal with less-than-considerate kids every day at school.

You, on the other hand, are an adult. I would just tell the other kids that your DC had just got on and he’ll be having a good go so why don’t they bugger off for a bit and do something else? You are allowing yourself to be intimidated by a couple of 10 year olds trying it on.

Sounds like a couple of bullies-in-the-making to me.

You think standing next to something waiting for a turn is bullying? Get a grip.

And no, we aren't hogging stuff.

See, you say that, but I'm struggling to see a scenario where a child standing waiting would bother you unless it had gone on long enough to be awkward that your kids weren't moving on.

Either way it's a perfectly normal thing for a child to do if they particularly want something- they don't want to go off and lose the equipment to someone else.

I'm boring and old fashioned. I've taught DS to say please and thank you

Yeah right. The kids of all these parents disagreeing probably don't know what those words mean.

I've taught DS to say please and thank you and will teach him to at least try and be considerate.

Try to be considerate like waiting his turn for stuff?

Try to be considerate like waiting his turn for stuff?

Of course. But that will not involve standing either side of a two person roundabout, so close the legs of a toddler almost hit him.

It was wierd. Possibly I haven't explained it properly, but this wasn't waiting nicely.

No, maybe not. They were 10. Not biddable toddlers, not adults.

They were trying their luck. Why didn’t you (politely,of course) tell them to bugger off?

You won’t be with your DC all the time when he’s 10. I’d be surprised if he will always be this beautifully well-behaved when he’s out with his mates.

YABU. If they stand too close just ask them to stand back a bit. When you have a ten year old you will understand how childlike they still are. Perfectly acceptable to stand and wait for a turn on something.

I know what you mean OP, that sounds very annoying! I think some parents brains fall out their heads after they have kids. I went swimming today and put the kids' arm bands, floats and noodles at the side while they practised swimming without them, 30 seconds later various parents took them and before I knew it 3 different children had our stuff! It's not a pool where kids stuff is available either so they'd have known they were ours. The looks I got when asking for them back as well, like I'm the cheeky fucker for not letting them keep my kids' things

They were waiting their turn! Unless you are so rude as to continue using play equipment indefinitely when you know someone is waiting to use it, how else do you suggest that a child communicate that they'd like to use it as well?! My youngest would happily spent half an hour on the swings. If a child stands by the swings waiting their turn I'll obviously cut her time short accordingly. If a child is in the park but using other equipment, I'll assume that they don't want to use the swings and keep going until said child comes and stands awaiting their turn...

DD says please and thank you.
Right now she's hysterically crying because we watched A dog's way home. She's considerate and empathetic. She still waits her bloody turn on a piece of equipment she really wants to use because it's the polite thing to do.

I think it sounds like the boys weren't so much waiting their turn but crowding the OP's little boy?

Oops my bad. I always taught my children to stand there and wait their turn if they wish to use equipment and someone was using it. I never knew this was the wrong thing to do!!!🙈

Exactly @GunpowderGelatine
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