To want a patio more than a holiday

[coralpig]

We moved house last summer and are lucky to have a decent sized back garden that gets lots of sun especially in the evenings.

I would really like a patio- DH is less keen. We have a quote which is about what we budgeted for our summer holiday (nothing fancy- a week in France at a family friend’s holiday home).

AIBU to pick the patio so we can enjoy summer, barbecues, maybe eating outside? DH’s argument is that we don’t have young kids (TTC in a few months) so not really watching little ones playing etc and that we are in stressful jobs so holiday is needed.

Holiday every time for me.

I think your dh is right. You can BBQ on grass etc?

I’d go holiday.

I agree with your DH. Plenty of time for patios in the future.

For me a holiday would be priority

Why not compromise and agree to do the patio next year?

Going against the grain but I reckon a patio would be awesome. You’d have it for years to enjoy whereas the holiday is just for a week.

I'd do patio.

I'm with you, I'd get the patio done

I would agree to go on holiday this year, and do the patio next.

I'd be like you, OP. A patio is for keeps - an investment in your property as well as your everyday lifestyle.

A holiday is just a holiday, and over in a fortnight.

I'd go for the patio also tbh.

Patio. What do you open onto at the moment? Is it grass right up to the back door?

Another vote for the patio.

Patio... enjoy all summer not over in a week!

Get the patio done, then book the time off work (hopefully when its sunny) to enjoy it and have a weekend away somewhere maybe?

I would go for the patio and a stay cation this year

We have a couple of slabs outside the back door then just lots of grass.
Thanks for the responses!

Patio every time. Much more enjoyment than a week away

I'd have the holiday if you're TTC next year and get the patio done when you have a baby. You could always get a nice garden seat so you can still enjoy being outside.

If you're ttc I'd go on holiday... could be the last relaxing one you have in a while.

I don't understand why having a patio is something your DH associates with having kids. We used our patio for many years before the children came along.

I'd do patio - place to relax every night, but if DH is so stressed he needs to go abroad to relax, maybe you need to go with that.

Normally I’d say the patio but definitely go for the holiday if you’re going to start TTC- if all goes to plan then it’s probably your last chance to have a truly relaxing break for YEARS! Barbecue on the grass or whatever crappy slabs you have at the moment, the patio can be done exactly as you want it next summer. If you have a newborn or are heavily pregnant next summer then the same can’t be said of the holiday! Or 0% credit card and do both??

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